Why Does New Year’s Feel So Overwhelming?

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10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, HAPPY NEW YEAR!

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Happy new year everybody Welcome back to guys set the guys guide to what should be talked about I'm Josh and I hope you had the best 2023 that you could have had and if you didn't there's another year right ahead if you're watching on YouTube or you see one of these clips I'm wearing 2024 glasses that I purchased from party city tonight before I recorded this

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But just please bear with me for the next couple minutes. I'm sorry that it sounds worse and It probably doesn't even matter that much to you. It matters lot to me, but it'll go back to normal I promise but it'll be a couple minutes of worse audio quality. Okay. Thank you so much for continuing to listen through Okay, I'll stop now back to regular Josh and it's worse quality audio Josh. It'll come back soon. I promise. Okay. Thanks. Bye I want to talk about New Year's and this episode is before New Year's Eve So this is just a little prep a little a little get you ready for the New Year's Eve and the new year

So, you know, don't this this blower says 2023 blows and I don't agree with that I think it was a good year and we're gonna talk about that but I first I'm putting this episode out before New Year's and New Year's Eve because the premise and the point of this episode is to talk about New Year's Eve night and to talk about New Year's revs revs illusions New Year's resolutions those are the two topics will be going on this episode and Yeah, so let's let's jump right in. Okay

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So my first note that I have to talk about is new year's Eve and I think that new year's Eve plans and new year's plans have and always will be overrated. I have thought that less in the past couple of years because I've had some fun plans, but like up until those years, new year, I feel like everybody puts so much pressure on new year's Eve and having like such fun plans.

I'm sorry, I'm still wearing these glasses and I can't tell if I should take them off or I think I'm gonna leave them on. I'm gonna leave them on. I'm gonna stay in the spirit. I think everybody puts pressure on New Year's Eve plans and why? Like for what? It's another night. This year I think it's a Sunday night because we have off work on Monday. So this is a Sunday night and like okay, don't be so worried if you don't have such amazing plans this year. I think...

And I feel like I speak for a people when I say that New Year's Eve plans are extremely overrated. things are so expensive to go to. Drinks cost more that night. It's harder to get Ubers cost more. I don't know. I feel like when I was in high school, like I always, or I think I was away a lot for New Year's as a kid. I didn't have to worry about it as much. But then when it got to like high school and like friends started having plans and things, I wanted to be back. And then there's years where you weren't invited to things and there's FOMO and it's just like...

As I said, for what? Like there's so much pressure on this night that, you know, it is. It's a really fun holiday. It's fun to get in the spirit of it. I'm in the spirit. I'm wearing these fucking glasses. It's fun. It's fun to, and I actually really love New Year's and I'll tell you why in a second, but like the actual party around it and the celebration and the confetti and like the, it's overwhelming and it leads to so much fear of missing out, FOMO. leads to, fuck my hinge was on. I got a hinge, hold on.

she said, how about when I'm back I'll let you know how does that work? Okay, she can wait. so this year I want you to take the pressure off if you don't have something going on that night. Like don't worry. If you have a couple other friends that aren't also doing anything, have your own little party. Throw on Dick Clark's Rockin' Evil on NBC, that's my favorite thing to do and I didn't watch it last year because I was out and like I missed it and I like hanging out and-

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having some champagne and like, I like watching Mariah Carey have to lip sync through her Christmas songs on Dick Harz Rockin' Eve. if you don't have plans, don't put so much pressure on yourself to have such grand plans. Just don't worry about it. Like, this year it falls on a Sunday, which is even less pressure than anything else. And you're gonna wake up on Monday and have the best Monday off of work ever. You can treat yourself to such a fun day. Go to like a workout class. Go have lunch with some friends. Noppy.

disgustingly hung over like the rest of us rats that day. So if you're, if you don't have plans, don't put pressure on yourself. That's the first thing I want to say. If you do have plans, I hope you have the best time ever. I have plans this year, I'm excited for them. But I like, again, I think it's stupid that we all put so much pressure on it. Like we all paid so much money for this ticket for New Year's Eve. And then we'll talk about the New Year's Eve kiss because there's also a lot of pressure on that. And we'll talk about that because I put pressure myself on that one too. Those are the, that's my kind of take on the New Year's Eve plans.

