Cancelled Dates, Meeting The Friends, and When To Ask On A Date, Dear Guyset

Welcome back to another Dear Guy Set episode where I answer the questions that guys are asking. Whether that's about a situation, a situation ship, a relationship, really anything you have questions on, and I answer them to the best of my abilities. As always, I am no expert, I am just

Another 26 year old guy going through this all alongside you and sharing what I have learned so far and what I continue to learn with you, with the hope that something I say can help you out in the situation you are in right now. And I feel like whether you're in one of these situations right now, I think these episodes are always helpful because it's kind of a look into the minds of a lot of other guys to see.

What everybody's asking right now, what situations people are dealing with, what kind of like conundrums people are finding themselves in. And most of the time you will probably relate to one, if not all, of these, or have at some point in your life. And I feel like that's why these are some of my favorite episodes to do, because I have found myself asking, I think every single one of these questions that I'm answering today.

And I feel like until I started doing this podcast and specifically this segment on the podcast, Dear Guyset, where I answer the questions that guys are writing in and asking, which you can do by the way on my website, guyset.com. There's an ask me anything right there. You can also DM me at guyset podcast or the guy set, the both are my channels. and I get a lot of the questions through, I do like a Wednesday Ask Me Anything.

As well as just like one-off DMs and emails and and all of that stuff. So feel free to ask me anything and I'll include it in the next month's dear guys that episode. but until I started doing this segment, I couldn't find a way to kind of get answers or like at least a piece of advice on these really specific situations. Because these are like super niche. And if you don't have somebody that you feel comfortable like asking, and a lot of the time that's the thing. It's like guys don't feel comfortable like

Josh Felgoise (02:25.762)

Being like, I don't know the answer to this thing. And I think that's kind of the thing is that like there wasn't really a place to get all of these different kinds of questions or a way to ask all these questions until I did this. And I'm really excited by doing these. I love these episodes. so let's get into it. The first question is: she rescheduled the date, then canceled like 30 minutes before. What do you think I should do next?

Okay, I feel like this is probably more of a you need to pay attention to how you feel with this person. Like, this is kind of the shittiest thing that somebody can do is to like cancel and then reschedule it and then cancel again. I mean, that just leaves you feeling shitty. Like, there's no there's no other way to say that. It's a bad feeling to feel canceled on, especially when

You're looking forward to something and you've built up to something all day. And that goes both ways, too, right? Like there's another question I'm gonna answer a little bit later about like wanting to cancel a date. And there is like a courtesy period. Like canceling 30 minutes before a date fucking sucks. Like that is shitty for anybody to do. And I feel like that should be more of a sign that like this probably isn't your person. Like if you're being canceled on and

Look, they might have good reason, but if they're not like expressing like, I'm so sorry about this, like a this thing came up, and then like continuing to text, like there's probably a lack of interest from her side, and that is kind of all the signal that you need. Like, I don't think you need much more than that. I feel like a lot of questions that guys have, around like early dating and and when you start dating is around like

Trying to read interest and trying to read into like what somebody is thinking about you, feeling about you, and and all of that. And I feel like a lot of the times the answers are right in front of us about how somebody feels and how interested they are in us. And we should take them at face value instead of trying to like overanalyze and construe like what the hidden message or like what the deeper meaning of what they did is and like how this like if they canceled on you and then they rescheduled and they canceled on you again, like

Josh Felgoise (04:47.426)

That makes you feel shitty and like one plus one equals shitty. And that is what's happened here. And I'm really sorry that you're in that situation because that just sucks. And I feel like I've been there before. I feel like everybody has probably been there before. if you're somebody that has gone on dates or been dating, so everybody has probably been canceled on, or ghosted or left on red or whatever, however you want to say it, the worst is when you're left like at the place. Like that's so horrible.

so at least she didn't leave you sitting there stood up. But this can feel pretty similar, like when you're getting ready for it and you get a text and you're just like your heart fucking sinks into your balls, and you're like, God damn it, like that sucks. so I think this is more of like a if they're leaving you feeling this way, then there that's all you need to know, and that's the interest that they're giving you, and this probably isn't the right person for you. And

