The End of Year Resume

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Hi guys, welcome back to guys set a guy's guide to what should be talked about in thinking about what I wanted to do for the last two episodes of the year. I always like to talk about like resolutions and things to prepare yourself for the new year and to get yourself ready for January. And I'm a big fan of setting goals and setting ways to actually make your goals happen and, and like checklists and writing things down as if you've followed this podcast or listened to episodes before, like you've definitely heard me talk about things like that.

And first and foremost, I wanted to give you one tip that I just did myself and I think it's a really good idea to do at the end of the year. Whether you're thrilled in your job or not and you're super happy and you're not going anywhere or you're not at all. I think it's a really good time to update your resume and write out all the things you're doing in your job and think back on the year or however long you've been in your job. One year, two years, a month, six months, no matter the time, no matter how long you've been in your job.

I think it's a really good time right now to look at what you've done for your job so far and look at what you've done in your job and what you've learned and the actual things you're doing and update your resume with those things. Three or four bullet points that summarize what you're doing in your job and just will be helpful. Like think that is always helpful to keep updating your resume because we only ever updated our resume when we are looking for a new job or when we want.

to do something new. And that makes sense because you don't usually send your resume out otherwise. You're not looking at your resume otherwise, but when you do need it and when you need it to be refreshed, it's never refreshed and it's never ready. And then you have to spend a lot of time thinking about what you've done and all the things that you did in that job. And it becomes a lot harder. It becomes like this really annoying task that you have to do. So while it's all fresh and while you're literally doing your tasks and you're doing your day to day work, like you're, you know what you're doing best and there's no better time to update it.

So I was thinking about that and I wanted to share that because I'm in the process of doing that right now and I'm not going anywhere in my job. I'm actually really happy. It's probably the most happy I've ever been in a job so far. I've only I I only had two jobs and I've only been in like the workforce for three years and two and half years now three years now. So to say that I'm the happiest I've been now is like is like I don't know it's kind of stupid because it's it's really early in my career but that's true. Like I am the most happy I've been in a job and I feel the most successful that I've felt in a job and most like.

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Like I'm actually doing something for the first time and making an impact and helping the company or hurting sometimes or most, hopefully most of the time helping the company. so that's, so I'm not going anywhere. That's not to say that I'm not updating it for the purpose of leaving or looking for another job. I just think it's, there's no better time to update it than when you're in it. And then that made me think about my life resume and my year resume and what this past year has looked like for me.

And I thought of this thing that I'm calling an end of year resume. And I wanted to share that with you on here. And that's what this whole episode is going to be about. And it's this idea of looking back at the past year of your life and thinking about what you did this year, like at a glance, or being able to stand back from a distance and see what you've done this year.

And I want you to make, and I'm gonna do the same thing, I want us to make a end of year resume. And that looks like a lot of things. That can be literally whatever you want. And I'm just gonna give you some ideas and share some of the things that I've done for my end of year resume. And then you can decide what you wanna take from this and what you wanna do with it and then create your own. So some of the questions that, or the prompts that I, questions and prompts, same thing, that I thought about when I created my end of year resume.

was what trips did you take? What friends did you make? What relationships did you start? What relationships did you end? What did you learn from those relationships? Who did you learn from this year? Who made your life better and who made your life worse? What are the things that you did that made your days better? And then just taking stock of those things. And those are the types of questions that I started to answer.

