I saw Spider-Man brand new day this past weekend, and I have so much to talk about with you. About the lessons that I think everybody can learn from this movie. There are so many parallels to the lives of everybody who grew up.

Alongside Spider-Man in this movie, especially Tom Holland Spider-Man. Like if you're my age, if you're around my age, Tom Holland was the Spider-Man we grew up alongside. We saw Andrew Garfield and Toby McGuire when we were a little bit younger, but Tom Holland Spider-Man started around the time when I was maybe 15, 14, and I'm now 26 years old. So that's about 10 years of my life. Probably some of the most formative years of my life.

And growing up alongside Spider-Man and seeing what they've done with him now to the effect of the parallels of this audience currently, like the audience that grew up alongside him, as well as the people who are the young guys who are now seeing him for the first time, who are starting to grow up alongside this Spider-Man, and how important all of the different themes they hit on in this movie are. Like, I have so much to talk to you about that I'm trying not to get like overwhelmed and say too much to.

Quickly because I have I I'm I've been really excited about doing this episode. And right after I saw the movie, I was like, this is the perfect addition to the series that I started on here called What Guys Can Learn from Spider or no, sorry, What Guys Can Learn from Blank. And I wanna obviously do an episode, and I am doing an episode on What Guys Can Learn from Spider-Man brand new day because I there is so much in here. Like there is

So much in here, and I am so so excited to do this episode. You can probably tell because I sound crazy, but I just I have I really like in sitting and watching this movie, I was like, wow, holy shit. Like they took on all of the things that we really don't talk about as guys. A lot of the things that we avoid, a lot of the things we don't really know how to talk about or how to broach, topics like rejection and

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Balance and figuring out how to balance lot your life and your professional career and your like social life, social media comparison, comparing yourself and your life to the friends, to your friends' lives and what they're doing and where they are, and how much more success they seemingly have to what you have. And grief and loss.

And moving on and learning how to move on in the midst of all of that, moving forward, not just moving on, and needing a community and realizing that you can't do everything on your own, no matter how much you want to, or no matter how much you try to, you can't do everything on your own. They hit on like everything that they needed to hit on. And for young guys to get to see the hero, one of their favorite superheroes.

Deal with all of this and have this all play out in front of their eyes for two and a half hours and leave the feet the theater feeling like the things that they did not know how to address, or the things that they were pushing down or suppressing, or the things that they were like, wow, I thought I was the only person who ever experienced that too. Seeing their favorite superhero deal deal with those things on the big screen in front of you and realizing that you're not alone in any of this.

Is such an incredible thing that this movie did. And before we get into all of this, I just want to say I think that movies can be whatever you want them to be. I really do. And they can be as deep as you want them to be, and they can also be as shallow as you want them to be. They can be a few hour escape from reality.

Where you get to immerse yourself in a world that is so far from your own. And that is one of the greatest things about going to the movies and about sitting in a theater and getting to watch a movie on a big screen and forget about everything else going on in the world around you or everything going on in your life. You get to escape that for two hours when you walk into the theater and when you leave. That time is that escape. And that is what movies can give you. But

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They can also be a reflection of everything going on in your life. They can also teach you how to handle things going on in your life. They can also be a mirror to everything that you are experiencing. So that when you leave that theater, you know how to address them better, you know how to handle them better, you know how to solve the things, or you at least know how to start. And I think that is what movies can also do.

Do. And that is one of the greatest things that movies can do is that you can use it as a mirror to your world, a reflection of your life. You can see yourself in the characters inside that world and use that to teach you lessons about your own life and realize things you may not have realized before. I think that movies can be both things. And I think Spider-Man Brand New Day and superhero movies in general.

Do both of those things every single time if you're looking for it, if you're watching for it, if you care to see it, or if you care to find it. And I think that this is why superhero movies are so important, because yes, they are incredibly entertaining. It is so fucking fun to see Tom Holland fly through New York and spiderweb through all of these buildings. It is so fun to see him destroy 10 samurai dudes like all together.