You can kind of close the chapter on this one and say, okay, sounds good, or like, sorry to hear that you had this thing or whatever it is. And I wouldn't be eager to jump at their next offer. Like I wouldn't can't I wouldn't move things around or I wouldn't schedule things, like, because they've already given you everything you need to know about them. Like they're either gonna cancel or they're gonna try and reschedule, or they're gonna kind of like take your time for granted, and you don't want that. Like nobody wants that. So if you're

In a position like this, then this is all you need to know about this person. And again, these these two reasons, like these two cancel and reschedule, like they could very well be valid reasons, but I think it's more the feeling that you're left with, and you should probably move on from this person. And there's a lot of other people out there. There's a lot of other, you know, like you you don't need to be feeling this way, especially early dating. and this is kind of all you need to know.

Again, could completely be valid reasoning, but still, like if if they're not making effort and they're canceling and rescheduling and all that, then it's just like move on from this one. The next question is how long should you stay at a job before leaving doesn't look bad? Okay, how long should you stay at a job before leaving doesn't look bad? I think so there's a couple things. Like

Josh Felgoise (07:00.28)

Before our generation came along and just like fucked everything up, like you know, everybody older than us is just like Gen Z, like I think people used to stay in their jobs for a long time. Like it used to be looked at as a very impressive thing to stay in your job for your entire career. Like previously, people didn't really switch jobs very frequently. Now we're seeing people switch jobs every two years, every so often, every year and a half. Like people are in this job and that job and this job and that job.

And that's kind of seen as a good thing now, like getting a bunch of experience and seeing into the ways of different companies. And I think that is valuable these days, like having a lot of different experience on your resume and working at a lot of different places, and it might have flip-flopped now that like people think staying at one place for too long might make you look complacent unless you've been climbing a ladder for a while or you look like you've moved from here to there and there to here and

you've really made a lot of movement and and that is what you're looking for. So I think there's a couple different things that that are signals of like doing well now that would make it not look bad to leave. So that doesn't make any sense. Let me try and rephrase that. I think there are two ways to look at this. One, that like staying in a job for a long time, as long as you feel like you are making

mm waves and like you're moving and you're climbing the ladder and you feel good about where you are and you're still challenged and you feel like this job is really moving you forward, then stay. Like that this isn't to say that the trend needs to be what you follow. but at the same time, like if you're feeling like you want to move around or you have an offer or you feel like stagnant and that the job you're in right now isn't kind of

Motivating you or pushing you, or you feel like you be you could be doing better or making more somewhere else, then I think like you can leave after a year and a half or two years. I feel like the thing that people like the the mark of success is is two years. Like that's what people say. So you stay at a job for two years and then you can kind of leave or you can see what's next. That's kind of like the appropriate mark of time. So I would say that two years is like

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like overall viewed as the kind of this doesn't look bad if you leave after two years. But I think if you have an opportunity or something comes up or somebody gets promoted over you and you're feeling like you're kind of pushed to the side, like anywhere I don't know, from a year and a half to two years is probably totally fine. As long as you're leaving for good reason and you have reason to explain why you've left or why you want to move and

overall, like it it's more about being able to explain to future employers and people that you might work with next why you decided to leave that job or what led you to make that change? Because when people look at your entire kind of career trajectory and they see on your LinkedIn that you worked at this place for two years, then this place for six months and this place for another two it's like, Wait, what what happened here? What happened with all these different positions?

But if you worked at this job for two years, this one for a year and a half, this one for two years, I think that's viewed as very normal now. I don't think that's viewed as like they're jumping around too much or they can't keep a job or they got fired or they didn't they don't work well. Like I think it's more about the signal that you're giving to future employers. So if you can kind of explain why you made that move or why that move felt necessary or or whatever you need to do.

then that's all that matters. If you have real reason to leave after a year and a half or even shorter, or like whatever it is, if you have that reason, you have a an an ability to explain it and and like to a really high level, then I think it's totally fine to leave whenever you feel like you need to. But I would say the marker of like how long you should stay at a job before it doesn't look before it doesn't look bad to leave is probably the two year mark.