And around this time of the year, your company or your boss usually gives you an end of year review or an end of year like check in review. It's not a check in where they tell you the things you've been doing right. Things have been doing wrong. These can improve on and we don't do that for ourselves. We don't give ourselves an end of year review or look back at what the year has been and look back at what we've done this year or who we've become or what we've learned about ourselves. And

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We don't do that. Like why, mean, why would we first of all, like that we there's no framework to do it. And it's not something that we've just like, it's not something we've been trained to do or that there's scheduled time to do. So we just don't do that. We don't give ourselves an end of year review. So I think in a way, this is kind of the opportunity to do that. An end of year resume, an end of year review, looking back at what your year has been and who you've become. And I'm going to share some of those end of year resume bullet points that I came up with.

from those prompts specifically, just to give you kind of like a framework for it and what I've done for it. So where's somewhere that you went this year that you loved? I just use kind of the first thing that came to my mind. I went a bunch of different places that I loved, but I picked two specifically that came first to mind. So the first one was I went on a canoe trip with a bunch of my friends over the summer. We canoed down the Delaware River. It was about 13. No, that wouldn't make any sense because canoes hold two. It was about 12 or 14 of us. I'm not remembering the number.

And we all did a camping trip. one friend Pat organizes it. We've done it now for two years in a row. And we take out seven or six canoes, depending on the number of people there actually was, on the river. And we just spend three days canoeing. And I think it's like, I don't know, 60 miles or so. Maybe that's too many. But we camp for two nights and we do bonfires at night. And I brought, of course I brought.

s'mores, brought like marshmallows and graham crackers and chocolate. And we all just like sat and drank around the fire and told stories and played games and told jokes. And like, was, it's genuinely one of my favorite weekends of the year. And specifically this year is one of my favorite weekends of the year. And in thinking about where I traveled or what I did this year, that was one of the first things that came up for me. it was just an amazing weekend and it felt like such a, a totally different thing from what I would usually do. wasn't like,

Glamorous obviously wasn't glamorous. It wasn't a glamorous travel weekend whatsoever We were literally sleeping on wood planks and in sleeping bags and didn't shower for three days and it was just such an amazing time with my friends and I like it was the best vibes and the really one of my favorite weekends I've had especially with our really busy lives and everybody kind of gets a little bit separated throughout the year and work and in jobs and some of my friends are taking tests and

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Some of my friends are in relationships. A lot of them seem to be really relationships right now and just people grow apart as time goes on and that weekend specifically like there's no phones because like there's no connection so there's literally no ability to be on your phone and it's just us there and it's just really like a time to reconnect with everybody and spend time together and like I feel like those times in life are really not

times we get ever because there's always somebody on a phone checking an email responding to work responding to a girlfriend or a family member or a friend or somebody like there were always so especially me like I'm always in my phone and I'm always responding or online and I'm always connected to that and this weekend gave me a time to completely disconnect and just be with my friends and it was just really special. So that's the first one and then the second one was a trip I went on with my family to London and I'd always wanted to be in London. I've always wanted to see London.

and just going there and getting to go there and spend time there and explore and travel and see the sights and just be there was one of my favorite times of the year as well. So that's my answer to somewhere I traveled this year. You can answer this question in literally any way you want. It does not have to be a trip you took this year. You didn't have to go on a trip to answer this question. It can be a night out you spent with your girlfriend or with friends out to dinner, like something that really resonated with you and one of those nights that just stuck with you. It doesn't have to be

anything specific, can be literally whatever you want to make it, that's just a prompt for the question. The next one is, what is something you watched, listened to, or read this year that you really loved? And for me, something I read this year was a book called Big Magic, and it is by this amazing author named Elizabeth Gilbert. I've never read a book from her before. She wrote the book Eat, Pray, Love. If you've ever heard of it, it's also a movie. I never read it or watched the movie, still haven't to this day, and I don't think I will, I'm not that interested in it, but that book specifically I found

through Tik Tok through somebody talking about how like this book changed their perspective on creativity and how they work and their job and all that stuff. And it was just on a day that I watched that where I needed a new book or I was really interested in finding a new book at that time. It was at the beginning of summer and that's when I usually read the most. And I was like, yeah, I'm going to go buy that. So I went to a bookstore, which is like a very archaic thing to do. And I went and bought this book. I usually buy books on Kindle and read them on my