It's so entertaining to see him just like defeat hero, super villain after villain after villain. That is so entertaining and fun. And it is like the best form of escape for me. And for a lot of people, it's such a fun escape from reality. But at the same time, it is such a mirror to our lives. So, specifically Spider-Man. And I'm gonna share with you everything I've learned through watching all these videos of Stan Lee, who was the co-creator of Spider-Man, talk about.

Creating Spider-Man and why he wanted to, and why he's such an important hero. And specifically him, like these superhero movies, Superman, Spider-Man, I'm gonna take those two in particular, can teach us things about our experiences that we get to see another way, see through the lens of a superhero, somebody that is supposed to have it all figured out, somebody that is seen as this like hero is the right word for this.

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And then seeing that a hero also deals with the same shit that you do, seeing that a hero also deals with rejection, also feels that emotion, also feels so low and lonely and powerless as you do when you get rejected. Seeing that a superhero also has to deal with

With comparing his life to his friends' lives and scrolling Instagram to see their lives play out in front of him and be jealous of that. Seeing a superhero try to do everything on his own and realize that you can't do anything just on your own in terms of dealing with grief.

And loss and trying to do everything for yourself because you need a community, you need relationships, you need people, you need to lean on people in times when you don't know what to do. You need people. We all need people. And seeing somebody who is supposed to be the most powerful guy deal with the same shit that you deal with on a daily basis makes us feel better about it all. Makes us feel better about the fact that we're not alone in this. Makes us feel better about the fact that we

Don't have to move forward on our own because if that guy can't do it on his own, neither can we. And if that guy deals with that shit, it's okay that we do too. If that guy deals with that shit, we must not be as weird and as awkward and as uncomfortable and as weird is the is the right word for it. We must not be as weird as we think we are.

This movie is about moving forward in the midst of loss and heartbreak and hardship and trying to figure out how to put one foot in front of the other. It is about the fact that you keep going regardless of all of it. It is about how nobody really knows what you're going through and what is going on inside your mind.

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The battles that you're dealing with and pushing down and what you're trying to work through and continuing to work through, but you still show up in the midst of all of that. Somebody on social media put this really well. They said, Maybe healing isn't about becoming who you were before, but becoming someone new, carrying the lessons instead of the weight, accepting your scars without letting them define you, and still believing that there is a future worth living.

Sometimes all you need is a brand new day. And there will always be a brand new day. It is that serious. Like Spider-Man, these movies, the lessons you can take from movies, it is that serious. I take this shit that seriously, and I invite you to as well if you want to. And if you don't want to, no harm at all, no foul. Like f you can watch the movie and just be like, this was fucking sick.

That's totally fine too. But if you're looking for the deeper meaning in it, if you're looking for something else to be a reflection of what you're going through, what you're dealing with, what you're trying to process, what you're pushing down, but it keeps coming back up regardless of how hard you push down on it. If you're looking for something to try and be a reflection, a mirror, any of those things to to the stuff that you actually deal with in an in your everyday life, every single day when you try and when you wake up and you try and put one foot in front of the other, like

This can be that for you two, and I invite you to step into that with me and be as kind of excited by this as I am. And Spider Man was developed to be a different type of superhero. Stan Lee, who was the co creator of Spider-Man in 1962, when he was talking to, I believe it was a college class or it was some sort of TED talkie situation, he said that when he created the concept for Spider Man, he wanted him to be somebody.

Who had the same problems as any ordinary guy or teenager. He wanted him to have to worry about money, have pimples, deal with rejection, and be a normal guy trying to balance both things at once. The life of a teenage guy and the life of a superhero. And for all of those reasons, Spider-Man resonates so deeply with so many guys, so many viewers, because

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We see ourselves in that character. That is why he is different. Because he's a teenager, because he's us, he's our age, he's dealing with the same shit that we're dealing with. And at the same time, he's saving the entire New York City. He has the same problems, the same situations, the same rejections, the same heartbreaks, the same struggles that all of us guys go through in our 20s, in our teens, like in all of this. Stanley also said.

I'm gonna give him personal problems because everybody has personal problems. And there was no teenager, no teenage superhero at the time. And when he presented it to his publisher, he was told that it was the worst idea the publisher had ever heard. He was told that teenagers can only be sidekicks. And he was told, Stan, don't you know what a superhero is? They don't have personal problems.