That feels like you gave the job the full effort you maybe got promoted or got a raise during that time and then you were like, I I feel like I need to do something else, or I I know there's more, and I know I've kind of gained all the skills I can gain here and now it's time to make a move. Like whatever that is, whatever your reason may be for wanting to leave, I think the two year mark is probably the overall easiest to explain, and it doesn't look like anything happened or went wrong or whatever that may be. so I think that

Josh Felgoise (11:36.236)

Like our generation is very different than previous generations. Again, I don't think it's bad at all to stay at a job for a long time. If that job is like you're moving and you're getting promoted and you're getting raises, then like that's fucking fantastic. there really are just like two types of people. One person that likes that and wants to stay in that thing, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Actually, I think it's great. And there's the other person who wants to move around and wants to experience lots of different things and wants to see a lot of different companies, and that's great too. Like, there is no wrong here. There's only what is right for you. And

Yeah, like whatever whatever works best for you. the next question is should I go on a date that I'm not really looking forward to? No. No, like you probably shouldn't go on a date that you're not looking forward to. Because then if you're on a date or you're going into the date, then you're gonna be like, Hey, how are you? Like, what's up? And like you're not gonna be excited or present or motivated to make this work or excited to make this work, or even just like wanting to make this work. Like

If you're going into date to the date and you're like in a mood about the date, like that's probably the worst way you can be going into a date. I think there are a couple of like n caveats here. Caveats, caveats, not caveats, things that I wanna add in here. this could be because you've gone on a lot of dates and you're getting fatigued by dating and you're not feeling like something's working or whatnot. Like

If you are feeling like you're not looking forward to it, like it might be because of that. And if you can kind of psych yourself back out of that and convince yourself that this might be good and it will be good to try this out and this could lead to something good, then like go on that date. I I I think that is one that you should probably work through and you can work out of. But if the person specifically is who you're not looking forward to and the conversation isn't great, over hinge or over text or whatever it is, and then

You're like, I don't really want to see this person, or I'm not that attracted to this person, or like, I don't know, then you probably shouldn't go on that date with that person. This is the one that I was referring to earlier when I was like, if you are like I think there are reasonable times in which you can decide this. Like there is a courtesy time before you should decide not to go on the date. And if it's like within a couple hours of the date and you're not feeling it and you're just like, meh, like you should probably still go on that date.

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because then you're gonna leave that person feeling terribly like I was saying about the first person, like you're gonna leave them just feeling like, damn, that sucks. so there is like a courtesy of when to decide not to. If you're anywhere in those like few hours before the date and you're just like not looking forward to it that much, I think that's where you have to like convince yourself that this could be good or like at least try to believe that this could be good. and then go on that date. But if you're not looking forward to the date with the person

I think there's more reason to cancel than not, especially if it's long enough before. Like if it's a day before and like you can always say something came up or you have to reschedule or you don't think it's gonna work or whatever it is. but there is like a courtesy time in which you can cancel, or I believe that you can cancel. if it's a few hours before, you should still be going on that date. And if it's any time before that, I think you can. you should be looking forward to the dates you're going on. I think that'll put you in a better mindset. Like

I think being excited about the date and spending your time excited, like the time leading up to that date and being excited about that is such a good feeling that will make you more present, more excited, more like willing and open to discuss and have conversation and ask questions and be interested in this person. If you're going into the date and you're not excited about it and you're not looking forward to it, then I think.

you're not gonna be looking you're not gonna be like excited about the person. You're not gonna be wanting to ask them questions and ask them follow-up questions and be interested in them. And it's just gonna be a bad night for both of you or a bad hour or so for both of you. And you're gonna be leave you're gonna leave that kind of like with the thought you already had in your mind, like confirming the bias that you had going into this. You're gonna be like, yep, I knew it'd be a bad date. And that is what we have the power to do with ourselves. Like if we convince ourselves that something might be good.

