The Internet's Work Advice, Explored

So many people give career and work advice online every single day. I feel like I'm seeing more and more of it. And that's also one of the many things that I talk about on here. Like I share the career advice that I have learned so far, that I have so far, that I think I can impart and that I can share.

With anybody that wants to listen to it, with anybody that's kind of going through that right now, whether you're first starting out, whether you're in a job, whether you're looking to change jobs, whether you feel like a little bit lost in your career, whether you want to do something else, but you have no idea what to do next, whether you walk into work and you have no idea how to really like conduct yourself or what you're supposed to do or how you can improve or how you can get a raise or how you can be better or how you can talk to your boss better, how to handle

Criticism and bad like conversations with your boss. Like all of these different things, all of these different kinds of situations that we all have to learn how to navigate in work when we first start work and when we're just figuring out what the fuck to do with our careers and how to figure it all out. I feel like I have a lot to say on all of that, or at least I'm willing to share what I have learned so far in terms of all of those different situations. And there are so many of those situations. So I feel like I've

Talked about a lot of those, and I will continue to talk about a lot of those as well because those those things like never stop, right? Like there is always somebody that is looking for advice in one or all of those topics at one point or another, or always now. And there's always more to say about all of those. And and I will always talk about kind of like corporate life and career and work and all of all of those topics.

And with all of the things I'm seeing online, I kind of got the idea to explore some of the advice other people are giving about work and career and corporate life and give my thoughts on what they say. Instead of just coming on here and giving my thoughts, which I will do. This is just like an idea I had. I thought it could be fun to share what I think about what they're saying. So

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I've compiled like 12 or so, it might be more, pieces of advice that I have found online on Instagram, on TikTok. People giving those videos are like, this is the best piece of advice that you can have when you're about to go into work for the first day. Or like, if there was one thing I can tell you this is that, or somebody being like, I'm 50 and this is what I wish I knew when I started work, or I just started and this is what I knew yesterday, or like all these people who

Kind of come in with all of their like quick little credential or just tell you everything you need to know and give you my thoughts on them. And if I like it and if you like it, maybe this could become another regular installment or a series, which I think could be really fun because there are also so many other topics that I could do this with, whether it's dating or lifestyle or mindset or fitness. Like there are so many

Different areas that people give their advice on online. And I think it could be fun to explore that advice and give my thoughts on those pieces of advice. So these are the things people are saying to help prepare you for the corporate world and for your job and for your career. And my thoughts on each of them. Let's get into it.

The first one is you will become enemies with an older coworker for no reason. This one is really funny. And honestly, I can say that I find this one to be kind of accurate. in my previous work experience, I have found that this happens. Like it just does. It not only has happened to me, it has also happened.

To my coworkers, to my friends. Like I have I've actually seen this one countless times and I'm laughing because when I read it, I I think it kind of sounds crazy that like, why would you become enemies with an older coworker? Like, why would that happen? And I think the reason behind that is, I don't know, maybe like jealousy or like envy or like the older generation feeling like the younger generation doesn't have to work hard enough or

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got in the door too easily or isn't working as hard as they had worked and like all it it I think that kind of stems from the older generation kind of looking at like Gen Z and being like why Iada like those little fuckers like f you know what I mean? Like how the older generation kind of hates Gen Z. And we give them a lot of reasons to not like us. I I I do agree. Like we we are kind of like an obnoxious, loud, arrogant, like very

Extroverted is a much better word for all those different things. Like generation, we kind of like go for what we want. We I mean these are the stereotypes of Gen Z. Like we go for what we want, we ask for ask for what we want. We're not afraid to ask questions. We're not afraid to be like just say whatever we want. We're not afraid to cold call or call someone up or shoot our shot. Like that is kind of what Gen Z embodies. It's really this kind of like fearless, tenacious, ten tenacious energy. And at the same time.

We also very much so want like a work-life balance. We also very much so wanna leave the office at five exactly on the dot. We wanna get in at nine, nine thirty, ten. We wanna have a lot of work-life benefits. We wanna have a lot of benefits. We wanna have a lot of opportunity. We wanna post on social like social media. Like there are I could go into this stereotypes of Gen Z. That's not what I'm trying to do, but I feel like that is an important context to this one.