And he left that meeting feeling like he was not able to get Spider-Man out of his system, even though he had been told that this is an awful idea. Like this is the worst idea that the guy had ever heard. So instead of never putting him out into the world, he used the last ma issue of this magazine that was closing, that was it was its last issue, so like nobody was gonna read it no matter what. He put Spider-Man on the cover of that because it didn't matter. It was a dying magazine. And

That issue was the highest sales that magazine had seen in the longest time. And the publisher ran back to him and he was like, Stan, Stan, like, remember that character we both loved so much? The guy who had told him that he was it was the worst idea he'd ever heard. We should do a whole series on it. And he concluded this little talk by saying: if you have an idea that you think is genuinely good, don't let some idiot talk you out of it.

If there is something you feel is good, something you want to do, something that means something to you, try to do it. Because I think you can only do your best work if you're doing what you want to do and the way you think it should be done. And if you take pride in it after it's done. No matter what it is, if you look at it and you say, That's pretty damn good, just do your thing. Do it as well as you can. Don't shirk.

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Whatever you do, you'll be glad you did. And I love the Genesis, the creation of Spider-Man, this story behind Spider-Man, because he's always been this underdog, even in the behind the scenes of Spider-Man. He's always been this like, will he, won't he? Will this happen? Will this not happen? Story. And the fact that he was put out into the world and people related to him is the is the reason why.

We have Spider-Man. He has always related to people from the 1960s to 2026. Like he has been this character that people, that guys, that young guys see themselves in, that they can see in themselves on a big screen. They can say, Yo, you know what? This guy also has the same situation, same problem, same issues, same shit going on in his mind, the same feelings, the same worries, the same doubts.

That I have sitting here watching him. That is why he works so well. And Stan Lee also said he wrote stories for the young generation. And I think I've learned a lot about what young people think. More importantly, I think I've learned what young people are. We're going to try to present a voice that somebody will listen to. The voice is needed, and we hope it will be ours.

And that is how I feel about Guy Set and what I do here is I'm like, I feel like I know what a lot of young guys go through, and there is no voice for that. There's nowhere to come to and be like, yeah, I feel that same fucking way. And I see myself in everything that you're saying. And that's why I always say, like, I am no expert. I am just going through this alongside you. And that is how I feel about what Spider Man is to me and to so many other guys and young guys and audience members is that like

He is not an expert. He does not know what he's gonna do next. He's just going through it. He's just trying to figure it out. He's just taking it day by day, step by step. He's literally going with the flow and trying to do the best thing he can do. He's trying to be the best version of himself every single day. Although so many days, although most days that looks really messy, that looks really not good. It it he makes mistakes, he makes big mistakes.

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Mistakes that cost lives that cost like so much more than any mistake that we could make could cost. And seeing it exaggerated like that is exactly what we need to see. And and not knowing exactly what to do, but still trying. Not knowing the best thing to do, but always trying to do the best thing. That is what Spider-Man is.

And I think that's what superhero movies can do. They reflect what you need most, what you're working on or you're working towards. And they kind of act as this guide to direct you in wherever you're trying to go or you want to go. And I've always felt this way since I was a young kid watching these movies. So I want to try and break down the couple lessons, the couple major themes that I called out earlier in the episode, and why I think they are some of the biggest takeaways from this movie.

And why I think you will also relate to them too. Because everybody relates to all of this on some level or to some extent, whether it's right now, whether it's before, whether it's coming soon, everybody has these experiences. They're just not on the big screen most of the time. And that's the one thing that brings all of these things together is that all of us have gone through most of them, if not all of them. Like.

At some point in our lives, we have dealt with rejection or comparing ourselves or not feeling confident in ourselves or trying to do everything on our own and realizing at some point in that process that we can't do it all on our own. Trying to balance everything and really struggling with that, wondering if we can ever balance everything all at once. Grief.

