Enjoy the Little Things

Josh Felgoise (00:00.206)

Welcome to Guy's Set, the guy's guide to what you should be talking about. I'm Josh, I'm 23 years old, and I'm here to find all the tips, advice, and recommendations for guys in their 20s. Let's get into it.

Josh Felgoise (00:17.998)

Hi guys, welcome back to guys that the guys guide to what should be talked about. So this week was originally to be a different episode and I'm moving that to next week because I realized something today that really helps me a ton and I wanted to share it and make an episode about specifically this thing. And it's something I do throughout the day that I hardly even notice anymore or intentionally do that just I'll share in a second because that's the whole point of the episode.

but it's something that I do that helps me when I'm feeling down or anxious or there's those moments in the day or the night that you just feel off. I'm sure you know what I'm talking about and you just kind of feel like a little anxious and think that everything's going wrong when it's not. And I use what I'm about to tell you when that happens. So this is something that I used to do a lot more often and I haven't really thought about until today and until last week.

when I heard Jerry Seinfeld's graduation speech at Duke when he talked about falling in love and he wasn't just referring to falling in love with your girlfriend or your boyfriend or your significant other. He was talking about falling in love with the everyday things and falling in love with the little things in your life that bring you joy. So he talked about a

pen that he uses to write that he loves and other little things throughout his day that he really loves. And it reminded me of this practice and this kind of gratitude thing that I used to do a lot more and I'm going to make a really strong effort to bring back in my everyday life. And I find that it's so important for me to do that.

in order to keep you going in order to keep your head up high and just to feel like you're okay and feel like everything is okay and that your day was good and that life is good and it's, all good. So what happened today that brought this topic up is I bought sourdough bread and this may sound stupid, just hold with me for a second, but I bought sourdough bread yesterday. I was super hung over after a long weekend and I really wanted a sandwich yesterday and I went to the supermarket and I never usually buy bread.

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I usually don't like eat sandwiches. I love them. I just don't like make them at home a lot. And when I buy bread, I feel like I don't use it. So I barely ever buy it because I feel like it's going to go stale and it's going to end up moldy before I can get to it. So I never usually buy it, but I bought it for some reason yesterday. Well, cause I was hungover. So that's the reason. And I had a sandwich yesterday and it was delicious. And then today during my work day, I was super stressed out in the morning from work.

And it was around lunchtime and I made myself a sandwich and it was a sandwich of the sourdough bread and it was Turkey and mayo and tomato and avocado. And it was fucking delicious. I, and hold with me, hold me with you because it sounds like this is like, okay, now why the fuck does this guy have a podcast or why am I listening to this? But give me a second. It brought me so much like dumb happiness. Like I can't explain to you why or how this made me so happy.

but it was just the ideal sandwich and it was exactly what I wanted. And it like, you know, when something like fully satisfies your craving, like that is what happened to me today. And it was amazing. And it was just like a little moment that I felt so happy. And before I did that, before I ate the sandwich, I took a picture. was like, this looks amazing. And I'm so happy that I made this and I'm able to make this and just like, it was a very weird moment where I just felt like a lot of gratitude for this sandwich. And again, that may sound really stupid.

But this is what I realized I do throughout the day and throughout the week and throughout my life that I do all the time that I am. It's unintentional at this point. So I will, when I find something small, either take a picture of it. I barely ever look back at that picture, but I just take a picture of it because it, that moment really brought me joy or I'll jot it down in my note and write down like turkey sandwich. And it's like an unconscious thing that I do, but I wanted to share this tip with you.

because while it may sound like stupid and small when those moments of doubt and anxiety and like weird moments in your life where you just feel down happen, when I can remember the moment of like that sandwich or I'll give you more examples in a second, but when I can remember that little thing in the day, I'm like, wow, what a great day and like what a, what a great thing I was able to have some more examples that I have. If you're not on page with me yet, because you may not be are

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my workout this morning. I picked up a heavier weight than I usually do. And I've been like contemplating this weight for a little while now. And I look at it and I'm like, I can't do a curl with that weight. Like that seems really heavy. And I don't want to be embarrassed if I can't pick it up or just like feel ashamed if I can't. And today for some reason, I decided to give it a shot and I did it. And because that feels small compared to

the moment where you dropped the ball on something at work or you felt like a total fuck up, it becomes that much more important to pull it out as something during your day that made you feel happy or made you feel proud of yourself or just made you smile. Even like my mindset around it, like knowing that I was able to try something that scared me and do it, even if it was for only a couple reps. And by the end of the workout, like I literally could not lift that weight off the floor if I tried.

just the fact that I was able to do it for like a couple of times. And now I know that like, that is not a barrier to me anymore. Like that's something I can, I can do. And then I can reach the next five pounds up and I can keep going. And, and it was a little thing that just made my day better. And when the moment hit me that I felt a little off tonight, I thought of these couple things and it brought me back like,

the joy from the day and it sparked the joy from the day. And I felt like really grateful for some moments from today. And it's just like, it was a little thing that I'm, proud of myself for. And those moments so easily pass you by throughout the day as you're just kind of going through the motions or like the monotony of your everyday life. And if you look at that from like the grand scheme of things, like it was a workout and a lunch that sounds really

really small. By the end of this day, I could have easily been like, today was shitty and or today was like a hard day and I felt anxious and down today. But today the workout made me proud and the sandwich like sparked joy for me. And those two things were enough to make me feel like today was a great day. And when I look back at those little moments and those little things, I'm brought back to the happiness of the day. So I just wanted to share this like