To the fact that you might, and this person's saying will, I'm saying might. I'm it's not the case for every single person, become enemies with an older coworker for no reason. I think that stems from the older generation or an older coworker just being mad at the younger generation and taking it out on you. and like look, that that shit happens. And there are so many different scenarios at work where an older coworker will be mad at a younger coworker for

Coming in and saying something that either steps on their toes or and this could happen this that this doesn't have to be like an age situation. It could be any such any coworker where somebody comes in and like steps on their toes and says something or changes the way things have been done previously or changes things up or prev presents a new way to do things, that pisses people off, especially when it starts to work and other people like it and you kind of get credit for it and they like their kind of old esoteric dinosauric ways are like kind of out the window. That

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It makes sense why an older coworker will be annoyed at a younger coworker. I think overall, be prepared for not everyone to like you is what I want to say from this one, or what I would take from this one. And that will happen regardless of how much you try to have everybody like you. Like it is so far out of your control to have everybody like you and maybe know that going in. Like, I'm not saying go in and and like kick down every door and

Be like be r no, don't be r don't d you know, obviously I'm not saying that. I'm just saying that regardless of what you do, not everybody is going to like you or love you or think that you are the greatest or the best. And there will be or there might be things that you do that piss people off or make people annoyed, whether it's a good thing or a bad thing. and I think that is kind of par for the course, and I think that is something that everybody has to get used to in work and in corporate life. that

Not every coworker is your friend, is your best friend. And you're not really always there to make friends. You're you're there to do work, to get your job done, to hopefully excel at your job. And it's not always about having everybody like you. And I think that's something that we need to remember and kind of internalize and know going into any job that

You're not always gonna be so liked by everybody, and that is okay. And I I think it's important to say that that is okay, and not everybody has to like you. and maybe you'll become friendly enemies with an older coworker for no reason, and maybe there is a reason to that too. but you might become enemies with an older coworker. I I can acknowledge that one. The next one is do not overshare and don't get too personal.

I agree and disagree with this one. I think that I think the kind of idea behind this one of not saying too much or giving too much or divulging too much about your personal life is probably a ver a good thing, a good rule to follow. Like I think you don't need to tell everybody everything and you shouldn't tell everybody everything. But I think if you have a friend and somebody that you do really trust, like a confidant or a coworker that you really like.

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I think you can get personal with them and and share to them, but I think this does go for mostly everybody. Like it's it this the the exception to this rule is your one or two close coworker friends, and the rule goes for everybody else. Not getting too personal and oversharing, I think is a good thing. I think the kind of impetus behind this one is to remain professional and not let your personal life seep into your professional life.

I think this also goes to so many other parts of the corporate world too. Like you never want to take feedback personally, and this isn't what this person is saying. I'm just kind of adding this in on my own. it's important not to take feedback personally and and separate the feedback from your person. Like

The feedback can be just about your work and a criticism of the way you work or what you're doing or what you have done. And that does not have to be taken to heart and be like, this is an attack of me and my character, and like, fuck that person for that. no, it is important to separate your personal and your professional. And I think that's what this person is saying. Do not overshare and don't get too personal. I think that is good advice, especially in

meetings and with your boss. I think it's important also to like divulge some things like about that you have a girlfriend or that you're going on a trip with your friends or that you play pickleball or whatever the fuck. Like that you watch this TV show. Like there are things that are good to say to like bond over and and make like the kind of

boring work stuff a little easier when you do get to talk about fun things and you have commonalities with your coworkers and you have things to bond over. I think that is important. So don't take this one too far to the point where you're like, someone's like, How are you? Like good. They're like, how was your weekend? You're like, it was good. And you're like, what'd you do? You're like, good. Like don't don't don't take it at a level where you don't say anything. I think this is a little bit too strict to be like, do not get personal and do not share anything. Like I think this

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That's like the far, far, far end of the spectrum. And you should probably land somewhere in the middle of making sure you keep yourself professional and don't ch overshare too much, is what I would say to this one. The next one is send an email to yourself every Friday with a recap of what you were working on and any accomplishments. That way, when you're pulled for a review, you will have receipts of what you've done.