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on my Kindle and for some reason I was just like I want to go read this in like a physical copy I feel like I'll like it and I opened the first page and it was like signed by I think it was the author I couldn't really read the signature but I thought that was pretty cool and I just thought it was like a sign that I should read that book and actually spend time with it and I ended up reading that book in like a day and a half in two days I was just enthralled by it and one of the biggest things I took away from that book was finding a spark of creativity and not letting that go and like there's there's those times

And that's not to be creativity by the way, like it can be a spark in anything. And there's times in the day or the times in your week when like you feel really inspired by something or you feel a calling to something and you may not understand that feeling or know what it is in the moment and it goes away pretty quickly and you don't really feel that again. And it's about finding those moments in your day or in your week or in your life and catching them and catching those sparks and bringing them with you and creating habits.

and creating rituals around those sparks and finding ways to keep those alive. And I just found that in a time when I think it resonated with me immensely and I've just taken it with me ever since. And that can be anything in your life. Like that could be, like if you find a spark when you're running and you feel really good, a spark can be in anything. Like the spark of feeling really good when you run.

making rituals around that and making ways in your day or in your week to go for a run or if you like going on walks. Another thing for me like when I go on a walk it clears my head and it it allows me to think freely and kind of think through and process my emotions and my thoughts and I have now made a ritual around that like I walk to work every day and I walk home from work every day and I'm very privileged to able to do that. My office isn't so far from my apartment. It's like a 30 minute walk each way and I'm so grateful I can do that because

It's been a way that I've been able to incorporate that spark into my day. So it's those types of things. There's a lot of different ways that we can do that. And that book really gave a name to that for me. I didn't know I didn't really have a name for it before. So that book is something that I really loved this year. And then the thing that I watched that I really loved this year is called Young Sheldon. It's a TV show that I absolutely love. It is based on the character from the Big Bang Theory, Sheldon Cooper.

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I never watched the Big Bang Theory. also similar to that book's similar to the author of that book that is known for that book. I never read that book and I've never watched the Big Bang Theory and I don't plan on it. It just has doesn't appeal to me. But Young Sheldon is completely different. It is about a kid who is and I know it's based on the main character. So you would be like it's not completely different. It's literally based on the character it is because it's about this kid who is a genius in a family where the rest of them are obviously not geniuses.

It is so funny and it's so heartwarming and there's so many great little lessons in it and life lessons And I absolutely love it. Don't knock it till you try it. Don't knock it till you watch it I'm telling you don't make fun of me until you watch it because I I can guarantee you'll like it everybody who I've Recommended it to that has actually gone and watched it has loved it. So that's for me young child And I'm also watching that right now. There's been a lot of other shows that I've watched I think next week's episode is gonna be a compilation of things that I

really love from this year similar to those two things. I've in thinking about this question I narrowed it down to these two for this episode but I really want to do a broader episode on all of these things because I loved a lot of things this year and I want to recommend or share a lot of them. So that will be next week's episode. But for now I'm going to say those two because I watched Young Sheldon last night and I read this book this past summer. Both of those things are just fresh in my in my mind and next week will be a bigger

list of all of those things. And the next question is, who's somebody you've spent time with this year that really influenced you? And this can be anything. This can be somebody you've spent time with in the past year that you've also spent time with for your entire life, like a family member, like your mom, your dad, your sibling, anybody. For me, it is my boss this year. I went into a new job in January, started in January, January 3rd, and or second, I don't know, sometime around there.

So it's been about a year of this job, I guess in January it'll be a year. And I felt like I was taking a big risk with this job. I felt like I was kind of taking a big leap in leaving my first job, which felt really comfortable and kind of cushy and just felt like I had it really easy. Like I knew what was expected of me and I was meeting that expectation day in and day out without a ton of effort and a ton of work. And I could

