Every once in a while I'm watching a TV show or a movie, and I see a greater lesson in it that I think applies to Guy Set and what I try to do here every week, which is give advice and share what I've learned or what I'm learning at the moment and

With with the goal of trying to make everybody's lives a little bit easier, a little bit less awkward, and a little bit less alone. To make situations easier, dating, relationships, career, mindset, to make everything just kind of feel less like you're the only one in it. Help expose the things that we don't really ever talk about, that are kind of hard to talk about, that we avoid talking about.

With the hope that by talking about it through something like this, it makes it easier to talk about. And just like the topics that should be talked about, talked about, talked about, talked about. You know what mean? And I was watching the show called Love Island, which I know. You're probably thinking, like, okay, like, where where are you going with this? And you've almost definitely heard of Love Island. Everybody has heard of Love Island. There's a UK version, there's a US version. It's probably one of the most popular shows.

In the entire world right now. It starts in June and it goes till like August. It's like an entire summer show. And if you don't know it, I'm just gonna tell you like the premise. Basically, you watch these 10 strangers, they get put into a villa in Fiji, no phones, no connection to the outside world for like two to three months, and they try to make a connection, they try and fall in love. They do these crazy challenges where they all make out, they all like basically have sex the entire time. And

The whole goal is to find a connection and for America to pick their favorite couple by the end. It's a really crazy concept. I I know. It's insane. And it happens, it's like episodes five or six times a week. They take off like Wednesday and Saturday. It's really a crazy show to keep up with. I just caught up. It took me forever because there's literally an episode every single night. It's a full-time job. Like you can't have plans, you can't have friends, you can't have anything when you're watching Love Island. And

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When I was watching this show, I was like, wait a minute, there are so many things, so many lessons that guys can learn from this show. Like, there is so much in here that if we kind of like set aside all of the craziness, all of the sex and like the makeouts and the challenges and like all of the shit that makes this show like absolutely insane, there is so much in here that guys can learn. Like

This is such a great way to kind of look at all of these situations and all these relationships, all the conversations these people have and use them as a medium to discuss like all of these bigger lessons that I think apply to you and me and everybody else, every other guy who's 18 to 30 to 40 to whatever. Like I think they're the fact that we get to watch these people's lives unravel over the span of like two months.

And we get to see a conversation they have with a girl they like, and then a conversation they have with the friend after they talk to that girl. And then we see the girl talking to her friend about it, and then we see them come together again. And then we see their fights and their makeups and their makeouts and them fall in love and fall for each other and try and make a connection and try and flirt. And like you get to see.

Start to finish of a relationship, and of course, the unraveling of a lot of relationships. You really get to see it all. And there are lessons in here about flirting. There are lessons in here about confidence. There are lessons in here about mindset. There are lessons about what not to do. A ton of lessons about what not to do. Mostly what not to do is what this show is. It's like what not do island. It's also psychological warfare island as well as psychology island and like insanity island. It's just kind of like

There is so much in here to the point where I think I could probably do like a part two of this at some point, maybe toward the end of the show. Cause I think we're like a about the halfway point in it right now. And you don't have to have watched Love Island or know what it is to take away some good lessons from this episode or or or listen along to this episode and and apply some of this to your life. And again, you might be like like, Josh, this is an insane dating show where people go to date a bunch different people and that's crazy.

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Exactly. It is like a firsthand look about how people act, how you can act, how to be better, how to be stronger in relationships, how to make better connections, what not to do. And like we just get to like sit back and watch and judge and learn about the right and the wrong things to do and the right and the wrong ways to be. And it it's like Couple's Therapy Island at the same time too. Like it exposes

All of the bad and the harmful and the gaslighting and all of that stuff, which I'm gonna get into. And it also shows like the best ways to flirt, the good, the loving, the the the good stuff about relationships. And we get to watch it all in real time and see how it affects people and their mindsets and how they react to it. Like they also do confessionals after a lot of different moments in the show. Confessional meaning they they like sit and talk to the camera like I'm talking to you right now.

And they share what they're feeling in that moment, which is really cool. So, as I said, you see them talk to each other, you see them talk to each other about each other, and then you see them also talk to America and the audience. So you three you see like three different angles of how they're feeling. And you get to see a lot of conversations. You get to really see it all, like you never really do.

in in when people fall in love and in when people are trying to fall in love or trying to make a connection or see if it doesn't work or if it does work and everything behind the scenes that you really never get to see. There are just so many lessons that guys can take away from this. And it's one of those moments where like the answers are in front of us a lot of the time and within these shows for us to dissect and and learn.