We have the power to make it a little bit better than it might actually be. And if we convince ourselves going into it, that's gonna be bad, like we will leave knowing that it we will leave feeling like it was bad. and I like that is genuinely something that we have control over. kind of like determining the kind of outcome of the situation based on what we learned from it or based on how we left feeling from it. So if you're going into it feeling like bleh, you're gonna leave feeling bleh.

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Unless this is like the best person ever that you're going on a date with, but most of the time it's not gonna be because it's a first date and you're both anxious and a little nervous and not knowing what to say or what to ask. So if you're already going into that with like preconceived notions that you don't like this person and you're not interested in this person, you don't think they're like cute or whatever it is, then it'd be better off for both of you to probably not yeah.

The next question is: Is it a bad sign if I've been dating someone for about two months now and I still haven't met her friends? I don't think it's great. I don't think it's great. I think that look, there might be th these are all circumstantial. These are all situational. Situational.

these are all like based on I don't know, if it's over summer and you just started dating, which it probably was because you're asking this now, it might be because everybody's been super busy and you just started dating and there hasn't been a time to get friends together or meet friends or go out to drinks with friends. So like it might be because of that, but for the most part, I would say this is around the time that you should try to meet their friends because that's important. Like it's important that.

She meets your friends, and it's important that you meet her friends because that like feeling of if when your friends like someone and they meet them and they're like, She was great, like she was really awesome, and I I I love you guys together, like that's the best feeling ever. Like having the confirmation that your friends like the person that you're seeing is like so awesome. And you want her to have that too. Like you want her to be able to be like, So what'd you think? And her friends are like, He's awesome, like he's super hot.

you want her to like have that with her friends too, and that will just make her feel more excited about you as well. Same for you. It'll make you feel more excited about her and be like, this could be really great. Like this really, there really is something here. And I think that is kind of what like meeting the friends does. it's also something that's really important because you're gonna be talking about your friends a lot and you're gonna be referencing things and you're already you're seeing your friends if you're not seeing her. And I think that you

Josh Felgoise (18:22.314)

Absolutely should try to make this happen soon. I don't think it's bad if it hasn't been two months. I like like I don't think it's necessary or like there's a timeline that it has to happen within. I think you're probably in the time where you should like try and make an effort. And maybe you actually here's my solution to this. Ac I think you should be the one to initiate, like, I want you to meet my friends. I think that's the perfect way for you to determine like what's going on here and

It might also give her the push to be like, wait, he should also meet my friends now too. Because if you're both new to this and you both don't know like what to do or when to do it, like maybe you be the one to initiate this. So maybe you go on a date and then you like take her out with a night out with your friends or something, or you you know, like you you initiate that. So I think you should be the one to make this happen if you're thinking about this. And it will also kind of plant the seed for her that I should probably introduce him to my friends and like do this vice versa type thing.

yeah, that's that's probably my best advice here is that you should be the one to initiate her meeting your friends first, and then she will also probably do the same thing next. I'm taking back what I said earlier. I don't know if it's I don't think it's a bad sign. Earlier I was like, it's not great. I don't think it's not great either. I just think that it depends on where you are or what time you guys started dating or when. I just think it's like now is probably the time. If you're thinking about it, if you want to make it happen, now is the time.

yeah. The next question is should I apply for a job even if I don't feel qualified for it? I do this all the time. I have done this all the time. I've done this many times. yeah, why not? I think that realistically nobody meets all of the qualifications for the job. And if you're making sure you meet every single thing before you apply, you're not gonna apply for anything. and like there's a st there's a t statistic. Statistic.

that six like I'm making this up, but it's something around something around this realm. That like 90% of women only apply to a job if they feel like they er all women? No, it can't be all women. Like most women will only apply to a job if they feel like they meet 90% of the criteria or like the qualifications. And most guys will apply to the job if they feel like they've met sixty percent of the qualifications. the numbers are somewhere here and there, but you get the point.