New Year's Eve for single people is a lot different than New Year's Eve for couples, okay? New Year's Eve for single people is... There's this big thing around the New Year's Eve kiss. You're supposed to kiss somebody at midnight. And that wasn't always like a thing for me when I was a kid because I was always on like a family vacation or something. So it would be like, Happy New Year! And then like, go to bed. Like it was never like some special thing to do. And then when it got to like high school and college and I had more stuff to do.

There's so much pressure around a New Year's Eve kiss. So if you have like a thing or a hookup or somebody at the time that it's that you're already getting with like the pressure's off you like the work's done great, but if you don't like I don't know what it is, but everybody wants to have a New Year's Eve kiss and You know, it's just a society thing and I'm thinking about it because like I'm in that boat too. I like a New Year's kiss It's just like a fun thing to ring in the New Year. Like I don't know why

but that's one of like the societal pressures that like this holiday puts on us. So New Year's Eve for singles is a lot different than it is for couples. So this year, I'm gonna put the spin on it that I put on like going out with friends for a night out. Because at end of the this is just another night out, right? And I've always found that when you take pressure off yourself for a night out, and you don't put pressure on like trying to like hit on a girl or trying to go, trying to go back with someone like-

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the night becomes so much more fun, you're just there to vibe with friends, and then the people are attracted to your vibes. Like that, I have my friend on Luke, I think the episode was called like, Hinge Dates and Breakups, something like, something stupid like that, and I made that title, not him by the way. And he talked, we talked about this a lot, and when somebody is having such a good time, they exude such a good energy, and they have such a good vibe to them,

that they become like desirable in that respect and they don't have to, you become desirable to everybody else because you look like you're having such a good time and you are having such a good time because you literally are like, you're not faking it, you're not acting like you are, you actually are and you're giving in to the fact that you're out and having a good night and drinking with your friends and it's just a fun night out instead of putting pressure on yourself to have a kiss or go home with someone or have like this amazing story of you met somebody at a bar, you're just there to have, you're just there for the vibes.

And then you kinda just bring the vibes and everybody's like, that guy has great vibes. then there's no pressure on you. So all this to say, take the pressure off yourself that night. If you are going out, take the pressure off. Don't feel like you have to go into the night finding a girl or a guy or whoever to go make out with at midnight. If you're having a great time, maybe you'll find someone. If not, who gives a fuck?

Then tomorrow's Monday and then you have a work on Tuesday. Life goes on. It's editing Josh again. If you're still here, thank you so much for sticking it out through that. I don't like having to re-record because I don't think I can get the same genuine effect that I have when I record it the first time. I feel like I'm trying to imitate it if I do it again. So I would have had to just re-record the whole episode if I lost that part and didn't just include that. Maybe I'll do that next time. But for this time, I'm keeping it. Now I'm done. You won't hear from this one again. You'll hear from the regular Josh. Thank you so much again. Okay. Enjoy the rest of the show. Bye. So.

just take the stress off. Don't put so much stress on the night. It's another weekend. It's actually a Sunday this year. So it's another Sunday night and suspended how you want. If you're going out, amazing. If you want to spend it with friends, great. If you want to spend it with your significant other, your girlfriend, your boyfriend, great. You want to it with your favorite alcohol, even better. If you want to spend it not with alcohol and with like a diet Coke, that's my jam. Like have the best night ever. If you want to spend it in bed, spend it in bed. If you want to spend it with your favorite new TV show, favorite old TV show.

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do that. Like, let's, let's go into this with the attitude of I want to spend this night the way I want to spend it and not do something because everyone else is doing it or not feel like you have to do something because everyone else is doing it. I know that's so much easier said than done, but I don't, and I don't know how to get into that mindset without like kind of making yourself get into that mindset because then you'll think about like, but like all those friends are doing this and this person's doing that. And then you'll build yourself into this like,

ball of FOMO where if you actively make the choice to have the night that you want to have, then you'll have fun. I don't really know how to say it in a better way, but I, and I do know this is way easier said than done. And like, I feel like everybody suffers from FOMO. This is not like if you, when we're,

When you're inevitably scrolling through Instagram on Monday, hungover or sober, either way, when you're scrolling through Instagram and you see someone's story or you see someone's post or whatever, it's easy to kind of get sucked into that loop of, I should have done that or I would have done this or I should have had more fun or I should have gone out and blacked out. Okay. That's okay. You did what you wanted to do or you're going, or you didn't do what you wanted to do and you're having a worse night than you wanted to have. And that's okay too. Like let me.

try and rephrase that if you're have if you want to have big plans and you don't instead of staying in the bad mood or in that FOMO or in that like just pissed like annoyed depressed mode I think it's kind of nice to shift that and and try and change that and I think it's hard again it eat much easier said than done but it's nice to know that you can change the channel in your head to all right

Instead of kind of sitting in my somber, can choose to have, I can choose to make this night what I want it, what I want it to be. And you can't change like all the plans. You can't change friends that are being shitty or you can't change plans you weren't invited to. But maybe this is a time to like recollect and reconsider.