I think that is fantastic advice, by the way. What I used to do at my first job, we were a asked to do this and like tasked to do this. and maybe after the first six months, they're like, We don't we don't care about this anymore. but I kind of wish it stayed, is we had to send in our team chat the three things we did that week and the three things we were working on next week. And it kind of gave this like transparent look into what everyone was doing, and it was kind of a way for you to like

Then connect what you were doing with somebody else. Cause it is easy to get like siloed into your work and not really know what anybody else is working on. It's also a great way to share what you're working on so people know your value and what you're doing. most companies, most organizations don't have that. Some do. Some some have like you have to present on this and that. It those are usually smaller companies, I would say. but I think this is fantastic advice for anybody.

To keep a list of the things you've been working on that week and the things you're working on, I would I would add on the things you're working on next week. I think this is a good habit and a good practice to get into for anybody. maybe it's an email or a Slack or just like a running document of like these are the three things I did this week. This is what I'm doing next week. So that when you get to the end of the month, or it doesn't even have to be for a review, like it also can just be for your one-on-ones.

Whenever you're talking to your boss and you're like, So what are working on? Like you have a tracker of that, you have a document of that that you're continuously updating. I think that's awesome. And I I would recommend that to anybody starting out. it's also just a good way to like when you are eventually, or if you do eventually decide you want to go to a different job or look for something else or start something else, or you don't know what you want to do next, you can kind of look at everything you have done and

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Kind of parse out like the best things you've done, the things you like the best, the things you were best at. and you can also look at what you've had the most experience at, what you've developed most, the skills you've worked on, the skills you've kind of honed in on. and it's a really good way to just have a kind of like full picture of everything you've worked on. it's also a great way to help yourself build your resume moving forward.

Because we should be constantly updating our resumes, whether it's every few months, whether it's six months a year. Everybody should be updating their resume. And this is a good way to kind of keep track of that. And and like when you get to the point, and if you get to the point where you're like, fuck, I need to get a new job or I want to get a new job. And then you're not you're not scrambling for what should be the bullet points about this job on my resume, you have a completed list and a full picture of everything you've done. And it's very easy to be like, okay.

This was the most important thing. This was the highest priority. And this is what I did. And like here's everything I got to. And you kind of create that full picture for yourself. So I would really recommend doing this for anybody. I think this is a great piece of advice. And I'm happy I found this one because I have no notes about this. The only note I would say is that it doesn't have to be an email to yourself, although it could be, but it could be a Slack, it could be a document, could be a notebook that you keep. just something, some way, whatever is easiest for you to keep this.

Maybe also just instead of at the end of the week, you also do this at the beginning of the week on Monday. So you are also clear about your initiatives, your tasks, what you're working on, what you need to do. it's a good way for all of us to kind of prioritize and and know what should be prioritized. So maybe just instead of just Friday, also do this on Monday too. But whatever works for you. The next piece of advice is try to do some fun things before and after work throughout the week.

It really makes the biggest difference. I think this is also a really good piece of advice. It is a good way to kind of make sure you're maintaining some sense of your social life and some semblance of your social life. And you're not kind of letting your career and your work be the only thing in your life. You're making sure you're prioritizing lots of other things that are important to you.

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Especially when you're first starting out, it can be the most stressful thing in the world to go into this job that's five days a week that is your entire life or feels like it's your entire life, whether it's nine to five, nine to six, nine to whatever your hours are, it feels like a lot of your life and most of your life is consumed by this thing. And your time that once was yours is no longer yours. And this is a great way to kind of reclaim the time you do have to yourself.

Whether that's scheduling a workout or going to the gym before work, whether that's taking a long walk before work, whether it's reading or writing or whatever you want to do, whether it's watching TV, whether it's whatever you wanna do to like get your mind right before work, I think it's important to schedule something that you have so you're not just going into work. That also isn't that all that easy to maintain forever.

there will be days when you wake up late, you go to bed late, you're hungover, whatever it is. Like there's gonna be so many of those days. but try to schedule something before work, and I think especially after work, so that you're looking forward to something, whether it's once a week or twice a week, maybe even more than that. Try to have whether it's a dinner with friend, a drinks with friends, a date, a comedy show, a show, a movie, a walk.