Loss moving on, moving forward, all of these things, all of these major themes. And I want to start first with rejection because this is a massive theme in this movie. And there is a moment in this movie when he Tom Holland, Spider-Man, gets rejected from MJ. And you see him swinging throughout New York. They used like this really or they created this really cool sequence of him swinging through all these buildings.

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In the pouring rain, he's crying. And I have been there before. Like I have been in that exact same scenario before. Well, I have not been like flying through buildings and shooting webs out of my fingers, but like I have been in that scenario before where I am like so devastated after rejection or being rejected by this girl that I feel like that is what I need to do. And like that would be the most therapeutic thing possible if that was a thing I could do after that experience. Like

I think every guy has been there before. I think most guys, not every guy, I think most guys have been there before, have felt exactly that way before, saw him in that sequence and were like, I have been there before. And really felt what he felt in that scene. And seeing him go through that really, this like deep, intense rejection, and after putting himself out there, admitting his feelings, putting everything he had on the table.

And being like, I really like you and I I love you and I can't do this without you. Maybe not to that extent, but you've been in that scenario before, maybe probably. And the girl turning around and being like, I don't feel that way about you, or I just want to be friends, or I don't see this going any further. Or just laying your heart out on the line and feeling like it was stomped on and crushed into a million pieces.

This was, I think, one of the best scenes in the entire movie and just very, very relatable. And seeing, again, that this superhero and seeing that this superhero also goes through that makes you feel like you are not the only one who has experienced that. Makes you feel like you are not alone in that experience. That when you do go through that, you feel like you're the first and only person in the world who has ever felt that type of heartbreak or loss or rejection. But

Knowing now that every guy has experienced that makes it feel a little bit better, makes it feel a little less heavy. The next one I want to talk about is comparison. And in this movie, they did a really good job of showing like social media comparison. They literally showed Spider-Man at this point, Peter Parker, scrolling on his phone in his bed late at night, watching his friends live a life that he wanted to live, and watching them experience something that he wants to experience or wanted to experience.

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And his situation is much is much more dramatic because he couldn't have that. If you saw the last movie before this, it's like he he had to erase their memories and erase their memory of him in order for them to survive to save the world. Like it's a lot more dire than our situations, but the social media comparison that they shared and they showed is very real. Like we all have moments where we're laying in our bed or sitting on the couch and just scrolling our phone, watching everybody's lives.

Wishing that was ours, wishing that something somebody was experiencing that we could be there too, wanting to be a part of that, wishing we were invited to that party, wishing that we could have been there, would have been thought of, would have been invited. Like everybody has that moment. And I thought that was a really great way to depict that and and show that he also experiences that too. I just thought it was cool that they showed that. That it was just a very current way to show that.

longing and that comparison and that feeling of FOMO and missing out and not being a part of something that you really want to be a part of. And and I thought that was just cool. The next one I want talk about is balance. In this movie, Peter Parker and Spider-Man, which are the same person, but in for the sake of conversation, for the sake of the movie, they're very much dealt with as two separate people, two separate personalities and

These two things that Peter Parker can't exist if Spider-Man exists, and Spider-Man can't exist if Peter Parker wants to exist. And fe figuring out or trying to balance how to make both of these things work. Again, this is a much more dire situation because he's trying to save New York City, and we're trying to balance finding a career and chasing our dreams, and also staying in touch with our friends and going on dates and trying to maintain relationships. But

That's the purpose. It's supposed to do exactly that. It creates this much bigger scenario to show that yes, this it's okay that you also feel this way too. And you're seemingly much smaller and much like easier to deal with life. But no, like that is also hard. That is also something that everybody has to deal with, everybody has to struggle with.

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The f finding the balance between your career and your social life is hard. That is something that everybody has to do. And when you put it that way, it is kind of funny. But at the same time, like it's exactly what I was thinking about when I was watching. I was like, that is what it feels like sometimes to try and do everything you want to do and at the same time maintain everything you want to maintain and keep up with everyone you want to keep up with. And

I've talked about this before, but the struggle at the start after college, of trying to figure out how to balance going to work and the gym and doing your laundry and staying in touch with your friends and giving your family a call and going on dates and making dinner and being healthy and going to sleep at a good time and keeping up with your TV shows and doing everything you want to do, your hobbies, your sports, your everything. Like doing all of those things feels impossible.