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And I feel like everybody should be doing it around that like sixty percent mark. Because a lot of the time if you have enough skills and you have the confidence to get in there and l learn and you also have the mentality that you're gonna learn and you're gonna figure it out on the job and you're not gonna freak out and you're just gonna like learn from learn as you go. that is how everybody works at every job. Like nobody comes into this knowing exactly what to do or how to do everything or

the best way to communicate with each person or like, you know, like you you figure out all of this stuff as you start in the first few weeks and the first few months, and then you get better from there. I would say everybody should apply for jobs that they don't feel completely qualified for because once you get in the interview, that's when you can really make your mark. That's when you can really prove like what you have learned so far or the skills you develop so far and how they're applicable to the job.

That matters so much more than the resume you're submitting or meeting every single qualification or knowing how to do every single like thing that they have on that job description. You can figure all of that out on the job. And I truly believe that if you have the mindset of being like, I'm gonna figure this out, I'll i I'm not gonna I I will make this happen, apply for it. And and I think everything is explainable too, to be like, I am so adaptable, like I am I am so good at figuring things out quickly and applying them here and there, and you can explain everything away. So

apply for the job that you're not qualified for. Do it today. The next question is who is supposed to plan the second date? You are supposed to plan the second date. I think that the guy is supposed to be the person or should be the person, not supposed to be whatever. Should be the person to initiate and plan the first few dates. I think that is a tr traditional way to look at things, but I think it's also still the way that most people do things.

so if you're wondering if she's gonna reach out to make the second date happen, she's not. So it is you that plans the second date. And I think it's also you that reaches out to initiate the second date, to be like, hey, I had a really great time with you, like would love to take you out again. And then when she's Yeah, I would love to go out again, and you're like, How's this Thursday at 7 p.m.? Like we could go to this bar, we could go to this restaurant, we could go to this thing, like.

Josh Felgoise (22:55.638)

That is completely up to you. So you plan the second date and following up on that, you also plan the third date. And then I think on those dates you could discuss like what you guys are gonna do next, and then you can kind of start planning things together. But I also think the girls like when guys initiate and when they plan things and when they're going out of their way or when they're like making the plan or they're being the one to be like, I wanna take you to this thing or I wanna do this thing. Like that's romantic. That creates the spark, that creates the excitement early in the relationship and

excitement for you for each other. So don't lose that. Don't kind of like rob yourself of any of that and make sure that she feels wanted and excited and that you're like initiating plans. You are the one that plans the second date and the third date and I'm gonna follow up on the third date and say also the fourth date. But somewhere in there and somewhere like after that you guys can start planning together and talking about things and then somewhere along the lines she'll plan a date or so. But you are the one that initiates the first few dates, the first

bunch of dates. and yeah, like if you disagree with there, feel free to chime in, leave a comment below. But I feel like most people won't. I feel like most people would agree with that. And yeah, I'm pr I feel pretty strongly about that one. The next question is how do I know if she wants something more casual or is looking for a relationship? I feel like this kind of makes itself clear in the first few dates of what somebody is looking for. Like

Based on the kind of like intentionality you are both showing each other, like how much you're texting, how much you're talking to each other, the effort you're both putting in, I think that kind of makes itself clear. And I think if it doesn't, you can ask. I don't think you need to ask on the first date or the second date, but I think somewhere along the line, similar, like third date, fourth date, you can see what

they are looking for and if they're looking for something a little more serious or if they're looking for something more casual. I think that really does make itself clear in the first few dates. Like if somebody's a little bit more hesitant to like go back together early on, or if they make comments that are like, I really like this. I really like spending time with you. I'm really liking where this is going. Like I think there are a lot of like direct indicators that are said by you and her. And like I think that

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It will make itself clear the more you see each other and the more you talk to each other. this is kind of something that I prefer to feel out than actually ask. but if you are in a place where you want something more serious and you wanna be aligned with the person you're seeing, I think you can ask. but I think you should also I think you should at first try to feel it out and try to sense it out and see if the like there's lines like that, or you're saying things like that, or you want to say things like that. I think that.