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I'm trying to make a universal statement about like not being included in things. And I don't think it's working because there's so many different scenarios of things, especially on this night. So I'm going to just take one scenario. Okay. I'm going to take not being invited to a party because that's like, that's the easiest scenario. It's new year's. There's a ton of parties. So I'm going to take that scenario specifically because again, there's so many different things that this could be talking about. So I want to, I want to hone in. So this makes sense. Cause I feel like I'm rambling a lot. If you are not invited to a party that you thought you wanted, you thought you were going to be invited to, you wanted to be invited to.

This feels like a good time to kind of reconsider those friendships or reconsider those people and just have some time to think. I don't think you need to. And again, you're going to be upset. You're going to feel FOMO. You're going to feel all the things that lead to not like that come from not being included because not being included fucking sucks. Like there's it's it's terrible and it sucks. Like that's the bottom line. But.

Maybe you can take this time to kind of like reflect on the year, reflect on the people you've been hanging out with. I don't know, not being included just fucking sucks, okay? And there is no really good solution to it. And I've been there and if you're listening, you've probably been there and if you haven't, like you've always been cool for life and that's awesome. And I'm the way I am because I haven't been included sometimes and you're the way you are because you have and that's cool. Like we all get to the same place and those experiences build us up into who we are.

But I want you to know that if you're not included in something and you wish you were, there's a light at end of that tunnel. Like it's shitty right now. It will feel shitty. There, me saying all this stuff about like reflecting and trying to make a night the best it can be. Sure. That only goes so far and it is really shitty. So I want to say that if you're not included and you wish to, you wish you were and you're not, and like, I'm sorry. And that sucks. And

Maybe just take the time to re reflect on who the people you are, you're hanging out with are. and also just know that there's so many more people out there and there's so many more friends we made and there's so many more hookups to be had and there's so many more girls to meet and boys to meet and people to meet. And there's no, I'm just saying, take, take the pressure and the stress off the night. It's just one night. It's one night. I know it's the last night of the year or the beginning of the next year. It's one night because your actions that you did last week,

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are still actions you did last week. Like you can't go like punch a car and then like not have punched that car. Like you can't, you can't, why can't I think of a crime that shows you how non-crime fighter I am. Like you can't go punch somebody in the face and then be like, it's the new year. So that didn't happen. It happened. Like that's still last week. Life is still the same as it was the week before with this new year, with this new like marker in the middle of the, of the, of time that said,

That this day is now the start of the next year, which is awesome because there's so many cool things that you can kind of, it's, a, it's a cool time to motivate yourself. But what I'm saying is don't put so much pressure on the night. That's that. And this is coming from somebody who's put the poo who's put pressure on the night for 22 years. Just don't do it. It's just not worth your time and effort and energy and emotion. Just take the pressure off the night. Okay. If you get one thing from anything I've said in this episode is take the pressure off the.

Now let's get into the good stuff about new years because I actually really love new years and I think the new year is an amazing time to, as I kind of talked about a little bit, reflect on the year you've had, the things you've done and the things you want to do. And I love that about the new year. And I think the fact that there's a marker between time that tells us that now you have like a kind of a clean slate. It's not a clean slate. Cause again, everything you did last week still happened in like December.

30th, like that that still happened. But it's an opportunity to change your ways if you want, or it's an opportunity to fix things or motivate yourself or make things a little bit better or just change your habits, change the things you're doing in your everyday life. And I, since I was young, have always been a big fan of New Year's resolutions. Like one year, I cut soda from my diet and I lost a lot of weight and like that was

Something that always bothered me from when I was young was my weight. And I was like, what's one thing I can do to change this and curb my habits? And this was like, I mean, I was like 13 or 14 and I stopped drinking soda. Like I completely went cold turkey. I had my like last son kissed at midnight and was like, all right, here we go into the unknown. And I like lost a lot of weight and that was

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That was a really good fix for me. it was, and I take a lesson from that, like every year in the way that I think about resolutions and I think about it in that way. say, what's one thing I can change to improve my life, like my daily habits. What's one thing I can do. And I could have done that on December 15th. I could have done it on January 21st. Like I could have done it whenever, but for some reason that marker in time gave me like, all right.