And that is what this movie just did such a good job of depicting that it is, it can be and is impossible to do it all at the same time. Some things have to take priority over other things. You have to make sacrifices in order to do everything you want to do. You have to sacrifice something. Something has to give at some point. And that is what this movie showed: is that

Ultimately, you can have both, absolutely, but you do have to give up a few things along the way in order to get everything you want to have. You can have both, but that does not mean you can have both at every single moment, at every single time. You can have both, but they have to be at separate times, and you have to know that you have to sacrifice one thing here and one thing there. And some days you won't sleep as much, and some days you won't eat as well, and some days you won't do everything you wanted to do.

But you can do it all in time. It may not happen all today, it may not all happen tomorrow, but you have to give yourself time and grace and the room to try and do it all. And know that you have the room and the time to do it all. Balance was one of the biggest themes in this movie. One of the biggest things that Peter Parker really struggled with in this movie was how to do it all, how to have it all. And by the end, you start to see him grasp grasp the fact.

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That you can have it all. You can be both things. You can be both people. You just have to learn how to let one take priority at some times and other take priority at other times. How to prioritize, how to determine which is more important when. And that comes with time. It comes with experience. It comes with trying again and again and again. The next one I want to talk about is this realization that you can't do it all on your own, no matter how much you want to do it all on your own.

However much you think that you can hold on your shoulders without talking to anybody, without sharing anything with anybody, without ever leaning on somebody else and saying, hey, like I want to talk to you about this, or hey, I could really use your help, or hey, I'd love your advice, or hey, I'd love your thoughts here, or I just want to talk to you about this. I just want to share what I'm going through. This is one of the biggest things that guys do not talk about.

And it is the fact that we also need people. And we also need help. And we need people to lean on and ask questions to and share what's going on with. And a lot of us, most of us, myself included, are really bad at this. Most of us, if not all of us, are really bad at going to somebody when we do need help, sharing when we're struggling and what we're going through. And

leaning on the people and the support system we have around us. And I'm no exception to this. I feel like I'm really bad at this too. Like I am I'm somebody that can absolutely work on this. And it's going to the people in our lives when we're dealing with something and saying, hey, I'm dealing with this. And I just want you to know and I want to share this with you because I don't want to do this on my own. And I I want somebody there with me in it.

And I think that guys have a lot of work to do in this field, in this entire situation, because we aren't really raised or we don't really grow up with the idea that we're supposed to do that. That we grow up with the idea we grew up with the idea that we're supposed to figure it out on your own, that guys are tougher than that, that we're stronger than that, that we don't need to lean on people, that we don't have problems, that we when we do have problems, we push them down and we pray or we

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Push them down and we move on and we just deal with it and we keep our head high and we put our shoulders back and we just move forward. And that is how most guys are taught, or that's how generations and generations before us have been taught. And I think we're kind of breaking that in a lot of ways now by this, by talking about stuff like this, by having these conversations, by the amount of people I saw on social media after this movie, the amount of guys I saw on social media sharing their thoughts about this movie and what the lessons were that they took away from this.

That really honestly inspired me to do this whole episode. And I'm gonna share more of those in a second. But the fact that we're having these conversations, the fact that guys are opening up, the fact that we're leaning on our friends, that we're talking about this stuff, that we have places to talk about this stuff, like that is a major step in the right direction. That is a massive step in the right direction. And this movie does an incredible job of depicting the fact that no matter how much you want to do it on your own, no matter how hard you try to do it all on your own.

You can't. And it's better not to. And that is one of the biggest things that I really hope young guys and guys in general of all ages, honestly, take away from this movie. That it's just better to not. And you will be better if you don't try to do it all on your own. You will feel better. You will feel this weight lifted. You will feel less sad and dark if you lean on the people you have around you or if you

Try to lean on your community and you just work on that, you work towards that. I think that's one of the best things and the biggest things people can take away from this movie. And then the last one I want talk about is grief and loss. And this film really wrestles with the idea of moving on after loss and not letting grief determine your actions. It's about not being cruel even when the world is cruel to you.

