How a 24-Year-Old Bought His First Apartment in NYC: The Real Process, Costs, and Lessons

The step-by-step reality of purchasing your first place, including the numbers everyone wants to know

By
Josh Felgoise

May 30, 2025

"I realized I want to live here for a while... obviously makes more sense to put equity into a place rather than... rent is essentially setting money on fire."

Luke's decision to buy an apartment at 24 in one of the most expensive real estate markets in the world might seem impossible, but his systematic approach and honest breakdown of the process reveals how it's actually achievable - with the right strategy and support.

Here's the real story of how he did it, including the actual numbers, timeline, and lessons learned.

The Four-Step Process

Step 1: The Search (2.5 Months)

"Four steps, four main sections. First is a search, you gotta find one. And that took me about, ooh, two and a half months to find one I liked that was in my budget and in the area I wanted."

Luke's Search Criteria:

  • Budget: Under $400,000

  • Building Type: Doorman and elevator buildings only

  • Reason: "They hold their value better"

The Reality Check: "There's not a lot of doorman buildings with an elevator that are under... like that's pretty rare."

This scarcity meant Luke had to be patient and strategic. He found exactly two buildings that met his criteria, making his options limited but focused.

Step 2: Negotiation (The Good and the Bad)

Luke's negotiation experiences show how different sellers can be:

The Bad Experience:

  • Listed at: $395,000

  • His opening offer: $330,000

  • Seller counter: $390,000

  • Final agreement: $380,000

"You could tell that the vibes were not good in the negotiation all the way... the real estate agent was kind of a slimeball."

Even when they were $5,000 apart at the end, the sellers wouldn't budge: "My real estate agent wanted to get to 375... And they were like, no."

The Good Experience:

  • Listed at: $350,000

  • His offer: $340,000

  • Seller response: "Deal"

"Immediately vibes better."

The Lesson: Sometimes the negotiation process itself tells you everything you need to know about whether you want to work with these people.

Step 3: Co-op Approval (The Paperwork Marathon)

"Most buildings in New York are co-ops... Co-op essentially just means that the building is owned by like a corporation."

What Co-ops Provide:

  • Building maintenance and cleaning

  • Doorman services

  • Property tax payments

  • Building management

What You Pay:

  • Monthly HOA (homeowners association) fee

  • Your mortgage payment

The Application Process: "60 pages of every bit of information on you ever accounts, paychecks, 401k, everything... literally everything."

Luke had to provide complete financial documentation and then interview with the co-op board.

The Interview: "Very chill. I applied my interview tips from earlier... I just treated it like a... They just wanted to find out that I wasn't some crazy person."

Step 4: Closing (The Longest Wait)

"The last step is the closing, which is the part of this that took the longest by far."

The delay came from waiting for the co-op to provide required financial information to Luke's bank. This bureaucratic process extended his timeline significantly.

The Documentation: Luke brought a prop to show the massive stack of papers he had to sign - everything laminated and bound with a table of contents by his real estate agent/attorney.

The Financial Reality

The Down Payment Challenge

"New York apartments, 20% down. That's a lot."

For Luke's $340,000 apartment, that meant $68,000 down plus closing costs.

His Honest Assessment: "The eight rum and Cokes I have at St. Dymphin's every weekend would not have allowed me to save 90 grand in a year."

Family Support

"So I'm very lucky. My parents, once they found out I was serious about it, like they wanted to know that I had a plan... that I was really doing, like I was finding good value. Like I wasn't just impulse buying an apartment."

Luke's parents helped with the down payment after he demonstrated:

  • Serious research and planning

  • Good value assessment

  • Long-term commitment to the decision

  • Financial responsibility in the process

Monthly Costs vs. Rent

While Luke doesn't specify his exact monthly payment, co-op living typically includes:

  • Mortgage payment

  • HOA fees (covering taxes, maintenance, doorman)

  • Utilities

  • Insurance

The advantage: building equity instead of "setting money on fire" with rent.

The Co-op Income Requirements

The 25% Rule: "They wanted my monthly mortgage payment plus HOA... to be 25% of my income."