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do the work that I wanted to get done and I could do the work that they wanted me to get done and then just go about my day and kind of do whatever else I wanted to do. So I'm super grateful for that job. Like I really, really loved it. I made some really great friends and I'm grateful for that experience. I've kept in touch with a lot of the people that I was worried I wouldn't keep in touch with. Obviously less than I hoped. I think it's really hard and maybe I'll talk about that at some time in the future too. Like that it is really hard to keep in touch with your old coworkers, especially when you have new ones and you are also

keeping in touch with your old friends and your new friends and there's just it's a lot of keeping in touch to do and that is one of the biggest things I was worried about in leaving that job and starting a new job that I would lose all of the friends that I made and for sure I have lost some of them because it's it's nearly impossible to keep up with everybody but I have kept in touch with the ones that I really have wanted to and the ones that wanted to keep in touch with me too it's a two-way street and any of these cases. Wow I do not know what the fuck I'm talking about right now I'm on a I'm on a different ramble than I expected to be.

I was talking about my boss and that I learned a lot from her that I was influenced by her. I guess I'll get it. I'll get back there. But when I took that job, I was really nervous about it. I did a whole episode about I think I called it I quit my job. So fucking dramatic. And then I did an episode like starting a new job. And both of those things were kind of about the experience at the time I was no they were literally about the thing as I was experiencing it, which is kind of

crazy to like process it on a podcast. I haven't listened back to those episodes. don't know what the hell I said, but I know that I have a much better view of both of those things now that I'm a year out from both of them. I left my first job probably about a year ago today and then started the new one in like two weeks from today a year ago. So looking back now, I have a lot better understanding of those experiences.

and could probably give a lot better advice on those topics than I did then. That's kind of why a podcast like this is cool because I can keep going back to those experiences and sharing more advice and more perspective on them from different times in my life. Kind of like the, I just did an episode I think on, I don't know, dating was it that I just talked about? Hold on, I'm going back to look at the episode that I talked about. What the fuck did I talk about?

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I did an episode on living on your own for the first time and it was episode 80. It was about two weeks ago and it's called living on your own for the first time. And I talked about how I have a much different perspective on living on my own now that I've done it for two years than I did when I first made an episode about that. And I can come back on there and on here and give a much different perspective. Not better, not worse, just a different perspective. Probably with probably a better perspective. Yeah, no better for sure.

because I have more experience with it and I've learned a lot more with more time. So that's a very similar thing to leaving a job and starting a new one as well. So maybe I'll refresh those topics too in the new year. Yeah, I will. Why not? And that just also gives me more episodes to do. So that's cool. But what was I saying? Jesus Christ. ADHD through the roof today. Let me have some water. my boss. That's what I talking about. I joined a Zoom with my boss for the first time.

like around this month last year when I first met her and I immediately felt a connection to her and immediately felt like this woman knew what the fuck she was talking about I was like I haven't met somebody like this who knows this I haven't met somebody like this in the industry that I'm really curious to be in and the industry that I really want to be in who just gets it and can talk about

the things that I'm interested in in a level that I'm interested in talking about them at and just we connected on that first and foremost and she liked that I had a podcast and I think that showed her an initiative that she didn't expect from a 22 year old, 23 year old kid who she had no idea who the hell I was or why the CEO found me at that time and why he was interested in me. And I think she came in.

to that meeting a little bit skeptical of what I was and who I was and why I was in front of her because she's I was gonna say her age but then I realized I shouldn't do that on a public podcast but she's older than me not much yeah she's a lot older than me but in a respectful way she's older than me and a lot wiser a lot a lot wiser older and wiser but not that much older but fuck I'm gonna

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If she hears this, I don't know, can you talk about women's age? I don't think so because they don't like it. But I think getting older is a really nice thing and it's a great thing and it's something we should all be grateful for. But again, you can't say women's age. That's not a good thing. So anyway, she's a, I don't know. I'm not gonna say anything else about her age, but she's wiser than me for sure. And she's been in the industry for a lot longer. That's how I'll say it. She's been in the industry and has a lot more expertise than I do.

and just has had a lot of work experience. Those are great ways to say it. Now I think I've dug myself out of that hole that I dug myself into for no reason. She has a lot of has had a lot of work experience. She's had an illustrious career so far. Wow. That is that is a fucking I've I've shoveled myself back up and then padded the I pat the soil and planted a seed on top of it. And now it's a plant. She has had an illustrious career and I knew from the first time meeting her.

that I was going to learn a lot from her or that I had the opportunity to learn a lot from her. And she has so far exceeded my expectations from what I expected from that relationship and become such a mentor to me. And she has been everything I would have hoped for or hoped to have had in a boss at some point in my lifetime. And I think I now have that experience and I'm still in that experience at such a young age.