A workout, a run, a like I'm just kind of spitballing off top of my head. Something for yourself. Whatever it is, I think it's important to have at least one thing a week that you're doing that's fun that will make a big difference for you and your mindset and your mental clarity and your health and like overall happiness. Like all of these things will be affected positively by having plans that you're looking forward to and that you're excited about throughout the week. I think that.

It's funny because like as when we're younger, it's like that's a school night. But then as you're older, it's like this is just life. Like there's no more school nights. This is just your life. And this just goes on and there's no summer break and there's no this break. And like, yes, you have PTO and you have time off and you have vacations. And I know that all this is sounding really daunting, and I don't mean for it to be be that way, but it is just kind of the truth and the reality of it is that a lot of your time will not always feel like your own. most of it won't feel like your own. And this is a great way to have your time feel like your own again.

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By scheduling something that you're looking forward to and that you're excited about. I've talked about this a couple of times in the past few weeks on this podcast, is that I think one of the best things we can all do for ourselves is to have things to look forward to and be excited about. And that is making a plan and having one plan a week, whether it's with yourself or whether it's with friends or whether it's with your girlfriend or going on a date or seeing somebody, whether it's with a family member or whatever it is.

having something to look forward to every week, especially when work gets really overwhelming and exhausting and draining, does make a massive difference. So to this one, I think it's a great piece of advice. And I I do believe, and I completely agree, that it truly makes a big difference doing something fun before or after work. In most cases, I would say after work is probably much easier. the next piece of advice is to get everything in writing, it's in all caps.

Save all your emails. Both of those are in all caps. I think getting everything in writing is a phenomenal piece of advice. This also goes for contracts, for conversations with your coworkers, for conversations with external teams, for conversations with international for all teams. Like having things in writing to be able to look back at not only gives you the

Clarity to be like, okay, I am doing what I'm supposed to be doing. And also I'm covering my ass in the chance or in the situation that something happens and comes back to me and I get called in or like someone says something about this thing. Like having the thing to point to to be like, hey, I was given this directive, or hey, this this was what this person said, or having something in writing, having everything in writing is and always will be good.

Like it that goes for not even just work or corporate or just especially in that world though, like having things in writing that you can point to that you can say, like, this is what this person told me to do, or this is what this person said. not as like a way to tell on people, just as a way to track what you the conversations you've had, what this person directed you to do, what this person said. Like everything also, like, let me just say about this one.

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Everything in your work computer can be tracked as well by the company. And that is important to remember. Anything you say on Slack can and shall shall and will be held against you in the court of law. And I do mean that seriously. Like, not that it will be. Like you like text your coworker and be like, ha ha, like you can text all that stuff on Slack, and like not most of the time, nothing's gonna matter. It won't matter. and you just like maybe don't talk shit on Slack, maybe don't talk like.

Just remember, like that stuff is corporate. That stuff is company territory. Like everything on your c company computer is and can be tracked by your company. I'm not saying any of this to scare you. I'm just saying this because I think it's an important thing to r for everybody to know and it's an important reminder to share that like everything that you have written can be traced back to you on your company computer, same with searched, same with sent, like all of it.

same with all of the conversations you have. So just know that. And I think it's something that everybody should know. And it's a good reminder for people too. Like I think as time goes on in our jobs, we kind of get a little more like lackadaisical about that. And we're like, well, whatever, like what's gonna happen? Like the it's just it just it's a re good reminder. Like there was something I saw in the news recently that there like slack messages, and I was like, There's just it's good new good reminder. I feel like that happens all the time where there's like slack messages in the news. it's good to know that that can be and will be used, and can be. not that it will be, not that it will be, not saying that it will be.

yeah, get everything in writing. I think this is good advice for everybody. if somebody says something to you in a conversation, that really can't be used as any evidence about anything. So if somebody says something and you you think it's really important, you could could just easily be like, hey, like would you mind sending that to me over email just so like I have it or just so I can kind of keep track of that?