This is actually a strict requirement compared to typical lending standards. As Luke notes: "In New York is pretty hard. Stuff is expen- like rent and like the mortgage is expensive."

This requirement meant Luke had to demonstrate significant income relative to his housing costs - more restrictive than many rental situations.

Key Players and Resources

The Real Estate Agent/Attorney

Luke worked with someone who served dual roles, recommended through family connections: "He was my real estate agent and my attorney. He does both."

What This Person Provided:

  • Market knowledge and building access

  • Negotiation expertise

  • Legal guidance through the process

  • Document preparation and organization

  • Closing support

The Importance of Professional Help

The laminated, bound document package Luke showed demonstrates the complexity of the process. "I very well could have... That's the reason you need an attorney for all this."

Professional guidance was essential for:

  • Understanding complex legal documents

  • Navigating co-op requirements

  • Managing timeline and deadlines

  • Ensuring proper documentation

The Long-Term Perspective

Why Buy vs. Rent?

"I realized I want to live here for a while... obviously makes more sense to put equity into a place rather than... rent is essentially setting money on fire."

Luke's decision factors:

  • Long-term commitment to living in NYC

  • Building equity vs. paying someone else's mortgage

  • Stability and control over living situation

  • Investment potential in a strong real estate market

The Lifestyle Impact

Since purchasing, Luke has discovered benefits beyond financial:

  • Complete control over his living environment

  • Ability to recharge properly after work and social activities

  • Pride of ownership and investment in his future

  • Stability that supports other life goals

Lessons for Aspiring Buyers

Start With Realistic Criteria

Luke's focused search criteria helped him avoid wasting time:

  • Set a firm budget and stick to it

  • Identify must-haves (doorman, elevator) vs. nice-to-haves

  • Research market conditions to understand what's available

  • Be prepared to wait for the right opportunity

Negotiation Insights

Luke's two different experiences show:

  • Seller motivation matters - some are flexible, others aren't

  • Process tone can indicate future relationship quality

  • Small amounts ($5,000) can become deal-breakers for stubborn sellers

  • Good deals sometimes happen quickly and easily

Financial Preparation

Beyond the down payment, consider:

  • Co-op application fees and interview processes

  • Legal and closing costs

  • Moving expenses

  • Immediate repairs or improvements

  • Monthly carrying costs beyond mortgage

Professional Support

Having the right team is crucial:

  • Real estate agent with market expertise

  • Attorney for legal guidance

  • Mortgage broker for financing options

  • Accountant for tax implications

Your Apartment Buying Action Plan

Phase 1: Financial Assessment

  1. Calculate realistic budget including down payment and monthly costs

  2. Review credit score and financial documentation

  3. Determine income requirements for your target price range

  4. Assess family support availability if needed

Phase 2: Market Research

  1. Identify target neighborhoods and building types

  2. Research recent sales in your price range

  3. Understand co-op vs. condo differences in your market

  4. Connect with real estate professionals

Phase 3: Active Search

  1. Set up property alerts for your criteria

  2. Visit buildings and units to understand market reality

  3. Attend open houses to refine preferences

  4. Prepare for quick decisions on good opportunities

Phase 4: Purchase Process

  1. Get pre-approved for mortgage financing

  2. Prepare all financial documentation in advance

  3. Understand building approval processes

  4. Plan for closing timeline and potential delays

The Bottom Line

Luke's apartment purchase at 24 proves it's possible to build equity instead of paying rent, even in expensive markets - but it requires strategy, patience, and often family support.

"I realized I want to live here for a while... obviously makes more sense to put equity into a place rather than... rent is essentially setting money on fire."

The key insights from his experience:

  • Start with realistic criteria and stick to your budget

  • Be prepared for a lengthy process (his took months from search to closing)

  • Professional guidance is essential for navigating complexity

  • Family support can make the difference between renting and owning

  • Long-term thinking pays off in building wealth and stability

While not everyone has access to family financial support, Luke's systematic approach to research, negotiation, and process management offers valuable lessons for anyone considering homeownership in their twenties.

The transition from renting to owning represents more than just a financial decision - it's a commitment to building roots and investing in your future self.

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