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gratitude practice that I do that was at first really intentional, but has become unintentional, but really remains like the things that bring me the most happiness because when you can find the gratitude and find the love for the little things in life, like everything is better. And the way I started doing this was by writing it down at night. And that was the journal prompt that I wanted to share with you. And I know I talk about writing a lot and I know

I had one friend be like, you talk about writing a lot. Like, do you actually do it? And yes, not every day, but I try and do it at least Monday through Thursday. And then again, on Sunday. so I, I really do try and do it and I do get to it a lot, but the way I started doing it was like by writing the three things I'm grateful for or the three gratefuls, which I'm now going to change to the three little things. And the three little things from today for me.

were my workout picking up a heavier weight, which I was really proud of myself for that turkey sandwich that was phenomenal. And the third thing was a song that I rediscovered that I really loved that I haven't heard in really long time, which is like the best feeling of the world when you find a song you love again. so those were my three little things. So what I give you today as like a challenge or an assignment is at the end of the day to either write down in your phone notes, write down on a sticky note on a notepad.

wherever is easiest, but try writing it or typing it, whatever is easiest for you. And at the top of the page or the top of the note, right? Three little things and find three things in your day that made your day good. And whether or not this at the end of day was a good day or a bad day, I almost guarantee you, can find three things that sparked joy or made you proud or made you happy or made you feel something. I

Really think it's an incredible practice and at first I I'm telling you that first it was really hard for me because I was like what are like what am I grateful for today and over time it became much easier to find the little things in the day that made me feel grateful and the reason I change it to the little things is because Gratefuls is a is a It you may not feel grateful for lifting a heavier weight or eat grateful for eating a sandwich

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but you can acknowledge that those are little things in your day that brought you joy. And over time, it becomes little things like a phone call with your mom or your dad, or being able to send an email at work without overthinking it and rereading it a hundred times, or getting out of bed in the morning without checking your phone, or being able to hit 10,000 steps in the day, or like little, again, little things that I have found that have really brought me

a lot of like happiness. And the point is to not just wait for the big things in life that make you happy or the big things that make you feel proud or good about yourself. It's to find the things in your day that just spark joy. So the coffee you had or the ice water you drank that you that just like really hit the spot or the text your friend sent you that made you laugh.

or the eggs you had or the what you had for lunch. Finding the little things makes every day so much better. And I highly recommend you give it a shot. And to make this even easier for yourself, instead of having to go back through your day, which I find to be an amazing thing to at the night and like have to think through each thing and it that's a separate thing. You can take pictures of the things throughout the day like I did with my sandwich today.

or make a little note to yourself in your phone or wherever, text yourself, whatever's easiest for you. Another example from today for me was I was walking back from the gym and I ended up walking down this street that the sun like hit really nicely and I just took a picture of the street and it was a really nice view and it was just a moment in my day that that made me happy and when I think at night back to the things throughout the day that it's as small as that, the street you walked down, the sandwich you ate, the weight you lifted,

the person you called, it's those little things that really add up to make you feel like the day was good and make you feel like you're happy at the end of the day and really do bring you like real happiness. It's not even just making you think that, they really do do that for me. Do do. So when those things happen, write it down, make a phone note. These are all super easy things that you can do to make your day better. And it may not feel like you have one every single day.

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But as I said, I really guarantee that if you think hard enough about it, you will find at least one and then you'll find three and try and make this a practice. Do this for a couple of days in a row and see if it's something that that helps you. It took me a couple of weeks to really get into it. And I've been doing it for a while now and I kind of just forgot about how impactful it was for me and my mood. And I wanted to bring it to you as a suggestion. And on the days you feel like you can't find one.

you will hopefully have a stockpile of the ones from the day before and the week before and the month before. And you can look back at those days and see three things the day before that made you grateful and that or me or just the three little things. And that will hopefully improve that day you're having. It has really, really helped me and I hope it helps you too. And all of these thoughts of this turkey sandwich today that is the reason I created this episode reminded me of this quote from this guy, Zevon Warren, who

had his last appearance, I believe he was a singer, and he had his last appearance on David Letterman when he was diagnosed with terminal cancer. And he's talking about what he learned about life when having terminal cancer. And he says to David Letterman, I've learned to enjoy every sandwich. And it's something that stuck with me. And you forget about that. Like you really do forget about that stuff on the in the everyday, in the everyday life, you you don't think about

I should really sit and enjoy this sandwich because why would you? That's not something that you think about on a day to day. But it was a nice reminder to just enjoy the little things that add up to the happiness we feel. It's really as simple as, that was cool. I liked that. That made me smile. That's really it. And when you can get to the place where you find

gratitude or joy in the moments that feel so insignificant in your everyday life. I really think it will contribute to your overall happiness as it has for mine. If you like this episode, I really hope you did. Please like subscribe, give this episode a thumbs up, send this episode to a friend of a member or somebody you think will take value from this or like it said anything I'm gonna talk about in this should be talked about to my email, josh at guyset.com or to my DMs at the guy set T H E G U I S E T. You can find me on every single social media platform at that same

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the guys set or my email on my website guys.com. I hope you have a great day. Thank you so much for listening and I will see you guys next Tuesday. See you guys.