In the season 1 finale, I talk about something most likely everyone can relate to in their 20s... feeling lost. 

I talk about the relatability of this feeling and my mindset around how to get out of it when it inevitably comes back up.

Thank you so much for listening to the first season of Guyset!! I have so much in store for season 2.

Feeling Lost in Your 20s? You're Not Alone - Here's How to Navigate the Uncertainty

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The Reality Nobody Talks About

If you're in your twenties and feeling completely lost about where your life is headed, here's something you need to hear: You're not broken, and you're definitely not alone.

That persistent feeling of not knowing what you're supposed to do, where you're supposed to go, or who you're supposed to become? It's not just you. It's almost everyone navigating their twenties, even when they look like they have it all figured out on social media.

The Cycle That Keeps Repeating

Here's what makes feeling lost so particularly challenging: it's cyclical. You might feel completely directionless for weeks, then suddenly have a breakthrough moment where everything seems clear. But then, just when you think you've figured it out, that lost feeling creeps back in - and it feels brand new every time.

The pattern looks like this:

• One day: You crush it at work, have a great date, eat healthy, work out, feel productive, connect with family and friends

• The next day: You forget important tasks at work, get ghosted, eat poorly, feel hungover, scroll social media for hours, avoid responsibilities, and feel like a complete loser

Sound familiar? These back-to-back experiences happen constantly in your twenties, creating an emotional rollercoaster that can leave you questioning everything about your path.

The Different Ways We Feel Lost

Being lost in your twenties isn't just about career confusion. It shows up everywhere:

Career and Purpose

• Not knowing if you should stay in your current job or find something new

• Wondering if you're good enough at what you do

• Questioning whether you deserve that promotion or raise

• Having no idea what you want to do "for the rest of your life"

Relationships and Social Life

• Struggling to find meaningful romantic connections

• Feeling lonely even when surrounded by people

• Comparing your social life to others and coming up short

• Not knowing how to build the relationships you want

Personal Identity

• Questioning who you're supposed to become

• Feeling like you're "faking it till you make it" most days

• Comparing yourself to siblings, friends, or coworkers

• Wrestling with body image and self-worth

Life Direction

• Having no clear sense of where you're headed

• Feeling behind compared to some imaginary timeline

• Lacking a "life plan" when everyone else seems to have one

• Experiencing anxiety about making the "wrong" choices

The Truth About Paths and Timelines

Here's the most important thing to understand: There is no "supposed to be."

You're not supposed to be anywhere specific at 23, 25, or 28. You're not supposed to have figured out your career, found your soulmate, bought a house, or achieved any particular milestone by a certain age.

The liberating truth: There is no right path. There is only your path.

This isn't just motivational speak - it's a fundamental reality that can change how you view your current situation. When you stop comparing yourself to:

• Your older sibling's timeline

• Your parents' expectations

• Your best friend's career trajectory

• Your coworker's relationship status

• Your college acquaintance's social media highlights

...you can start focusing on what actually matters: creating your own path, one decision at a time.

Why Feeling Lost Might Be Necessary

You can't grow if you don't bleed.

The uncomfortable truth is that you can't change and develop without going through difficult periods. Those times when you feel completely lost and uncertain? They're often the periods when you're growing the most, even if it doesn't feel that way.

Consider this: if you always felt certain and comfortable, would you ever push yourself to try new things, take risks, or discover what you're truly capable of? Probably not.

The discomfort of feeling lost often signals that you're:

• Outgrowing your current situation

• Ready for new challenges

• Developing self-awareness

• Building resilience

• Learning what you don't want (which is just as valuable as knowing what you do want)

Practical Strategies for Navigating Uncertainty

1. Change the Channel in Your Mind

When you catch yourself spiraling into doubt and anxiety, consciously work to shift your mental channel from:

• Doubt → Determination

• Anxiety → Resilience

• "I'm failing" → "I'm learning"

• "I'm behind" → "I'm on my own timeline"

2. Take It One Step at a Time

When the path ahead feels completely dark and uncertain, you don't need to see the whole staircase. Just take the next step. Focus on:

• Today's responsibilities

• This week's goals

• Small, manageable actions

• Building momentum through consistency

3. Recognize the Pattern

Start noticing your emotional cycles. When you're having a "lost" day, remind yourself that you've felt this way before and it passed. When you're having a "found" day, appreciate it but don't expect it to last forever either.