And I'm so grateful to have that. it means the world to have somebody who believes in you in your corner at your job. At my last job, I did not have that. And I felt that and it hindered my ability to succeed. And it made me feel less than everybody else around me because my ideas weren't taken seriously. And at this job, she specifically has been like,

I trust you, go with it, try it. If you fail, I'll stand with you and I'll help you understand why you failed and get you back to a place where you're comfortable to try again. But at the same time, it's up to you. Like what you want to do in this role and what you want to do in this job and what you would do and what you want to do in this life. It's up to you. And if you want to take a risk and if you want to take a shot and try, it's up to you. And she has given me that.

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ability and the strength to try and to do and to fail and to fuck up and to try again and continue and succeed and it has changed my perspective on the workforce and the workplace and It has given me the realization that not everybody who is at the top is only in it for Themself and has showed me that there's real mentors in the world and there's really people who want to carry on a legacy so far beyond them

and inspire you to do what they've done or inspire you to show inspire you and show you that what they've done is possible and that what you think is impossible is always possible and at the end of the day to just believe in you and I think that's what she's shown me and that's what she's given me and it's it's been an unbelievable experience so far working for her and I don't think I mean I hope I do but I no I'm not gonna say I don't think I'll ever have a I was gonna say I don't think I'll ever have another boss

like her, but I also, I don't think I'll ever have another boss like her in my life. Like she feels like a one in a million type person where you don't get this type of relationship in a workplace. I've become so much more independent in my work and I've learned to stand up for myself at work and I've learned to unlock doors to my potential that I felt were kind of shut by my last job.

And I've learned how to succeed and stand up on my own two feet from her mentorship. And I really do believe that she's a once in a lifetime boss. And that is probably one of the biggest things I've taken away from this year is that there are people like that in the world. And I, if I'm ever a boss or if I'm ever in charge of somebody, or if I'm ever responsible for somebody at work and responsible for their success, like I now have a model of what I want to do for that person.

And I will always follow that model and I like or I will always try to follow that model at least know what nobody's perfect and by the way, that's not to say that like it's always the perfect relationship like there's it's a lot of hard work and there's a lot of time where I feel like I'm messing up or I feel like I'm doing the wrong thing or that I have failed and I'm sitting in that failure or that like deal that I created on my own that completely flopped.

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and lost the company some money or lost a piece of the budget where like I was responsible for that completely and I was responsible for like recouping that part of the budget and making that money back and I didn't because the deal flopped and like that was on me and that I kind of feel like lost as well. Like there's a lot of those moments too but looking at the year in review which is the whole point of this and looking at the my resume for this year.

All of those kind of hard moments or those moments where I felt lost or insecure or not sure of what to do next are really completely overshadowed by the potential I've unlocked or by the things that I've learned and the ability to get through those experiences and get on the other side of it and know that I can do that again and again and know that when I mess up, I will be able to work through that and understand why I messed up and

explain myself and learn from those experiences overall is the ultimate kind of conclusion to that. So that relationship has influenced me the most this year and it has been the one that I've learned the most from and will take with me to next year completely. Your example does not nearly have to be as grand as that or as much of a lesson or a takeaway. Like I didn't have that last year.