And this is actually the second installment of this series I started on Guy Set called What Guys Can Learn from Blank. This one is obviously What Guys Can Learn from Love Island. I did one last month called What Guys Can Learn from Off Campus. And it is one of my most popular episodes I've ever done, which is really cool. And it's just great to see that that concept resonated with so many people. because I think there is so much in there. And being able to use a TV show or a movie.

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to talk about these really important tok topics that guys avoid or don't really talk about is is really cool. And and I think it's a great way to it it feels like a little bit of a less serious way to talk about things at the same time as it brings to light topics that we don't know how to talk about that well. So by talking about them through Love Island or off campus or whenever whatever the next thing that I find to talk about with you.

I just think it's it's a fun way to do this. And there's a lot to say. There's a lot to say. Buckle up, cause you're in for a good one. And of course, like this is dramatized and these are not normal people. Like these are this is a different type of animal to go on a show like this, and and expose yourself to a world like to the world like this. But there is a lot to learn from these people's behaviors or these characters' behaviors and

Especially how people react to what they do and what they say. And using this as like a backdrop to talk about a lot of these next topics I'm gonna talk about feels less serious when in reality these are really important conversations for guys to have and to hear and really take in. A lot of the times this show is like a guy's guide on what not to do in relationships. It's like the guy's guide on exactly how not to be.

And sometimes it's how to be, but a lot of the times it's not. So strap in. I've got a lot to say. The first one I wanna talk about, the first lesson I think we can take away from Love Island is gaslighting. I wanna talk about gaslighting. I guess that's not a lesson, but that's a thing I wanna talk about. A a very important topic that I don't know if I've really ever touched on on guys it.

And I think a lot of the time people don't know that they're gaslighting, or nobody has ever sat them down and been like, dude, you are gaslighting that girl. Like you are making her feel crazy. Gaslighting is basically like the idea of making somebody feel crazy by like telling them like it was just a joke. Like it's not that it's not that serious. Like you're taking this too seriously. Like when in fact it actually is serious. When in fact, like what you just said is a really harmful thing to say and you're making them feel crazy. Gaslighting is just making somebody feel crazy for thinking

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thinking and feeling the way they do and being like, it's not that deep, like it's not that serious, like you're you're overreacting, you're doing too much. Like you're taking this into you're you're feeling too hard. Like no, like and there's one couple, the guy is Zach and she's Kata. And the purpose is, as I said, to make a really strong connection and meet everybody and like see, explore different options. And until you're closed off, they call it like until you confirm that you are a couple, like you can talk to whoever you want. So it's basically like you can

Date around and see who you like, see who you vibe with, until you decide that you guys are a strong enough couple and and that is your that's your couple. So Kada comes up to Zach and she's like, hey, like what I think his name's Bryce. Yeah, Bryce. Bryce wanted to talk. Of course his name's Bryce. Bryce wanted to talk to me. so like I ended up talking to him and like he got really like jealous. Like you could, you could see it, like the way he was like his body language, like he like kind of hiding, and he was like,

So you like Bryce? And he's British. That's not a good British accent. But like he like, So like Bryce? Like, okay, I like so so I'll go talk to Melanie then. And like immediately, like, didn't even give her the chance to like share how she was feeling. Like he was just like, So I'm gonna like, I'm gonna do this then. And she's like, No, but that's not what I'm saying. Like, if you and and you can tell that she wants to close off. Like she really likes him enough that she wants to be in relationship. And that's the thing about like seeing relationships like this. Like from a bird's eye view, like we get to see like exactly how each person's feeling, but when they're

In a couple, it's obviously much harder because you're trying to read what that person's thinking and you're trying not to come on too strong, but you're also trying to like be serious because this you're trying to make a connection and you want people to like you, especially like America. So you're trying to appease appease the world, but at the same time, you're also like probably for the most part forgetting that there's cameras watching you all the time. At least that's how the lot of these people are acting. Like they forget that there's cameras everywhere, because of how insane a lot of them are. Like this the like this thing Zach said. Like instead of being like,

Okay, like I think you should explore that. Like, I might then explore things too. Like his immediate reaction was like, Okay, then I'm gonna go talk to your best friend Melanie and see if I like her. And like it was such an insecure, like jealous thing to do. And she was like, That's not what I'm saying. He's like, I'm joking. Like, I'm just kidding. Like, it's not that serious. And you could tell that she was like really taken back by it. Like, she's like, wait, what whoa, like I