You similarly to what I'm saying about a lot of this stuff, this episode is like you initiating things. I think you can initiate something beyond by being like, I'm really loving spending time with you, or I'm really liking where this is going. And see how she responds to that. I think that will give you a clear kind of signal about what she's feeling about this and if she wants to take this more seriously. And yeah, I think that also in those earlier comments or like in those earlier dates, and also in those earlier dates, you'll

probably have lines or conversations around the lines of like, I really like where this is going, or I'm not seeing anybody else right now, or you will get that, in those early dates. so maybe around the dates of like four, five, six is where you can kind of start really seeing this out. I don't know if it's completely fair to ask them before that, 'cause they don't know you and they don't really know what this is or if this is gonna go anywhere or

If you guys mesh or if you guys get along or if you like vibe and the conversation's great and if you're feeling excited about each other. So like I would wait to if you're if you are gonna say something d after a f few dates at least. and then you will understand how like what their position is and how you're feeling as well a little bit into the dating too. So I wouldn't do it on the first one or two dates, or maybe even three, two. So like I don't know. It just it it depends. It really like

Depends how old you are, it depends what phase of life you're in, what you're looking for specifically. but I think you can start to understand what they want based on casual or something more serious, b if they want hookup versus like a relationship, pretty early on and within the time you guys talk to each other. I hope that was a good answer. I feel like that one wasn't that great because it was just like, I don't really know. But I also think that's kind of true. Like I I don't really know. I don't I don't really know.

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the best way to do that, but I think it is really person to person or like date to date. but I would say my best advice there is to give it at least a few dates before you have that conversation. The next question is: how soon after matching with somebody on hinge is too soon to ask them on a date? I have a direct experience with this. I when I first got on hinge,

was like I I would match with somebody and then quickly I like I I don't know, like we would say like I'd be like, hey, and then she'd be like, hey, and I'd be like, how are you? And she'd be like, good, how about you? I'd like, great. Like, do you want to go on a date on Thursday? Because I didn't know. Like I didn't know the right way to do this. And I feel like nobody knows the right way to do this. But I feel like that is one of the reasons that this podcast is so great is because I hope that you leave a lot of these questions and advice sessions and like episodes feeling like

Alright, I'm not the only one that's ever gone through that. Or I'm not the only one that's said something kind of crazy like that or felt craze felt so weird or awkward for doing that thing. Like, I am right there with you. I've done the things. And I feel like th that girl was like, sure, and we went on a date, and I knew fucking nothing about her, she knew nothing about me, and we were just like so.

Do you like Negronies? Like yeah, and which is a first date at the end of the day. Like it is that kind of but I wish I had gotten a little more information or had a little more conversation with her before I took her on a date because I just wasn't exc similar to the earlier question. Like I wasn't that excited about it, I was just like nervous and I was just like, I don't know anything about this person, I don't even know what she looks like. I don't and I think that I think that goes to show that you should have.

A little bit of a conversation before you ask them on a date. I think that you should also try to bring the conversation out of hinge into text before you ask on a date. I I I'm pretty firm in that one as well. I think you should wait till you at least have their number to ask them on a date. The transition from hinge to text is kind of a funny one too. I think you want to exchange like enough of a conversation with them where you're like, all right, I could see this going somewhere, and then you say like,

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Here's my number, or like what's your number? Would love to text you, or whatever it is, or however you want to say that best. and then over text, like text for a couple more, I don't know, an hour or so, and then be like, I'd love to take you on a date, or I'd love like are are you free this Thursday for drinks, or whatever you wanna say. but I think you should have enough of a conversation to get a signal that you're interested in this person. Get

some sense that the conversation flows and you have something to talk about, and it's not just like like sh ra ramming your head against the wall, being like, So, do you like Negroni's like you don't want to be doing that? And I feel like you can get a sense of if you like somebody or if the conversation is good over a couple hours, an hour or so of talking to them or texting them. and you can get their interest and see your interest and all of the excitement. And so I I would say