If you were to ask me that question for 2023 or if I was asked myself that question for 2023, I wouldn't have given you that same answer. I don't know what answer I would have given you then. But it would have been completely different. And when I answer this question next year, I think it'll be completely different as well. I would not have had as much of an impactful answer last year. I can almost guarantee you.

as have this year. your answer to that question does not nearly have to be what mine was. It can be your mom or your sister or your dad or your friend or your roommate or your girlfriend or your boyfriend. It can be anybody just somebody that has had an influence on you who has inspired you who you've learned from who you've had a really great experience with. That's the person I want you to highlight for that one. The next one is what is something you did this year or a habit that you developed that you stuck with.

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And for me that's weightlifting and that is something that I didn't really start doing until like May of this year. Actually like near the end of May I started taking weightlifting seriously and trying seriously and putting aside my fear or my doubt in myself about weightlifting and about picking up weights and about going to that corner of the gym where everybody looks stronger than me and everybody

looks like they've been doing this for years and years and that I would never get to that place. put all of that aside and just finally tried for the first time and just believed in myself for a little bit. And that has been a habit and a routine that I have stuck with. I have stuck with consistently since the end of May and one that I'm most proud of. And I now lift like consistently four or five times a week.

and I've developed a routine and like have a workout plan and I've never felt stronger in my life. Like genuinely I've never actually felt strong probably until this year and it has changed my life like truly and I'm so

proud of myself for sticking with it and believing in myself and staying with it consistently. And in the beginning, I really had that intimidation factor where I was like, I don't know if I'm going to continue this. I don't know if I should continue this. Like I don't feel like I'm getting any stronger. I don't feel like I'm like, I don't see any progress. I don't feel any progress and I just stuck with it. And now it's become something that I can't miss because I don't want to miss it. there's not those, even when I'm tired, like there's not those mornings where I'm like, ugh, I don't want to go to the gym. Like

I know that I feel better when I do it. So I do it and I know that it's a way that I can get out of my head and into my body and start to actually feel progress and see progress and I know how proud I feel of myself after doing it. So it's just something I do now and it's just become a part of my day and my week and my routine and

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What I was talking about earlier about the spark from that book, Big Magic, that spark for me came in weightlifting. Like I felt so much better about myself and so much stronger, like genuinely, than I ever have before. And it's because I stuck with it consistently and I believed in myself and I believed in my ability to get stronger. And it's honestly not until recently where I've actually started to see the progress and see what it's done to my body and I, and see how far I've come from where I used to be. but

Immediately, I felt the impact of it and maybe not immediately, but maybe a week or two later, I felt the impact of it and I felt stronger. And now I'm starting to see myself stronger. those are honestly really recent developments. But that's something that for me, I felt a spark in and felt really like rooted in and connected to. And I then decided that that will be something I do because it just makes me feel better.

And that is a habit, a routine from this year that I created and have stuck with. And I will continue to bring into the new year and probably for the rest of my life, because it just makes me feel good. So what is that for you? And what is that habit or that routine for you? Um, something you did that you developed that you stuck with. And then the next one is what is something that you wanted to do, but didn't do. And I have two, I wanted to keep my room organized and get into a pattern of being more neat.

and being more clean. I'm not sorry, I'm not not dirty, but I'm messy. Like I'm very messy. Like I throw my clothes everywhere. I don't put the clothes away after I do the laundry. I don't fold immediately. I stack them up on the chair. You know, everyone has like a chair like that. There's like a meme online. Everybody has a chair in their room. And if you don't, it's probably the floor, which is also a pile in my room. So kind of like everywhere you go, there's like, there's just piles everywhere. And I have gotten really bad about that.

