How Do You Handle Farting In A Relationship?

There are questions you only ask when you actually like someone.

This is one of them.

If you are Googling this, it is not because you are immature. It is because you care about attraction, comfort, and not doing something that permanently lives in her memory in a bad way.

That matters.

This question usually shows up in the same mental space as overthinking, pressure, and wanting things to go right, which I break down more in The Early Dating Moments Guys Never Talk About.

Spoiler Alert: She’s Human Too

This part is important.

“She poops too. Spoiler alert. She also has to fart.”

Nobody is exempt from this. We just all pretend we are.

The fear is not that farting is gross.
The fear is that attraction is fragile.

But someone who actually likes you is not going to suddenly lose interest because your body did what bodies do.

Health experts consistently point out that shared vulnerability, even in small ways, builds closeness over time. Cleveland Clinic has written about how comfort and laughter strengthen emotional connection Cleveland Clinic on intimacy and bonding.

You Don’t Have To Rush Comfort

There is no rule that says you need to be comfortable by date three or month one.

If you are someone who has never been a “good public pooper,” congratulations, you are not alone.

“I can’t tell you how to fart. I can’t tell you how to be comfortable with farting in relationships.”

Comfort shows up when it shows up.

You do not need to force it.
You are allowed to move at your own pace.

If you tend to pressure yourself to “be chill” too fast, this ties directly into How To Act More Confident When You Don't Feel It.

Humor Is Your Secret Weapon

One of the easiest ways to handle awkward moments is humor.

If you disappear for longer than a normal bathroom break, it is not exactly a mystery.

You can come back and say something like, “That was a long pee.”

Making a joke breaks tension.
Silence makes things weird.

The goal is not to pretend nothing happened.
The goal is to keep the moment light instead of letting it hang in the air.

Don’t Turn This Into A Forbidden Thing Forever

Here’s where people accidentally make it worse.

If you turn this into a permanent unspoken rule, it becomes bigger than it needs to be.

“The longer you make it a thing in your relationship that you don’t fart in front of each other, the worse it gets.”

That does not mean rush it.
It just means you do not need to treat it like a secret forever.

Comfort usually shows up gradually, not all at once.

What This Is Actually About

This is not about farting.

It is about safety.

Feeling safe enough to relax is what builds real attraction. Someone who likes you is not expecting perfection. They are expecting a person.

Relationship experts emphasize that long-term attraction grows from ease, not performance. The Gottman Institute has written extensively about how comfort and emotional safety sustain attraction over time Gottman Institute on safety and connection.

And if you need time before you get there, that is completely fine.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is farting in a relationship a turnoff?
Not by itself. Attraction usually fades from tension and insecurity, not normal human behavior.

Should I hold it in early in a relationship?
If holding it in makes you feel more comfortable early on, that is fine. You do not need to force comfort.

When is it okay to fart around your partner?
There is no timeline. It depends on your comfort level and how relaxed the relationship feels.

Is it immature to worry about this?
No. It usually means you care about attraction and respect, not that you are childish.

What if my partner jokes about it and I’m not ready yet?
That is okay. Comfort is personal. You are allowed to move at your own pace.

Can this actually make a relationship stronger?
Yes. Being able to laugh and be human together often deepens trust over time.

The Bottom Line

You are not weird for thinking about this.

You are not broken for overthinking it.

Handle it in a way that lets you feel confident, relaxed, and human.
Comfort builds attraction.
Pressure kills it.