The question was how soon after matching with somebody's too soon to ask them on a date? I think like a couple hours of conversation is plenty to then ask them on a date. exchanging like at least more than just like hey a little more than just hey, you know, at least a little more than that. get to know them a little bit and then ask them out so that you can you have like at least a base for what to talk about or a little bit of a

An understanding of who they are, where they are, what they're up to, you know? Get a little bit of sense of that before you ask them on a date. Don't be like me and ask them right away. Because I think that also puts you in a bad, like a weirder spot and where you're just like, so where's you know, just don't you you you want to get a little bit of something. The next question is: when should you start buying nicer clothes?

I think that when you get your first job is a really great moment to like elevate your kind of clothes and your style and your wardrobe and all of that. cause you wanna buy things for work. so I think that's a good moment. And then when you wanna start dating, like I think it's usually at the start of things, is when you wanna start buying nicer clothes so like when you start a job is a great moment to do that, and then when you wanna start dating, because you wanna figure out

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like outfits to wear out and you probably don't like on a date and you probably don't have all of that right now. so I'm actually working on this. This is one of the biggest things that I feel like I haven't done yet with Guy Set is like style guides and like what to wear on a date or what to wear here. And that's been one of the things that I really want to do. And I'm launching that on guyset.com in this week, like probably today.

so you can go on guyset.com and search for like what to wear and you can also look in like the separ separate categories. So if you're looking for what to wear on a date or if you're looking for like what to wear to work, you can go into those categories on the website and find the blog posts that relate to that. You can also search for those specifically to like what to wear on a first date. And I'm gonna start putting together a lot more like outfit guides that like directly give you links to where to shop or where to buy that thing. Cause I think that's also one of the hardest things to figure out when going on dates or when starting work or when starting anything or like

Anywhere in your kind of twenties, like figuring out where to buy nicer clothes or where to even buy clothes in the first place, where to shop. Like all of those are like questions that I have always had. I feel like those these are questions that guys like all guys have when they're looking for what to buy or what to wear. so I I'm gonna start putting together those guides at least a couple times a week, for like what to wear here and and specific situations. So if you have any situations that you're looking for specifically or you have any

guides that you'd love to see or or any of that, please let me know and I will create those. but that's been one of the biggest things I've wanted to do and I now have the moment to do it. So I'm really excited about that. you can find a lot of those on guyset.com. but I would say that you start buying nicer clothes like after college. maybe even going into college is a good time to do that too. But specifically when you like start your life after college, when you want to be looking nicer going out or you want to be

looking more attractive or going on dates or going out to people at bars or going up to somebody and saying hi like whatever it is you want to be looking nicer and you want and like I I really do believe that when you look nicer you feel better. so I think that actually directly correlates and when you dress up you feel nicer, you feel better about yourself, you feel more confident. so I think that it's that time in your life is when you want to start buying nicer clothes. And on guyset.com I'll have a lot of guides and a lot of blog posts that you can

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shop from and find like what to wear or where to find nicer clothes or buy nicer clothes, whatever it is, whatever you're shopping for. So check that out on guyset.com. and then I'm gonna save the next question for next time. that is and then I'm gonna save the next I have like ten more for next time. So I'll roll those no, there's so many more. I will roll those over into the next Dear Guyset episode.

If you have any questions, anything we want me to talk about that should be talked about, head over to guyset.com and I will include any of those questions in the next dear guy set. I do these once a month, every third week of the month. and I will make sure I include whatever questions you have. That is the episode. Thank you so much for listening to Guy Set, a guy's guide to what should be talked about. I'm Josh, I'm 26 years old, and I'm here every single week, every single Tuesday to talk about what should be talked about for guys.

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