I'm stopping this year. Now next year I'm gonna, I'm gonna fix this habit with one thing I can do. So that's kind of how I've always looked at resolutions. And I'm a huge fan of resolutions because I've seen that I can keep it and I can commit to something and I can say consistent from a young age. And that's something that like I take pride in. Now every year after that, like I don't remember taking such a crazy stance on something after that year, beside this year again, when I wanted to start journaling and I tried journaling.

last December and I hated it and I was like, this is so boring. I can't get myself to spend more than 30 seconds writing down my notes. Like what am I supposed to write? Is it a sheet of paper? What the hell am I supposed to write here? And it's something I've consistently done from January to now that I've really stuck with. And my resolution was to do it every single day. And again, like that's too crazy of resolution for at least me to keep because I know there's a Friday and a Saturday in the week. And if I'm out,

And usually the time I write is at night. So if I'm out on a Friday or Saturday or a Thursday, I'm going on like a date or something. And I get back and I'm like kind of tipsy and I'm tired or something else happens. I won't write in the journal. that's knowing me. That was a crazy resolution to set to do every single day. So looking back, I would have said like journal as much as you can throughout the week and, taking that stance on it, because in the first month or so I kept myself to it so intensely and I was, and I was so

mad at myself and disappointed when I missed a day of journaling, which is so dumb because like, why does it matter if I commit? And it was only because I set that standard for myself that I would do it every single day and I would journal every day. And when I missed a day, I was disappointed and upset with myself. So instead of leading yourself to disappointment and feeling of failure, why set yourself up for those feelings? Like why set yourself up to feel like a failure? Why not set yourself up for something that you feel like you can actually accomplish? So

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Instead of, and I like looking back and maybe I would have gone like less cold Turkey on something like drinking soda. Maybe I'd be like, all right, one soda every couple of weeks. That feels more realistic than just cutting everything or doing something every single day. It's, it's too drastic of a change to impart on again, another calendar day. Like if I didn't do it on, on December 30th, what's going to make me change on January 1st to do that. And there's a.

I think like a statistic somewhere that says that maybe 50 % of people drop off their res, no, maybe it's like 75 % of people drop off their resolutions after two weeks. And that statistic is a hundred percent made up by me right this second. And you believed it, right? Because that sounds true and accurate. You, you drop off your resolutions because you make such a drastic change of like, I want to learn French and

when you don't learn French in the first two weeks of January, you're like, fuck, I'm a failure. But rather, maybe download Duolingo, not sponsored, I wish, not sponsored, download an app or something that can help you get to that goal and set your goal to like three times a week. So you won't feel like an absolute failure if you don't do it every single day and you don't learn French by the second week in January. So I'm a big proponent of not setting drastic resolutions for yourself when you're

of, not setting something, something that's like unrealistic for yourself, like set something that you're going to set yourself up for success is what I'm saying here. so at the end of the day, resolutions are just goals, right? So if you set some crazy goal for yourself, I mean, I personally hope you keep it, but when you set a lofty or huge goal, like the odds are you're probably not going to keep it. But if you start with something small that you can do today, you can do tomorrow.

You can start changing right now, even before the new year. I think you're, if you're listening to this before the new year, start today. So you don't have to make this crazy leap or this crazy change on the first of the year and see if you can keep it for the next three days. If you can't then cool. Just make it a little bit less wild of an expectation for yourself. like another example is you can't just magically get a six pack, but you can start going to the gym every day. And I,

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caught myself right there because I'm saying every day and like every day is unrealistic for anybody. But set yourself to a standard that's realistic for you. So if you're already going to the gym four times a week, maybe make it five and maybe add abs in there a little bit more. If you're going no times a week, maybe make it one or two. If you're going one or two, maybe make it three. make it incremental so it's not so drastic. But take things that like start small because then you can actually start seeing like small

Small things lead up to big results. Trademark Josh Falcoys. All right, I'm getting a little bit soapboxy here, but you know what I'm saying and you get what I'm saying. Don't set huge goals that you're not going to keep. Set goals that you think are realistic for yourself. So I'm going to redo my resolutions because why the fuck not? So I talked about this blank sheet of paper last episode on guyset toolkit number three.