4. Find Your Support System

One of the most powerful antidotes to feeling lost is connecting with others who understand what you're going through. Seek out:

• Friends who will have honest conversations about their struggles

• Mentors who can share their own experiences of uncertainty

• Communities (online or offline) of people in similar life stages

• Podcasts, books, or content that addresses these real challenges

5. Create Your Own Meaning

Instead of waiting to discover your "purpose," start creating meaning through:

• Small acts of kindness

• Developing skills you enjoy

• Contributing to causes you care about

• Building relationships that matter to you

• Taking care of your physical and mental health

The Power of Knowing You're Not Alone

Perhaps the most important thing to understand is that feeling lost doesn't make you defective or behind in life. It makes you human.

Every week, countless people in their twenties wake up feeling:

• Uncertain about their career path

• Anxious about their relationships

• Confused about their purpose

• Overwhelmed by adult responsibilities

• Worried they're not measuring up

When you understand that this experience is nearly universal, it becomes less about "What's wrong with me?" and more about "How do I navigate this normal part of human development?"

Reframing Your Relationship with Uncertainty

Instead of viewing uncertainty as a problem to solve, try viewing it as:

A Sign of Growth: Uncertainty often means you're ready for something new or different. It's your internal compass telling you that your current situation might not be your final destination.

An Opportunity for Discovery: When you don't know what comes next, you have the freedom to explore options you might not have considered otherwise.

A Shared Human Experience: Rather than isolating you, uncertainty connects you to millions of other people going through similar experiences.

A Chance to Practice Resilience: Learning to be okay with not knowing everything builds mental strength you'll use throughout your life.

Moving Forward Without All the Answers

You don't need to have your entire life figured out to start moving in a positive direction. In fact, most successful people will tell you they never had it all figured out - they just kept taking steps forward while adjusting course along the way.

Focus on:

• What you can control today

• Small improvements you can make

• Relationships you want to nurture

• Skills you want to develop

• Experiences that bring you joy or meaning

Let go of:

• Comparing your timeline to others

• Needing to know exactly where you're headed

• Pressure to make "perfect" decisions

• The idea that everyone else has it figured out

• The belief that there's only one right path for you

The Season Ahead

Feeling lost isn't a destination - it's a season. Like all seasons, it will change. Some days will feel clearer than others. Some weeks will bring breakthrough moments, while others will bring confusion.

The goal isn't to eliminate uncertainty from your life (that's impossible anyway). The goal is to learn how to move forward with purpose and intention even when you don't have all the answers.

Remember: you're exactly where you need to be to get to where you're going, even if you don't know where that is yet.

You're Not Walking This Path Alone

Every week, people share their struggles with feeling lost, uncertain, and overwhelmed by the pressure to have life figured out. You're part of a generation navigating unprecedented challenges, from economic uncertainty to social media comparison culture to rapidly changing job markets.

But you're also part of a generation that's more open about mental health, more willing to question traditional paths, and more committed to creating meaningful lives than simply checking off predetermined boxes.

The bottom line: Your path is supposed to look different because it's yours. The uncertainty you're feeling isn't a sign that you're failing - it's a sign that you're human, you're growing, and you're brave enough to keep moving forward even when the way isn't clear.

And on the days when it feels too overwhelming to handle alone, remember that conversations like these exist specifically because you're not alone in feeling this way.

Feeling lost and need someone to talk to about it? The Guyset community is here for real conversations about the challenges of navigating your twenties. Reach out at josh@guyset.com or connect with us @theguyset on social media.

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