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He asked me to talk. I didn't pull him for a chat. They call it pulling for a chat. So if I say that throughout here, it's that's what they call. Like when you go up to a girl at a bar and like, hey, like I'd love to like I hey, I think you're really cute. Like that's that's their definition of pulling for a chat. You like take them out of the group and go talk to them separately and all these like crazy locations and names, like all the feels like whatever. That's that's no neither here nor there. But anyway, he asked her to talk, and he his immediate response was just like being really insecure and jealous and like

Then gaslighting her into being like, it's not that serious. It's not that deep. Like, don't take it so seriously. Like, that's such a bad way to be. Like, if you have done that before, okay, but like now you know that that is not how to act. That is like one of the worst things to do in response to somebody is making them feel like their emotions are not valid, making them feel like what they have said isn't that serious and how they feel isn't that deep, and like.

Telling them that again and again. Like it makes them feel crazy for feeling a certain way. This is just one of the many examples of this specific couple, but like the way he then immediately responded, like it's not that deep. Like I was just kidding. Like I'm joking. Like, can't you take a joke? Like, it really was just like, whoa. Like, that is actually the the precipice of me making this episode. I was just like, that is a lesson that I think I need to talk about because that is exactly what not to do. That is how not to be. That is how not to treat somebody.

And if you have done that in the past, now you know not to do that. And if you ever catch yourself doing that, correct it quickly because it's a really bad thing to do and it's a bad way to make somebody feel. And it makes them feel like they are not valid for feeling the way they feel. And that sucks. And it's just a shitty way to be. and overall, like the show really highlights a lot of the people's jealo jealousies and insecurities and immaturities. And

Being jealous and insecure is one of the bet the whoa, one of the worst ways you can be in a relationship. Like being secure and and trusting somebody is like the foundation for a strong and good and healthy relationship. Trust is the most important thing in a relationship. And if you don't have trust, you don't really have anything. If you don't trust the person that you are seeing

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to go out and not go make out with somebody or go flirt with somebody else or go like leave you, then you don't really have anything. And I I really do believe that is the most important thing any relationship could have, anybody could have in a relationship. And the show really highlights that. Like the the fact that, of course, it's a it's really psychological warfare island. So like it breeds distrust because you don't know if the person you're

Liking is gonna go talk to that person or leave you for that person. But at the same time, you have to believe that your couple is strong enough. You have to believe that what you're saying to this person, what they're saying back to you, is the truth, and they're not lying to you. And that is one of the biggest takeaways from this show is that trust is the most important thing in a relationship. It's the foundation for any and every strong relationship. Trust breeds security, distrust.

Breeds insecurity. So if you are doing things in a relationship or i in starting out dating to make somebody feel like they can't trust you, like you're talking to a lot of other other people, or you're not showing them the love that they that they desire or what you think they need. Like if you're not responding a lot or or taking long hours and days between responding and making them feel like you don't like them that much, like

That is one of the things I think everybody can take away from this show is that trust breeds security, distrust breeds insecurity. If you are doing things in your relationship to make somebody feel like they can't trust you, that is the worst way to act. That is the worst way to be. But if you are doing things that is are making somebody feel like they trust you and they can believe in you and they can back you, and that when you go out, they know you're gonna be totally good. And when you're away for a while,

They miss you because they want to be with you, not because they don't know what you're doing or what you're getting you're getting yourself into or what you're getting up to. Like these are things that are well within our control. In starting dating, in early stages, in late stages, in way later in a relationship, all throughout a relationship. One of the biggest things we can control is how much we help somebody to trust us, how much more.

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Trust we can build with somebody else. Now I know it's situational. I know relationship to relationship. I know people have had different experiences. People, of course, have been cheated on, have been lied to, have been led to believe somebody and then completely been broken of that trust. But whatever you're in now is well within your control. It is your relationship, and it is completely up to you to build that bridge of trust with somebody else. Like it is well within your control to do whatever you can to.

To make that person trust you and believe that they should trust you, not make them believe that they should trust you. And that all comes with how you act, how you are, what you say, and and how you really act when they turn around or what they what you say behind their back or what you say to other people, because it always comes back. Like it always comes back. So that's probably the biggest lesson of all of this. And I'm saying it now early, but it's just like.