It's about trying to do the good thing even when the world gives you no reason to do the good thing. It's about trying and trying again, getting back up again every single time and still trying to do the good thing again and again, even when there feels like there is no reason to do that. And after I left the movie this past weekend, I was scrolling my phone as I do, and seeing all of these things that people had written.

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On Instagram and TikTok about the takeaways they got from this movie, the biggest lessons they learned, what they left thinking about. And I think that's one of the coolest things that social media can do is we can collectively share our experience of what something does for us, what we learn from something. And I want to share some of them with you because I think they're really valuable and a lot of them put into what I'm saying in this whole episode much more succinct. And I think

It's just cool to see what all these different people took away from this and how they're going to move forward with these lessons in mind. So I'm gonna share some with you. the first one says, Thank you, Spider-Man, for reminding me that in life you're not always going to get the ending you hoped for. It's about choosing to do what's right, even when it costs you everything. You taught me that real strength is found in sacrifice, resilience, and never giving up on the people you love.

Even when life forces you to start over, you keep moving forward with hope and purpose. Watching Spider-Man Brand New Day healed me. It showed me that our past may shape us, but it doesn't have to define our future. Every new day is another chance to grow, to forgive, to rebuild, and to become a better version of ourselves. Thank you for showing that courage isn't the absence of pain. It's choosing to keep doing good despite it.

And in seeing all of these thoughts, I was like, okay, I'm not the only one taking this incredibly seriously. And and I'm happy to see that everybody else had really big, valuable takeaways from this movie, too. The next one said, This movie really helped me. Watching Peter grow up with me and now be 22 with me meant everything. Peter showed me not to isolate myself when things get hard, which I've been struggling with. Thanks to everyone that made this film.

This film made me feel seen and I know others felt seen too. Whatever you are going through, it will pass, and you don't have to do it alone. Someone said that somewhere between Spider-Man Homecoming and Brand New Day, we grew up becoming Peter Parker. Lost friendships, new identity, new places, never feeling like you truly belong anywhere. But we all have a brand new day, that chapter where life forces us to let go, start over and find ourselves again.

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Maybe that's why this story hits so differently now. It doesn't feel like Peter's Peter Parker's story anymore. It feels like ours. The next person said, I walked out of the theater like, wow, such a great portrayal of how to deal with loss and grief. Whether you've lost a loved one or somebody you thought would be in your life forever, in the end, it's how you respond to change.

The world has taken so much from Peter, and yet he still gets back up every single time and puts on the suit. He learned to not let it consume his life and not do it alone. The next person said, I just finished watching Spider-Man and it made me think that being a good person has never meant having an easy life. Sooner or later we will all lose something or someone we never thought we would lose.

There will be people who do not value everything you do, moments when you feel that you give so much more than you receive, and you will even think that changing will be much easier. But if this story has taught me anything, it's that life can take away many things, even a part of you, but it should never take away the decision to remain who you are. Because in the end, it's not about life always being fair, but about not letting pain, anger, or injustices change the heart of a good person.

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The next one says maybe the title Brand New Day was never about Peter Parker. Maybe it was about all of us. Every person who's had to become someone new after losing something they thought they'd never have to live without. Every heartbreak, every setback, every goodbye, every dream that didn't go according to plan. A brand new day isn't about forgetting who we are.

It's about believing that the next chapter can be better than the last one. Some stories aren't rewritten because they're broken. They're rewritten because they're not finished. The next one says this wasn't just a Spider-Man movie. It's a story about starting over when everything is lost, and accepting that some people will no longer walk with you, and about discovering that even after losing everything, there is still the possibility of rebuilding a new version of you.

Maybe that's the definition of heroism. The next one says: Spider-Man will always be the greatest superhero. I understand you, Peter. He carries pain, he carries mistakes, he loses the people he loves. Yet somehow he finds the strength to keep going. And sometimes Spider-Man has to do the hard thing, even if it breaks Peter Parker's heart. That line says everything.