But I found this practice through Mel Robbins, who I will now preach forever because I think she's a genius. And she kind of talked about this assessment or kind of audit of where you are in order to get to where you want to go. Because you have to understand where you are in order to set goals for yourself in the first place, which I'd never thought about and I never have done before, but I think it's a genius thing. So I did that this year and I talked about it on the last episode. So I'm sorry if this is repetitive for you.

And thank you for being a multi-time listener to guys. You are the reason I do what I do. and I love you. but the categories I did are relationships, money, health, happiness, career, and sleep. I put relationships into two categories, one relationship with friends, one relationship with dating. And I next to each of them ranked one to five, how I feel like I'm doing or how I did this year with it. And then I wrote next to it, like why I'm feeling that way and how I think I can improve.

So from those, I got my resolutions this year, my resolutions for next year. So my resolutions from the categories I'll start with, and I didn't do every single category. just like a couple of them gave me good ideas. I'll start with sleep. heard me talk about this a bunch of times now, but sleep, my one resolution for sleep is to get in bed earlier. And I'm not setting myself to a standard of like get in bed early every single day, but on like Monday to Wednesday, I'm going to get in bed early.

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And that's my resolution for myself. Early to me is like 12. Like I know that's not early to anybody else or by any norm or any means, but that's early to me. And that's my that's my resolution. So that's my first resolution is getting a bit earlier on Monday to Wednesday. And again, if I don't keep it, I get in bed later on, like one of those nights, OK, like it's OK. Let me I'm going to backtrack that because I don't want to set myself to that standard because I don't think I'll keep it. I now like thinking about it, I don't think I'll keep that.

something will come up on a Tuesday and a Wednesday and then in the first couple weeks and like, I'm not going to keep that. And am I saying I'm going to stay out past 12? No, but I'm saying like, I'm not, I'm not going to like set myself up for good sleep and I'm going to feel disappointed in myself for not. So my resolution is to get in bed earlier when I can, instead of like laying around and scroll my phone. When I mean like get in bed, I mean like either like read or like try and go to sleep and stop scrolling my phone. Maybe the resolution is to stop scrolling my phone in bed. I think I'm changing it to that.

Stop throwing my phone in bed. That's something I can actively stop doing in order to get better sleep. That's my resolution now. It's changed as I've spoken about it. And like have this conversation with yourself. Talk out loud about it. Write this down because who's talking out loud like this, but write this stuff down and things will come up and things will change because you'll be like, that's actually not realistic. I don't think I'm going get in bed earlier for three days every three to four days every week. But I can stop throwing my phone in bed. This doesn't mean that I will never scroll my phone in bed, but I can.

I know that that's something that can do to fix my issue of like sleep loss, lack of sleep. And when I feel like I'm losing sleep, I can put my phone down. So that's one of the resolutions. The next one under health is to stand up straighter. I'm really working on my posture. And that was one of my resolutions this year. And I didn't do it. I just like totally forgot about it until like this month when I was like, fuck my pop. I saw a picture of myself and I looked like the fucking hunchback of the Notre Dame. Like I was like, I was standing to.

So that's, that's, that's when you know. and that's something I'm to work on because I noticed it and I want to fix that. in terms of how I'll get to that goal, when I realize I'm slouching, I'm going to like, make like a little tick mark in my notes app, just to kind of keep myself accountable for it. So I'm just going to try and stand up straight with my shoulders back, not like so intense that I look like I'm like, my boobs are popping out boobs.

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chest, my chest is popping out. Um, but I'm just going to try and work on that and I'm going to keep myself accountable for it through like a tick mark system of, I'll see how long that lasts. Let's see if that lasts long at all, but that's a resolution that's I'm setting. That's like a bigger goal of mine to really work on. really want to fix that. Um, and then for money, I have work on budgeting. I have talked about this before and I'm, I told him, I'm to do a full episode on it. I am it's, it's slotted for some time early next year.

but I am not good enough with money and I want to really want to get better with it. So that's a goal of mine and whether that's going to be through an app or bringing somebody on or, mean, I'm going to bring somebody on, but cause I don't know what the fuck I'm talking about. So I can't do a full episode on that. That hasn't stopped me before, but it's stopping me this time. But I'm, I'm going to work on that. I don't know to what extent, but that's one of the bigger ones is work on budgeting, work on posture.