Trust is the most important and foundational element to any strong and good relationship. The immaturity a lot of guys have is really highlighted in this show. Just like emotional immaturity. And I think that it's also one of these like topics that somebody doesn't realize or we don't realize that we're not as mature as we think or as we thought. But like you really see it in a show like this when they're

response is immediately gaslighty or jealous or insecurity. Like that all comes from immaturity. And I think that is just like I I don't have like a huge takeaway from that one. It's just something to like be aware of about yourself or about other people is that like I don't think we are as mature as we think we are. And the guys are a lot less mature than the girls are, like for sure in this show. I don't know if that's a

bigger takeaway or something that I can like generalize to all guys, but for the most part, like it probably is. I talked about that recently with like dating and age gaps, like a younger guy dating an older girl, that girls are already much more mature. So dating an older girl, like you you have a lot more to measure up to. And I I just I think it's like a thing that guys are just less mature and it takes them longer to like get smarter and realize things. well said, Josh.

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But just something to think about, be aware of that this show really highlights a lot of these guys who are 21, 24, 28, their emotional like lack of maturity. And I think this is probably most highlighted when somebody is telling someone like something they don't like about them or what they're doing or their behavior or their way they're acting. That is not an invitation.

To throw back something you don't like about them. Like that is not a moment where you can be like, well, I don't like this about you. well, you're doing this. Like, I don't like what you do this. Like, that is not that time. That is like so that is not my job. That is like the Helen from Drake and Josh. That is like the farthest thing from how you should be responding in that moment. If somebody is telling you there is something that you do often that bothers them or something that they they wish you did differently.

That you can fix and most things you absolutely can fix. The best way to respond to that is with sincerity, with honesty, with apology, with being like, I'm I'm so sorry I'm I've done that or that I do that. I'll really work on changing that. I'll really work on fixing that moving forward. I I'm really gonna work on that. Like, that is how you respond to that. How not to respond to that is like.

Playing tit for tat, being like, you don't like I do this? Well, I don't like that you do this. well, you don't like how I do this. Like, I don't like when you do this and that and this and that. It is not tit for tat. This is not a boxing match. Like, this is not a moment for you to throw something back that you don't like about them. And that happens a lot in this show. So when somebody is telling you that they don't like something you do or the way you're acting, the way you're behaving, like listen. And and if you like them, like really listen because that's important and it's something that you can change and you should change.

And it's it's something that will increase the trust and the foundation for this relationship when you do make a change or when you do change your behavior. The next one I want to talk about is confidence. And I think this show really highlights that girls love when guys go up to them. They love when a guy has enough confidence to pursue them and chase them and go after them. And and a chase is the wrong word, but like go after them and go up to them and say,

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Hey, like I'd love to talk to you. Hey, I think you're really cute. I'd love to get to know you better. And then, like, from there, asking questions is so important. And I've talked about this before too, but having something to say in those conversations and leading with confidence and leading with like that emotional maturity and that like you genuinely care and you want to get to know them is great. And it's something that we can all learn better and and do better at.

First of all, confidence is really hard. of course. Like it's much easier for these guys who are six foot two and fucking jacked to walk up to a girl and be like, hey, I'd love to talk to you. Or hey, can I pull you for a chat? Like it's much easier for them than somebody who's five nine and three quarters, five ten. Thank you very much. to walk up to somebody and and say, I think you're really cute. Like I'd love to get to know you better. or I'd love to buy you a drink, whatever it is, whatever you're gonna say to somebody. Like it's much easier, and and I'm acknowledging the the gap in a six foot the literal gap of a six foot three, like

Huge black man and me. yeah. So obviously that's there. But there is a lesson to be taken away from the fact that throughout this entire show, and even some of the guys who aren't as attractive or as strong or whatever, that confidence is one of the things that girls love. And it's one of the best ways to get somebody's attention and look attractive and be attractive, is just having confidence.

And it's not easy. It doesn't come overnight. You're not gonna wake up and just be more confident, but you at the same time can be. You can fake it a little bit until you make it and just say, you know what? Fuck it. I am gonna go up to her and say hi. You know what? I am gonna go for that. I am gonna say this thing and and do this thing, even if it ends up with me being rejected, even if it ends up with me being turned away. I'm still gonna try because the worst thing that happens is I put myself out there and nothing comes from it. So I am gonna try. And I think that.

Confidence is one of the most attractive things that anybody can have. The next one I want to talk about is that you should not say you feel something or some way about somebody if you don't. And I think this is a trap a lot of people fall into because they think it's the right thing to do, or that they're supposed to say it, or that they should say it because that's the the way the other person feels about you. And it's probably the worst thing you can do is.