But the one that shattered me was just because we've lost someone, it doesn't mean we have to do this alone. And then, I've been trying to live my life without you, but I can't. That one sat heavy with me. Peter Parker is constantly choosing everyone else, even when it costs him the people he loves. Watching him stand in front of MJ carrying memory memories that he only remembers reminded me that sometimes the deepest pain isn't losing someone. It's loving them while having to let them go.

That's the kind of heartbreak no superpower can fix. Not because he can save the world, but because he keeps getting back up after the world keeps breaking his heart. And I'm just gonna read two more or three. I guess there's I have so many in here that I could keep reading, but I'm gonna keep going, because I think they're really good. Watching Brand New Day made me realize that it wasn't just about Spider-Man anymore. For the first time, I found myself understanding Peter Parker, his loneliness, his sacrifices, his grief.

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The way life keeps knocking him down, yet he chooses to do the right thing. Growing up is realizing Spider-Man was never just about saving the world. It was about finding the strength to keep moving forward when the world doesn't always give you a reason to. Maybe we didn't just grow up watching Spider-Man, maybe we grew up with Peter Pan.

I should end on that one. That one's so good. Just watch Spider-Man Brand New Day, and I truly believe this movie is for anybody trying to move forward after heartbreak, a friendship breakup, setbacks, or when life simply doesn't feel the same or fair anymore. Sometimes nobody knows the battle you battles you fought, the things you've lost, or how hard it was to just keep going. But you keep going anyway. One step, one day at a time. Maybe healing isn't about becoming who you were before.

But becoming someone new, carrying the lessons instead of the weight, accepting your scars without letting them define you, and still believing there's a future worth living. Sometimes all you need is a brand new day. This is just some of the stuff that everybody is saying online about this movie. So it's obviously not just me who has taken this movie very much so to heart. And

Saw a lot of the challenges I face, the things I've gone through, the things I'm going through in this movie. And I think that you will or might have too. And I think that talking about this stuff and talking about how important it is to see a character go through this stuff is so beneficial to any guy watching this movie. And I wanna end with the quote of the movie or two quotes of the movie that I've kind of become the heart of the movie.

It's from Aunt May. She says that this whole thing can get really scary, but the people that love you love you because you're you. Never forget that, no matter how powerful you become. I want you to remember that even if it feels like you're totally alone, that is your deepest responsibility. Never forget.

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And then Spider-M says later in the movie, he says, just because we've lost someone doesn't mean we have to do this alone. I mean we can't. I've been trying. Doesn't work. This movie is about finding strength to keep going and keep moving forward when the world doesn't always give you a reason to. It's about not losing yourself amidst the hardest moments and the hardest parts.

And I think that there is so much to learn, so much to take away, and so much that any guy watching this movie, anybody watching this movie, can learn from the movie and about themselves that they can take forward with them in any situation, any moment, to feel like they are not the only ones going through that and to feel like they don't need to be the only ones going through that.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Why is Spider-Man so relatable?

Spider-Man is relatable because Peter Parker deals with ordinary problems alongside extraordinary ones. He experiences rejection, heartbreak, self-doubt, money problems, relationships, and the struggle to balance different parts of his life, which makes it easy to see yourself in him.

What can Spider-Man teach us about rejection?

Spider-Man shows that rejection can hurt deeply without defining what happens next. You can feel disappointed, heartbroken, or lost while still eventually getting back up and moving forward.

What does Spider-Man teach us about comparison?

Peter Parker experiences the same temptation to compare his life to other people's lives. His story is a reminder that seeing what everyone else is doing can make you feel behind or left out, even when you have no idea what their full life actually looks like.

What does Spider-Man teach us about balance?

You don't have to do everything at the same time. Peter's struggle to balance being Spider-Man with having a life as Peter Parker reflects the challenge of balancing work, friendships, dating, family, health, and everything else you want to prioritize. Sometimes one part of your life has to take priority over another.

What is the biggest lesson from Spider-Man: Brand New Day?

The biggest lesson is that moving forward doesn't mean pretending nothing happened. You can carry heartbreak, loss, mistakes, and setbacks with you while still believing the next chapter of your life can be better. You also don't have to figure everything out alone.