And I really wanted to make it a priority at beginning of this year and I just didn't and it got worse and worse and I just haven't. And that is something that I will really want to work on in the new year. I really want to work on not one will staying cleaner. No, neither not not clean. I'm not I keep emphasizing like I'm not messy. mean, I'm not dirty like there's not like dirt, you know, it's just mess. So that's something I

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Didn't get to do or didn't do this year. And the other thing is prioritizing my sleep I've talked about this many times that I really wanted to or I really want to get better about a sleep schedule and going to bed earlier and waking up without feeling so tired or going through my day not feeling so tired and wake up without checking my phone or go to bed without checking my phone and Those are all things that I have just continued to kind of do and I haven't prioritized

getting neater and sleeping better. Those are two things I didn't do this year. So what are those two things for you? Or what are those things or thing? What is that for you? Something you wanted to do, but didn't get to. and that's not to say that you have to fix it. Like, like, by the way, this isn't like a, I failed at this. So I have to try again, or I failed at this and I want to bring, I want to do it differently in the new year. Like you don't even have to want to do it differently. It's just kind of taking stock or taking note of the things you wanted to do. didn't get to do.

No resolution or revelation around these things. Just like a I didn't do it. End of sentence. On to the next. It's just an addition to your resume. Another bullet point for the resume. And not everything on the resume is always positive, especially for your personal one. I mean, your work one should probably be pretty positive, but your personal one is not always going to be so positive because it's impossible for everything to be good and perfect on a year long resume. Like not everything went perfectly this year. So I like to have a note of

something you didn't do or like a moment that wasn't great and keeping just putting that down there. You don't have to reflect on it. You don't have to spend so much time on it, but just noting it. It's not like a black mark on your resume or a F on the resume. It's just like a thing on there to remind you that not everything's perfect and not everything's great. And that's OK. And then the last one is what is something you want to keep working on? And it can be the things that you didn't do and you wanted to do or it can be something completely new.

For me, something I want to keep working on is playing guitar. I really want to learn guitar. I was like really all in on it for like two weeks. I spent like five minutes a day doing it and then slowly it became five minutes every other day and then it became five minutes once a week. And now the guitar is in the corner of my room and the corner of my mind and it's just become like a total back of the, I don't know, it's just become like not something I prioritize whatsoever.

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And I really want to do it. just haven't made the time to do it. And honestly, I think if you really want to do something, you'll make the time to do it. So maybe I don't want to do as much as I'm saying I want to do it, but I really think I do. So that is something that I want to work on prioritizing in the new year. So that is what my end of year resume looks like. There's a lot of different things on there. There's a lot of different moments and people and

I think this episode could have been double the length and this episode still could be double the length though, I'm not gonna- I won't ruin your day or your week or whenever you listen to this with an hour and a half episode, but I think I could have said a lot more things and that's not really the purpose of this. It's not to list out all of your accomplishments or all the things you did this year, all the places you traveled or all the people you met or all the people you spent time with.

Or all the people that influenced you or all the things you didn't get to do or the things you want to do. It's not to have this jumbo list of a hundred things from this year. It's really to pick and highlight a specific few. Like it's, it's looking back at this whole year at a glance and looking back at this whole year from that, 10,000 foot viewpoint and being able to pick out a few moments from the year. And it's okay to not get to everything. And it's okay that I didn't highlight everybody that had an influence on me this year. Like

There are so many more people from this year that I would have loved to mention or share a story about or share how they've influenced me. But I wanted to pick just one because that's the point. And I could be here all day if I picked 10 or five or three. So pick one thing from each of these categories to highlight and add to your bullet points similar to your resume. Like you can't have 10 bullet points from your job or if you do you shouldn't. So you should have

three or four from all every experience. So it's similar to that. Like you shouldn't have all the things you've ever done in your job listed out because that's not the highlights from your experience. And for a good resume, you have to have three or four things under your job, even though you do 10 or 20 and you have to minimize them and you have to pick the ones that are the most influential, influential or the ones that are the most, I don't know, monumental for your

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That's not the right word, but that's a big word. Monumental, I'm going to say it again for your job or for the experience to highlight it and to so you can talk about it. And I'll read you the six prompts again, if you just want to write these down or use this as a framework or use one or all of these questions for your own resume. So where I traveled, what I watched, what I read, what I did consistently, what I didn't get to and what I want to work on. So those are the six.