They will. That's like a a very good practice to get into, to like, hey, I'd love to if you could send that to me over email, that would be great. I I know you said that earlier, but like I want to make sure I'm I'm making crossing all my I's and dotting all my T's. and get in the practice of doing that. It's it's good. Yeah, save all your stuff. This is something else. It's kind of a follow-up to this one. this person said, please cover your ass. If something was only discussed verbally, this is kind of exactly what I said. I didn't even see this one. If something was

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Well, I I saw it earlier because I wrote it down, but I haven't looked back at these. I'm just giving my kind of thoughts on them on the fly. If something was only discussed verbally, always send a follow-up chat or email. And then this is what they said to say. So this is awesome. Quote Just wanted to confirm our convo about getting X done by Y date, etc. Cannot overstate how this can save you. I think that is true. I think it doesn't just apply for like this thing or that thing. It's also like about a conversation about this thing. But like

I think that is a great way to say it, to phrase it. Just wanted to confirm our convo about blank. That that's a great way to say it. You can you don't even have to take the X or Y about this date. Like just wanted to confirm our convo about blank. and then they will respond saying, Yeah, like we're confirming this. Great. That's in writing. It doesn't have to be like a formal signed-off email by them. Just having that tracking for your peace of mind, for your clarity, also knowing that it could

Help you later down the road, or when somebody asks about this thing, like it could be really helpful for you. So get in the practice of doing that. I said it, and now this person, this anonymous person, has confirmed it. The next piece of advice is get comfortable being bored. I think I want to rebut this and also confirm this one. I think there are so many moments at work that can be really bored.

Boring and can be very like draining and kind of droning on. I think that if you are bored, it could potentially mean, I'm not gonna say will, because I I I think there are some scenarios and lots of scenarios and lots of jobs where like they are just kind of long, kind of blah boring tasks that you have to do, you have to get it done. And that ha I think that happens in every job. There will be something that you have to do, and it just sucks and it's boring and it's blah. but I wanna also say for some scenarios that

If you are feeling consistently bored at work, one, it means there could be something else for you to do. And I think it's a good thing to ask your boss or your manager or your higher up, like, hey, I've completed this task. Like, is there something else I can do? Or hey, like, is there anything I could do to help you out? One, I think that's a great look for you. Like, honestly, I feel like that's a really good thing and a good practice to get into for any person working to be like, hey.

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Is there anything else I could help you out with? Is there is there anything I could do that could help you out or anything I could take off your plate? Bosses managers fucking love that shit. They're yeah, of course. Like here's this and that. Like, thanks. and it it's a good look. Like it makes you when review time comes around, it's like this they're thinking about the fact that this person is really helpful. They're always kind of trying to go the extra mile, they're always looking for extra work to do. They're they're looking for how they can be of value, they're looking for what they can do to kind of help this team out.

And I think that's a good practice to get into. So if you are feeling bored and it's because you don't have anything to do or there's not there's something that you can take on otherwise, like reach out to a coworker or your manager and and help out the team. That just gives you more value and more leverage and and helps makes you look like a better teammate, a better worker, a better coworker. there's no fault in that. And I also think that the other side of it is if you're bored for a really, really, really long time.

It might be time to look for something else. It might be time to take your talents and your abilities elsewhere. Like that, that might be a sign that, like, all right, I've done this one for a while. I've done everything I can do here. I've learned everything I can learn here. Maybe it's time to try something else. Maybe it's time to look for another job. And I think that is an indicator and a sign. Like boredom is an indicator and a sign that it's time to maybe try something else or.

Start looking at least, updating and refreshing your resume, seeing what else is out there, getting kind of together in your mind what position you'd want to do next or what you'd want to try or what you'd wanna pursue. Like I think that is a sign that it's time for something new. So there's a few situations about boredom, and I don't think it's a blanket statement about like get used to or get comfortable being bored. No, I I I don't really like that one.

I think that there are moments that you will be bored at work. Absolutely. And there are times when you're bored at work that you can ask for more work and ask how you can help out or what you can do to benefit the team or how you can be valuable elsewhere or what else you can learn, maybe other teams you can sit in on, or how you can help the company or help other whatever. Like there are so many things you can do.