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Tell somebody you feel some way about them when you actually don't just because they do. Because it just leads somebody on more and it leads them to believe that you actually do feel that way because why wouldn't they? You said it. You you told them you feel that way. So of course they're gonna believe you actually do. So don't tell somebody you like them if you actually don't, or if you're not sure yet, or if you're still up in the air. Don't make a commitment when you're not ready to fully commit to it, if that makes sense.

And in other words, don't lie, you know. In other words, don't tell a lie. And there's no reason to rush feelings or emotions or connections if they're not there yet. Like they will either come or not. So don't make them up because you feel like you have to, or you think she wants you to. I choked, sorry. Or you think she wants you to. And that happens, I think, a lot of the time. So make sure you actually feel the way you're

saying. Like make sure you're you're and there's of of course there's no way to like fully know if this is gonna work or if it's gonna be forever, but like make sure you actually want to commit to them or you actually really do like them when you are saying it because I think it just gets you into shit and it leads them on and it and it's not good. It's not good. the next one I want to talk about is being clear about what you want and what you're looking for.

If you're looking for a relationship, I think you can say that. Like, of course, not on the first date or the second date or the third date, but if it comes to a point where you're in a conversation, like, hey, what are we? What is this? Like, I think that is a moment to actually say what you want, what you're feeling. Like, if you really do want something, say it. And if you don't, don't. You know, it it it kind of builds off of the last one. Like, only say what you really want and what you're feeling.

And don't lead somebody on to believe something different. Being clear about your intentions in dating, I think is also one of the best things we can do. And one of like the best ways to create trust is kind of the through line of this episode is that creating trust is the most important thing. So if you're clear about that and you're honest about that and you're real, I think that starts to breed that trust, that starts to create that level of trust.

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I talked about a little bit ago asking questions when you go up to somebody. I think not losing that level of curiosity in a relationship is really important. And also in early dating, when you're just starting out, being curious about what the other person is feeling, what they're thinking, what they're doing, how their day is going, how the day at work was, how things are with their roommate, or dinner, or what they're making for dinner, or like even the most mundane things.

Continuing to be curious, continuing to ask questions, staying like curious about them and their thoughts, feelings, and how they see the world is such a great way to be. And this show, Love Island, shows some really tough, awkward conversations where people have nothing to say and no questions to ask somebody. And they're just like, tell me about you. What you're looking for? Like, huh? So

There's a million things you can ask somebody, but it comes from being deeply curious about them and and it comes from really liking them. So asking about their family life, asking about their siblings, where they're from, what they like to do, where they like to eat, what TV shows they like, what movies they like, what who they like listening to, what they like to read, what activities they like, what sports they play, what they like to watch, what like there's there's so many what they do in their downtime, what they wish they could do more of, like

There are so many questions that you could ask. And there's always follow-up questions. So don't move on to the next one before you're done with that one. Like all just just let the conversation go and flow as as it goes. Like don't rush anything. You don't have to get to know every single thing about a person you're going on a date or a two dates with. Like at some point you will, but staying curious and letting that like curiosity desire drive the conversation is like such a good way to.

continue conversations, show somebody you're interested and like make somebody feel like you really like them and that you're really into them. and this show highlights a lot of awkward conversations, a lot of fucking nothing. So ask questions. It's something that every guy can probably do more of asking questions and asking how's your day going, what you're up to, what you want to do, who you wanna be, all that stuff.

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Every morning on this show, the guys make girls breakfast. It's just like become like a mainstay thing. Like while they get ready and do their makeup, the guys go downstairs and like make them breakfast and bring it up to them. I think that is kind of a funny thing, but at the same time, it really shows how small acts can really be big acts. Like doing something as small and mundane as making breakfast or bringing it to them and telling them they look pretty and cute and giving them a kiss. Like

That is like what girls like. That is like the playbook. That is what to do. They are showing that on that they're they're showing that to us. Like the way that the girls react every time a guy brings them a plate of like bad looking sausage and eggs. They're like, like that is so sweet. That is so nice. And it does seem kind of dense or shallow, but I think it really does show that like these small acts, small things going to pick s pick up coffee sir for somebody or

picking up the thing that they need picked up or getting the thing for them or buying them that small thing, buying them that little thing that you saw that made you think of them. Like that goes a long way. That really shows that a small act can be a really big act that can be really meaningful, that can really move things forward. And it may seem small, it may seem little, it may seem meaningless, but it really does mean something. So

Next time you see something that makes you think of her, send her a picture of it. If it's a dog on the street or if it's a sign that you saw, or if it's a billboard, or if it's a commercial, or whatever it is, you saw something online, send it to her. Say this maybe think of you. When you see two people together, be like us. Like they love that type of stuff. And of course, who doesn't love that type of stuff? Who doesn't love being thought of?

