Your Most Common Questions About Feeling Stuck, Answered
Your most searched questions on feeling stuck, burnout, confidence, and momentum. Clear, honest answers you can actually use today.
By
Josh Felgoise
Nov 25, 2025
James Franco
When you feel stuck in your life, everything becomes a question. What do I do next. Why do I feel this way. How do I fix it. What is wrong with me. And how do I get out of this without blowing up my entire life.
So I put all of the biggest questions guys ask into one place and answered them in a simple and clear way. The goal of this Q&A is to give you answers you can actually use today, not vague advice or tired motivational lines.
Let’s get into it.
Q: Why do I feel stuck in the first place?
Short answer: because something in your life stopped matching who you are becoming.
People think being stuck means something is wrong with them. It doesn’t. Feeling stuck just means your mind is trying to tell you something.
There is a line that sums this up better than anything:
“One day you feel like you know exactly what you’re doing and other days you feel like you have no idea what you’re doing and what you’re supposed to do.”
That gap between clarity and confusion is where the rut forms. You lose your rhythm. You lose your momentum. You lose the version of you that felt grounded and confident.
If your “stuck” feeling comes from dating or relationships, pair this with Why Did I Get Ghosted.
Q: What’s the difference between burnout and being stuck?
Burnout is emotional exhaustion.
Being stuck is identity confusion.
They often happen at the same time, which is why guys mix them up.
Burnout feels like, I am tired and overwhelmed.
Stuck feels like, I don’t know who I am or what I’m doing.
One of the strongest lines in the episode explains it clearly:
“Burnout and feeling like you need a break happens around this time every year.”
Burnout lowers your energy.
Being stuck lowers your belief.
When both hit, you start questioning everything.
If burnout is hitting you at work, read How To Advocate For Yourself At Work next.
Q: How do I know if it’s time to make a change?
Here’s the simplest test:
If you’ve felt stuck for more than a few weeks, something probably needs to shift.
You don’t have to quit your job, move cities, or break up with someone. But something in your routine, your environment, your mindset, or your expectations is no longer working.
This line hits that truth directly:
“If you’re not learning and growing, then you should probably look for something new.”
Growth is not optional.
Your mind needs challenge and newness to feel alive.
If you feel stuck career-wise, pair this with What No One Tells You About Leaving Your First Job.
Q: What if I don’t know what I want instead?
Then your job is to explore, not decide.
Most guys think they need clarity before taking action. But clarity usually comes from action.
Think about this line:
“If you’ve been feeling stuck for a while now, it probably means it’s time for your very own change.”
The change doesn’t have to be big.
It just has to be real.
Try new routines.
Try new skills.
Try new responsibilities.
Try new people.
Try new environments.
Clarity happens through motion, not sitting still.
Q: How do I stop my thoughts from spiraling when I feel stuck?
You interrupt the spiral before it starts.
One of the simplest tools from the episode is this:
“Right when you get out of bed, say three things you’re grateful for. It already rewires my brain.”
The morning spiral is where most guys lose the day.
Interrupt it early and you regain control.
Other tools:
change your physical environment
go outside for 10 minutes
stop catastrophizing the entire future
focus on the next actionable step, not the big outcome
get your brain out of the “nothing will change” loop
If spiraling is your biggest issue, pair this with How Do I Stop Overthinking Everything.
Q: What’s the fastest way to rebuild confidence when I have none?
Borrow someone else’s.
Confidence is not something you either have or don’t have.
It is something you practice through repetition and modeling.
One of the best lines from the episode puts it simply:
“You can actually look at the people who inspire you and take it. You can emulate the things they did when they started.”
Borrowing confidence is not copying someone else’s identity.
It is using someone’s behavior as a blueprint until your own belief kicks back in.
If you want to apply this to dating, start with How To Have A Great First Date.
Q: How do I stop being so hard on myself when I feel stuck?
Lower your expectations.
Seriously.
Most of the pain of being stuck comes from unrealistic pressure.
There’s a line from the episode that hits this plainly:
“You may have super high expectations of yourself every day and sometimes you may not meet that. But that doesn’t mean you’re not good at what you’re doing.”
You are allowed to not have everything figured out.
You are allowed to learn.
You are allowed to reset.
You are allowed to grow slowly.
Q: What do I do if I feel stuck but I’m scared to make a change?
Start smaller than you think.
You do not need a new life.
You need a new pattern.
Try one thing.
Take one action.
Change one habit.
Reach out to one person.
This is the heart of the stuck-to-motion shift.
One last line from the episode says it the clearest:
“Confidence is a choice. You can wake up and decide to be confident until you get the hang of it.”
Change builds confidence.
Confidence builds momentum.
Momentum gets you unstuck.
The loop works in that order.
Q: What single habit helps the most when I feel stuck?
Do one thing every day that proves the rut is not permanent.
It can be tiny.
It can be ugly.
It can be imperfect.
But it must be movement.
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