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And then the third one is the boredom that is has been going on for a long time. That it's like, all right, is it time to look for something else? Has my time here kind of come to an end? Is there anything else I can do here? Or should I be looking for something else and kind of find my next thing, find my next career move? So I think that boredom could fall into any of those three buckets, and it's not a get used to or get comfortable being bored. I I don't like that one.

The next one is but but I but I agree with it to some some circumstances and some scenarios. I I I agree that there will be moments where you are bored and determine which one the boredom falls into when you are bored. Determine is it boredom because I have to do this repetitive task and that's the job and I have to do this.

Is it boredom because I have nothing to do and I could do more and I probably should be doing more? And is it boredom for long enough that it's time to look for something else? So determine which one of those buckets it falls into. The next one is weight gain can sneak up on you. It's hard to stay active when you start a full-time job job, to be honest. And it's very easy to overeat when you're not doing a lot of activity.

Wow, I think this is a really good one. I wouldn't have thought about this one, and I think that's why I like this a lot. Is I'm I'm kind of jumping all over the place. I'm not really in any order of like advice about starting out or advice about this. This is just kind of like all-encompassing work advice. There's so many different facets to all of this. Some of it's about your mental health and your mental state and your happiness. Some of it's about your body and and your literal like physical state.

This one is th that this is kind of cool. I wouldn't have thought about this. Not cool that you would get fat like that, but I think it does happen. Honestly, I think it happens to a lot of people. that they're sitting at their desk all day. They're not walking around, they're not getting to the gym, they're not being active, you're not getting outside that much. A lot of the time you're at your desk the entire day. And the only movement you have is getting to work and going back home. And then when you get back home, you sit on the couch and you watch TV and you fall into like a pretty

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bad routine or cycle of that and you're not getting a lot of activity and you're not and maybe you start dating somebody and then you kind of gain weight from that and like there's so many different weight gaining scenarios after college. I feel like people only ever talk about like the freshman 15, like the weight you gain in college freshman year because you're just like eating so much and drinking so much and you get really fat. I got fat. No I did yeah I did. I absolutely did. oops I think that there's also like a freshman 15 of after college.

That when you first start out in your first job and you're drinking and you're going out and you're eating out a lot and you're just like not really focused on eating healthy or getting into a routine or working out or all that stuff, like it really can sneak up on you. And I'm really happy this person brought this up because I think it's an important one. that especially when you're they your company orders lunch for you. You're like you're sitting there at your desk and then you sit at the lunchroom or you sit at your desk to eat and then you go back to work and then you get a snack and you get a diet coke and you get this and you get that.

And you're then you're going home and you're like ordering or you're picking up food. And it's like the it's it could yeah, it's a pretty easy way to gain weight quickly. so I think the kind of counterbalance to this, the way to not fall into this trap is to do what I was talking about earlier. And it's kind of it fell into that like kind of fun activity one, but I think this is one I what I wanna add into this is I think it's important to develop a routine.

Early on or earlier than you think you need to, of maintaining your physical kind of state, and going to the gym and getting exercise, whether it's three times a week, four times a week, five times a week, joining a gym, getting a gym membership, and committing to that. I feel like when you pay for something, it makes it so much more likely. There's gotta be some sort of psychology there that, like when you pay for something, I think there is, when you pay for something,

you're much more likely to want to do it or do it actually, because you feel like you should and you feel like you have to and you feel like it's a waste otherwise. so I think paying for a gym membership is a really great way to kind of it's a good like anecdote and not anecdote, what's the word? antidote? It's a good kind of antidote to gaining weight or the potential of gaining weight when you first start a job or when you're in a job, when you're in a corporate setting.