And getting sent something that says, This made me think of you, or this reminded me of you, or I thought you'd think this is funny, or I thought you'd think this was cute. Like, who doesn't love that? And I think the show does a really good job of of showing that small things can be really meaningful.

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I think also Love Island really shows that guys don't really talk about their feelings and how they're feeling about somebody else as well as they could or as much as they could. I think a lot of relationships in this show are left up to interpretation, not just of the audience, because we know a little bit more than the other other person does, but it's really left up into interpretation of the other person, of like, do they really like me?

Do they really like commit to me? Do they want to be committed to me? Like what are they feeling? What are they thinking? And I think we could all do a better job of sharing what's going on or how we're feeling about somebody, saying, I really like you. I really like this. I like the way this is going. I think you're amazing. I think you're beautiful. And I wanna be with you. And I I I really want this to work. And I can see this really going far. And and I just think talking about your feelings instead of like letting somebody else

have to interpret and wonder what you're thinking and feeling is another great way to be in relationships. And this show does a good job of showing that we don't do enough of that. We don't talk about that enough or share that enough. Of course, again, you're not gonna do that on a first, second, third date, but sometime when you're you're really starting to like somebody, tell them, share. Like let them know how you're feeling. I think that goes a long way.

Communication is just one of the best things all of us can improve on and get better at. And I don't think it's something you ever really stop improving on or getting better at. I don't think there is a moment when you're like, I'm a really great communicator, and there is no more work to be done here. I have done it all. I have reached the summit of communication. Like, I'm good. There is always more to learn. There is always more to do, and there is always more to say, and and different ways to say it and and improv.

you know, different ways to have conversations. because there's different situations every single day or every single week or or in life. Like nothing is ever going to require the exact same amount of communication or nothing is ever going to be handled the exact same way. So we can all always be getting better at communication and our communication styles and how we talk about our feelings and how we talk about what we're thinking.

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and I think that is something that we can all continuously improve on.

And the last thing I wanna talk about and one of the most everything I've said is one of the most important. I'm sorry, I I'm really bad at that, but I'm working on it. I'm working on it, babe. One of the most thing I didn't want to say important, one of something else that Love Island really showed me and that I think guys can take away from this show is to make sure the girl you're seeing or the girl you like or the girl you love feels that.

Make sure she feels loved. Make sure you let her know and you continue to let her know and that she feels seen and that she feels loved. Everybody in Love Island, every single guy can work on that. They are all really bad at that. None of them are making any of these girls feel much love or making them feel like they are seen or heard or like that what they say matters. And

Take that away from this show. Make sure that the girl you're seeing, the girl you like, the girl you love, the girl you want knows that, knows how much you like her, knows how much you love her, knows how into into her you are, and that that doesn't ever that never goes away, that you always do that, that that doesn't die. And that spark that you felt once before or that you felt the first time you met her or in the honeymoon phase or whenever, that that spark never dies, that you continue to keep that spark lit.

That is the episode. Thank you so much for listening to Guy Said, a guy's guide to what should be talked about. I'm Josh. I'm 26 years old, and I'm here every single week, every single Tuesday to talk about what should be talked about for guys. If you like this episode, I really hope you did. Please like, subscribe to this podcast. Five stars review the 24, five stars, not four, not three, two, not one. It's five stars. Thank you so much so much for that. I really, really appreciate that.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What can guys actually learn from Love Island?
Love Island offers surprising lessons about confidence, communication, trust, emotional maturity, flirting, and the common mistakes people make when dating and building relationships.

Why is trust so important in a relationship?
Trust creates security. When both people feel they can rely on each other, relationships become healthier, communication improves, and unnecessary jealousy and insecurity are less likely to grow.

How can I be more confident when talking to someone I like?
Confidence comes from taking action, not waiting until you feel fearless. Starting conversations, asking thoughtful questions, and accepting that rejection is part of dating helps build genuine confidence over time.

What are the biggest dating mistakes guys make?
Some of the most common mistakes include poor communication, emotional immaturity, making someone feel unheard, avoiding honest conversations, and saying things they don't genuinely mean.

Do small gestures really make a difference in dating?
Yes. Simple acts like checking in, remembering small details, sending something that reminded you of them, or doing thoughtful things consistently often have a much bigger impact than grand romantic gestures.