And it's kind of a spin on resolutions and it's kind of a way to look back at your year, but also think about what you want to do for next year. So if you want to take that last question of what you want to work on or what the last two questions, what you didn't get to and use those as prompts for the things you want to do next year, then you can think about it from a vantage point of like, what do you want this to look like next year? Like, what do you want your end of year 2025 resume to

like what are the things that you want to get to what are the things you want to accomplish who do you want to be who do you want to become who are the people you want to meet who do you think will influence you so you'll spend more time with that person like those are all the things that you can now think about before you get into the new year it gives you the ability to see all the things you did this year and all the things you wanted to do and didn't get to from a much greater vantage point and being able to use that to set your next year's kind of goals or next year things you want to do

And if you're having trouble starting or you're the type of person that likes a little bit more direction here or even more direction than what I've given, totally fine. I would say start by looking at your photos from January in your phone. So go back, scroll all the way back to January of this year. And even if you're not the type of person who takes photos of everything you do or just has like a really big montage of all your moments from the year, I'm sure there will be at least one or two things from every month that sparks.

Memory or a place for you or something that was influential or something that just resonated with you So look back through your photos or look back through your text messages from those times. Those are two kind of easy ways to spark those memories or those moments for you and just think about like What you've done who's made an impact who you spent time with just what you did in general We don't have a lot of time in our day or in our weeks to spend the time reflecting on what's been

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and what felt good and what felt right and what went right. And that's why I think this time of year is perfect for this because we actually have time to sit with our thoughts and sit down and take the time. Whether you're off work, I hope you are, and you have some time off work. This could take 10 minutes. This could take 15 minutes. It doesn't have to be like an exercise you spend a lot of time on. So you can spend as much time on this as you want. spend as little time on this as you want.

But I think taking even a couple minutes to reflect on these questions and build your end of year resume and think about what you've done this year, that can be really impactful and that can be really helpful to figure out what you want to do next year and figure out who you want to be next year. And I love the idea of having a physical end of year resume to look at if you want to write these out. I think you'll find a lot of moments or times or places that brought you happiness and made you feel good and

make you feel proud of yourself. And the final step here, which I kind of alluded to a second ago, is to think about what you want this to look like for next year. And this could be something that you or I do at the end of every month. I really like the idea of having like a monthly resume. Actually, I'm gonna start doing that. I used to do that in the form of, I called them the fives. I think I did it twice. I think I did like the fives of March and the fives of April. I liked the idea of the ides of March.

So I call it the fives of March and then April came around and the five April didn't sound nearly as good So I think it didn't stick but I really like the idea of doing like an end of month resume so having like a January resume and answering these types of questions every single month and thinking about the moments or the times from each month and Pulling apart like the moments that were the most impactful or the hardest moments or the ones that resonated most and thinking about like what you watched or what you read or what you listen to or

who inspired you or any of those things from the month. So I'm gonna bring that back. I really like that. I'm gonna bring that back starting next year and maybe it'll be like a bonus episode each month where I do like a January resume, February resume. I am gonna do that. That's cool. And it is a way to also at the end of the year look at like how far you've come each month or what you've done each month or you know like what has happened each month. And you can do a lot in a year like that you can you can do a lot in a month but

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You can really do a lot in a year and if you set your mind to the things you want to do and you commit the time and you believe in your abilities, there's so much you can do. So what do you want to do next year? What do you want to look back at and reflect on at the end of the year? Make a list of all the things you want to do, the type of person you want to become, who you want to spend your time with, what projects you want to work on, where you want to see yourself and put your mind to it and take the time to do it.

What do you want your end of year resume to look like next year? Thank you so much listening to guys set a guy's guide to what should be talked about I'm Josh I'm 24 years old and I'm here every single Tuesday to talk about what should be talked about for guys in their 20s If you like this podcast, I really hope you did. Please like subscribe and give this podcast five stars That's one two, three, four five stars the fifth one at the fourth not the third one. That's the first one

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