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Kind of carving out the time that you need to go to the gym and figuring out what time you have to get up in order to do that, whether you're going before work or after work. I used to go to the gym after work almost every day in my first job. And then I got to the point where I was super overwhelmed by the fact that I had time for nothing else. And if I did have plans after work, I wouldn't be able to go to the gym because maybe it was a happy hour, or maybe it was a date, or maybe it was dinner with friends, or maybe it was this. And like then after that,

It was eight or eight thirty or nine. And then I like, I'm not getting to the gym at nine. I need to go to bed. I need to get so to sleep at a reasonable time. I've also talked to nobody and I've never I I like haven't done all the things I want to do. And like you you kinda get into this hard routine of when you do go after work, it's hard to do anything else. that at least happened to me and it was really stressful and overwhelming. And then I was like, fuck. and that is when I transitioned to going to the gym before work. and that changed like

the game for me, truly, because I was able to then do I I had like got got like the best of both worlds. but that then meant I had to get up at like seven and or six thirty or six forty five or whatever it was. I had to get up at seven and get out by seven ten, which meant I then the night before pulled out my clothes and packed my bag and I was ready to go right at that time I got up when I was able to like pee brush my teeth and kinda like go.

And that was really helpful to me, but it but it kind of changed like the entire routine starting from the night before. and then I would get to the gym by, I don't know, call it 720, 730, work out for 45 minutes to an hour, shower there, and then get to work by nine, nine fifteen, nine thirty, whatever I needed to get whatever time I needed to get there by. but it really shifted my entire routine. And it also kind of changed the way I worked. Like it changed the way I showed up at work.

Because I wasn't rolling out of bed and walking to work and walking in like, hey, like which most people do, and I'm not calling fault to that either, but for me personally, I was able to then show up and be like, Hey, how are you? And like I was much more present. I was much more like attentive. I was much more able to kind of switch what I was doing or be more present or be more like active and and ready and prepared and and responsive.

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which you can't really do when you're tired and you're just waking up. Like it's just so much harder. so working out in the morning kind of gave me all these new things I didn't have when I first started. It kind of gave me like a whole new lease on my work life. and also I I was just happier. I had more energy. I was much more mentally clear. Like I I really recommend it if you're trying to figure out how to work out and and

balance a schedule or create a schedule. I really recommend working out in the morning before work. But I think honestly, whatever time works for you is good. Whatever time works for you works. and if you don't want to get fat, which I'm sure you don't.

This is a good thing to do. Cause it can sneak up on you. It's it's easy to gain weight when you have a job you're sitting at for the entire day and you're working the entire day. And then you leave the job and you're exhausted and you're tired. And the last thing you want to do is do an intense workout or lift or whatever it is. Like literally the last thing you want to do after work is like go to the gym. And then you either have to will yourself to do it or you have to believe that it's important enough to do it.

And then kind of train yourself to do that and and then it becomes part of your routine. like when I started working out in the morning, I did not want to get up and work out. I felt the same way that I was saying about after work. I was like really tired in the morning and that was the last thing I wanted to do. But over time and with consistency and with like really kind of making myself do it because I knew it was the best thing for me, and I knew it would kind of save me all of that like overwhelm and stress and anxiety of.

Figuring out when I could work out and then missing my workout and feeling stressed about that. I knew it was best for me. So I kind of trained myself to do it. And now I can't really imagine my day without it. Like to be honest with you, now I can't really start my day without it, my work day without it. And I I feel like it has become such a crucial and like important part of my workday. And I couldn't recommend it more. So if you're worried about getting fat, that is the way to fix it.

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The next one is if you like to gym, cook, clean, etc., after work, make sure you do not allow yourself to sit down once you get home, or you will definitely fall asleep. I recommend making lunch and picking your outfit out the night before. You will be tired in the morning and thank yourself for having it done already. Wow, this is also one of those, like it just happened from what I was saying before. and it's confirming that. I I I think that this is great advice.

Picking out your outfit the night before, like laying out what you're gonna wear, makes the morning so much easier. Whether it's the outfit for the gym and your outfit for work, or whether it's just your outfit for work, it makes like that like decision, the analysis paralysis to like what the fuck am I supposed to wear so much easier when you figure it out at night. I recommend that to everybody. I I personally love it. I've done it now for like three years, and I think it has really been beneficial to me.

also like the making your lunch. If you wanna bring your lunch to work, do it the night before instead of having to do it the morning of. And I think the other piece of it is kind of a counterpart to what I was just saying of like not letting yourself sit down when you get home. Like if you wanna remain active and you wanna have plans and you wanna do all the things you wanna do.