Uh, work on getting more sleep. Those are kind of like the bigger goals. And then within there, I have like smaller things of like, keep myself accountable for posture. Um, don't call my phone. Like those are like the things that actively get me to that bigger goal. Does that make sense? I think so. Um, and then in terms of dating relationships, I want to go on more dates this year. I don't know in what terms of that. Um, but, and I feel like I've gone on a lot of, a lot of dates this year, but, uh, there's been weeks where I could have and I didn't, and I want to.

I want to do that more often. that's something for me and career. Okay. This is a good one. This is a very interesting one. You wouldn't expect for a career goal, but I don't know how to type. I type with my two pointed fingers like this. I'm like, don't, don't, don't, don't, don't like here. I actually, my computer right here. I hope it doesn't stop the recording, but I'm going to type like this.

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It might've fucked it. Hold on. And I'm better. I'm actually better than that. I'm not like so like dunk, dunk, but I, I like, I can type fast like that, but I'm like, it'd be one or two extra bonus episodes on Thursdays. The three or four is a crazy thing to set for myself. Probably one or two. So look out for that. Really excited for that. Kind of that, that update for the podcast and just being able to talk about topics that I don't know how to fit in. Okay. I think you understand what I'm saying. So I don't have to do it because I just tried it and it fucked the whole recording. So I'm going to do that again, but I think you understand what I'm saying. I

I type like that and it's a problem. in my career, I think it makes me look dumb. Like nobody knows that I do that because I do it kind of discreetly and I type really fast with my two pointer fingers, my two beep-bop-opers, but I think it makes me look dumb. And I'm 23 years old and I should know how to type. And I was just like fucking off when I learned how to type and I was fucking around with my friends in class and like fourth grade when everyone else learned and I never learned and I got through without learning and I wish I hadn't, but I did and I need to learn. So whether I start like doing type to learn or

do something. I don't know. I'm going to. I'm that's that's my other resolution. So I did them in categories in the categories that I need to improve in the most. And the way I did it is I have these kind of bigger goals of I want to work on my posture. I want to work on my sleep. I want to go on more dates and I want to learn how to type. And it's really embarrassing admitting that. But where else would I admit it if it wasn't on my own podcast.

You know, fuck it. in those four goals, as I kind of said a little bit throughout of the typing one, maybe it's like take a typing lesson three times a week, something like that that is doable and I can actually get done, but I won't feel like a failure if I don't do it. So that's how I set resolutions for myself. If you want to take a note out of my book or if you want to take that for yourself, please do. That's the whole point of this. And yeah, those are my resolutions. That's the episode.

If you're going out for New Year's, have a great time. Be safe. Don't do anything so fucking stupid. Do some stuff stupid. Do some stupid stuff, but don't do anything like so dumb. Be careful. Be safe. Never drink and drive. Like seriously, never drink and drive. that's just the dumbest thing you can do. It's so stupid. Don't drink and drive. Just don't drink and drive. be safe. Take care of your friends. Don't worry about the New Year's kiss. If it comes to you, it does. If you find somebody cute.

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great if you don't, okay, go home, go scroll TikTok, go have a drink and go to bed like tomorrow's Monday. And if you have no plans, do the same thing. Have a drink, scroll TikTok, go to bed tomorrow's Monday. Thank you so much for listening and I hope you have a happy new year and I will see you next year. I have such big plans for Gayset next year. So basically a big update is that you can now look out for

bonus episodes on Thursdays next year. I am starting a new job and adding in more podcast episodes. Am I crazy? Yes, that is the answer to that question. Absolutely. But I've got some big ideas and things that I want to talk about and like things that I don't know how to fit into a normally scheduled episode, like a book club or other types of things that happen throughout the month that I want to talk about. And

I feel like putting up extra episodes on Thursdays as kind of like bonus episodes will be the best way to do that. So it won't be every Thursday. Maybe one time a month, maybe two times, maybe three times. You never know. It's going to be bonus episodes that pop up. This will not affect the regular Tuesday schedule or interfere with that at all. Those will stay consistent and you will consistently have a Tuesday episode every week until I can no longer make this podcast, which will be never. But you can now look out for bonus episodes on Thursdays and then.