Sitting down when you get home, like you will just sink into the couch and get tired and like fall asleep and then the night will be over. And I have had so many nights like that. I had a night like that last night, to be honest with you. like literally last night I I had so many things I want to do and I sat down and watched an episode of TV and then I was just like scrolling my phone and then I literally fell asleep on the couch and I was like, and now it's eleven thirty PM and fuck. That happens to me all the time. I feel like it happens to everybody all the time. I feel like that's a very normal thing for ev that happens to everybody.

But know that. Like, know if you really want to be productive and you have the things you want to do and you want to maintain a healthy life and a fun life and a social life. when you get home, sitting on your couch will lead to, like it should have one of those signs like caution, sitting on the couch when you get home will lead you to fall asleep and get nothing done. Like that is just the truth of it. and if you want to maintain all the other things, then don't do that. This is a really good piece of advice. I completely agree with it. if you wanna j go to the gym, cook, clean,

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Don't sit down when you get back from work because this is so real for so many people. Like you sit down on the couch when you get back and you're just like that it happens to everybody. and it's a normal part of figuring it all out. And like I also want to add into a lot of these, like, don't beat yourself up when you do like mess up at these. Like as I was just saying, like I did this last night. Like this is this, I'm still working at this. I I will always be working at this. I will never be good at it. I will never like the perfect at this. And I don't think anybody will be perfect.

This and have everything right, and every week will go according to plan, and every night will go according to plan, and you will, and every morning, like it it's not always going to work. It's you're not always gonna do everything you want to do, but you can try. And then when it doesn't work, you try again. And I think that is the mentality to bring into all of this. there's a couple pieces of advice I actually didn't get to in here. There's like a lot I didn't get to, so I had many more than 12.

So I am gonna do this again because I really liked this, and I think it was a fun way to find people's advice and also give my thoughts on them. And it led to a lot of other conversations that I may not have had otherwise. so I really, really liked this, and I hope you like it too, because I'm gonna do it again, I think, and do a part two or just make it a series of exploring the work advice and the corporate and career advice I find online. and maybe I'll try it for other topics as well.

But I think with all of this, like have some grace with yourself. Like have just don't be too hard on yourself. Don't be so hard on yourself with any of this. You're gonna make mistakes, you're gonna mess up, you're not going to do everything you wanna do, you're not gonna get to everything you wanna do every single day. Last night I didn't get to the gym and I fell asleep on the couch, and I wish I didn't, but I did. And that is the situation. And now today I am going to do it differently, and I might mess it up again next week. But that doesn't mean that I need to be like,

And like be so pissed at myself and be angry at myself and be so hard on myself. You're you the the best you can do is just try again. And the best you can do is try. So, so I think there's so many pieces of advice in here. Take whatever you need from this, take whatever resonated with you most and try it out tomorrow. I think that's one of the best things you can do with these episodes, these types of episodes at least, is when when there are so many pieces of advice that are kind of

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wide ranging from all these different parts and facets of your career. Take whatever you resonated with, whichever one you were like, wow, yeah, I haven't thought about that, but I should really do that. Or, you know, I've been thinking about that one for a while. And yeah, I'm gonna I'm gonna try that. take whatever one worked best for you or intrigued you most and try it. Try it tomorrow and see what happens and and stay consistent with it for a week or two. and see how it changes your mentality and your mindset and changes you and

How you're showing up to work every day. I think there's a lot in here, and and you can also come back to this episode and listen back for the rest of the pieces of advice. And I'm gonna do another one like this again soon. That is the episode. Thank you so much for listening to Guy's Set, a guy's guide to what should be talked about. I'm Josh, I'm 26 years old, and I'm here every single week, every single Tuesday, to talk about what should be talked about for guys. If you liked this episode, I really hope you did. Please

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there's really a lot of blog posts on guyset.com about career. There's a whole career section I'll link out to in the show notes below where you can find a lot of different things and search for any questions you have, and there'll probably be a blog post that answers it or at least maybe hopefully helps you out. So check that out as well. Thank you so much for listening to Guy Set, a guy's guide to what should be talked about. And I will see you guys next Tuesday. See you guys.