Hopefully at some point I'll be able to do Tuesday and Thursday episodes. You'll get two a week, but for now just look out for some bonus episodes on Thursdays. Okay. And it will most likely be one or two extra bonus episodes on Thursdays. The three or four is a crazy thing to set for myself. Probably one or two. So look out for that. Really excited for that update for the podcast and just being able to talk about topics that I don't know how to fit in. So more content, more things to listen to and more time to spend with you. The second Thursday of the month will be like a monthly recap.

which is a new thing I'm starting. I used to this on my website and I loved doing it. And it was basically like guys set recommends or guys set recommendations. so maybe I'll just call it that like January guys set recommendations or guys set January recap. don't know the names in the workshop, but it'll basically be a book club recap from that month. It'll be a segment that like I've talked about working on it a little bit. I liked that segment. I'm going to keep going on.

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and things that I recommend from that month or my favorite things from that month, whether it's a favorite, a different book or a podcast episode, or there's a lot of other things I want to incorporate into the podcast and talk about, in society and lifestyle and fashion and other stuff that I haven't really found a great way to incorporate in, because each episode is usually its own topic. But these floater episodes will give me more space to talk about other random stuff that doesn't.

fit into its own episode. And I think it'll be valuable for you, not just like me talking random shit. I'm being kind of cryptic because I don't have it all fully fleshed out, but it'll be fun. And I'm really excited for those extra additions to the podcast. And they'll be shorter too. They will not be this long. Again, I did it. I did it again. I made another long episode. Oops, sorry. But those will be shorter. So if you want to listen to them in like a walk to work or

doing your laundry or folding your clothes or something like that. Like it'll be good way to pass the time and like learn something. Not learn something. I don't know. I can't say learn something. It'll be a good way to pass the time. Okay. Thank you so much for listening. I hope again, I hope you have a safe and happy new year and I hope you have some resolutions that you feel like you can actually implement and make happen in the next year. And if you don't make them happen, okay, start again tomorrow. It's not.

You didn't fail because you didn't do it in the new year. Like tomorrow is still the next day or you start today. Start again, start over. It's okay. Like do it whenever you feel comfortable making these changes and you'll be more likely to make them happen because you want to make them happen. also I set four, four resolutions for myself. You can just set one, do set one thing that you're to make happen. And you're probably more likely to make that happen than four things. Like I'll give you an update on, on these four things. And one of those Thursday recaps, probably in the first one.

In the last week of January, I'll give you a recap of how I'm doing with it. and maybe I'll bump it down to two things that I'm going to focus on. but yeah, set whatever you want, do whatever you want, have a good night and happy new year. thanks again for, if like this episode, really hope you did please like subscribe, follow, leave a review, leave a positive view, leave five stars, send any advice things you want to talk about things that should be talked about to my email, josh j o s h at guyset.com.

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or to my DMS at the guy set T H E G U I S E T on Instagram and Tik TOK. You can also leave a submission on my website, guyset.com G U I S E T.com. And you can just say like, just click. It'll send it right to my email. And of course,

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Happy New Year everybody. I will see you next year. Thank you so much for listening. fuck. How did I this earlier? Thank you so much for listening to Geissit this year. It has been one of my favorite things I've done probably ever. I feel like I've totally found a new passion in this and I fucking love doing it and I will do it for as long as I can do it. Even if there's nobody listening, like I just know that would be weird. As long as there's one person listening, I will keep doing this. So

Thank you so much for listening. And I will see you next year for so much more content. There's gonna be next year is gonna be double the trouble next year. No, Josh, what are we saying? I should have just ended it. I should have ended this so long ago and I keep fucking rambling. Okay, next year's gonna be great. Thanks for listening. Have a nice day. Happy New Year. Let's have our own little New Year's party, shall we? I just can't fucking stop. I got the New Year's energy and I'm gonna keep going.

I can't stop. You can't stop me. You can't. He can't be stopped. He can't be stopped. All right. So what song should we play? What song should we dance to? what song is good? I got it. I got it. Can you guess the song about to play? Can you guess the song I'm about to play?

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Is it illegal to stream on a podcast? Watch me.

Let's ring in 2024, you and me and what else do you need? A lot of things, you need a lot of things. I could dance, I could dance, I could dance night. Fuck, I missed the ending. All right, happy new year, bye.