The Mid-Year Reset

Josh Felgoise (00:00.206)

Welcome to Guy's Set, the guy's guide to what you should be talking about. I'm Josh, I'm 23 years old, and I'm here to find all the tips, advice, and recommendations for guys in their 20s. Let's get into it.

Josh Felgoise (00:17.934)

Hi guys, welcome back to guys that the guys guide to what should be talked about. It is like middle of March and I realized that most of the new year's resolutions I set, I have completely fallen by the wayside. I just have completely forgotten about most of them and just have not kept up with them. So I thought it would be a good time to do like a reset or like a check-in of where I'm at with my new year's resolutions. And in the beginning of the year, I,

did a podcast episode on the resolutions and talked about like three or four things that I wanted to maintain and try to do throughout the year. And it's gotten so bad that I completely forgot what they even were. Like I just don't even think that and that's why I hate new resolutions. Like I like them because I like the idea of having a time to reset and make goals for yourself and challenge yourself to try new things and improve yourself.

But I hate them because I don't think anybody ever does them. And if you do, I'm incredibly impressed. I personally don't and I'm here to say that I don't and I've proven to myself that I don't because I can't even find where they are. Like I don't even have them written down somewhere. I have no idea where they are. And I wanted to either like restart them today or figure out what they were and decide if I want to keep them or change them or let them go.

because yikes, like I set all these goals for myself and I did none of them. And now I kept one. Let's, let's not be too hard on ourselves here. kept one of them, which was writing in my journal almost like every other night. I don't usually do the weekends cause I'm out or I'm doing something and I just forget or if I'm on like a trip, I won't do it as much, but I've kept that up really well. So I'm happy with that. The rest of it has just, Ooh, Ooh, I totally forgot about all of them. but I am, I'm here to here to

check back in and if you want to restart yours with me as well here like this is the perfect time to do so after this episode during this episode, whatever you want to do, whatever is best for you. But I said during that episode I think I was like don't set too big of goals for yourself, which can be misconstrued because I do think I want you to set the highest and grandest goals for yourself because I think you can accomplish anything. But the reason I said that and not to set like too big of goals for yourself or too many goals for yourself is because then you fall into a trap like I did.

Josh Felgoise (02:33.848)

where you forget what all of them were and you end up doing none of them and you don't even remember what they were. So that's what happened to me. And I was watching the Oscars the other night and Jimmy Kimmel made this joke toward Robert Downey Jr. about how at the highest part in his career and he was like, well, not the highest because Robert Downey Jr. is famously like has had the biggest career pit and the biggest rise to being one of the biggest superheroes you'll ever see in movie history.

to last night or Sunday night winning that Oscar, but his past, was like a super drug addict and he went to jail and just had like a really, really tough childhood and all this shit. And it's possible to really do anything you set your mind to, like with a lot of self-help and a lot of work on yourself and really wanting to improve, you can do anything. So that's not really what these goals are. Like if it's not like a Robert Downey Jr. of, if that's you and you're listening to this,

I hope the absolute best for you, but I'm not there right now. I'm at like a lot of smaller goals. I am digging myself a pit. I'm digging myself such a fat pit right now. What I'm trying to say is these are smaller goals. You should set big goals if you want and you should set small goals if you want. I'm setting small goals for myself, but if you want to get better and be better and do better, do that. Okay, but I'm going to talk about my small goals. We're off to a night. It's not a hop start.

It's a messy start. But anyway, we're in the third month of the year and this is the great, this is a great time. It's like a fourth of the way into the year to reset your goals. I'll probably do this halfway and then three fourths the way through as well, just to kind of do a reset or a recheck. So I went hunting for those goals in my notes app and I literally could not find them. I think they were set out in separate places and I forgot they existed. So here's my revisit and I'm going to do these game show styles. So ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, please.

buckle your seat belts, get in your seat, grab your popcorn and your PNM and M's. If you're a little bit on M's, I'm so sorry for making out reference and I hope you don't eat those because then you'll die and I don't want you to die. Please welcome yourselves to keep them, switch them or ditch them. This is the game show where I pick one to keep, one to switch and one to ditch. The one that I'm keeping, I went back digging. So the first thing I would recommend is for you to figure out where your resolutions were. If you ever set them, if you didn't, this is a great time to do it right now and write them down somewhere.

Josh Felgoise (04:55.554)

whether it's in a notebook, it's a note app, somewhere that you can easily find them, like label it resolutions or things I want to improve or something like that and make it easy for yourself to come back to and look at and keep track of where you're at with. The one that I want to maintain is my posture. If you're watching this on YouTube, I've been afraid to post videos on YouTube. So if I keep saying that every time, and if you're going to search for them on YouTube, you probably haven't been able to find them because I'm not posting them, but I'm going to start again this week. So if you're watching this on YouTube,

My posture is not great and I'm really working on it. No, I'm not. That's a lie. I'm literally not working on it because I forgot that I wanted to improve it. And I caught myself in a picture that someone sent me of me. was like a, it was a picture of like a crowd and I was in it. And I was like, the fucking hunchback of Notre Dame. I was like, God, who is that? Will the beast? And why do I look like that? So I really want to work on that. I think the system I set before was I would like keep a tick mark every time I noticed.

that I was lowering my posture that obviously didn't work for me. didn't do that. So I don't, I don't know how exactly I'm to work on it, but I just, really want to maybe, Oh, here's something I just thought of on the spot. think every day in the morning, I'll take a picture of myself and my posture in the morning and then in the evening, like before work and after work, be able to take like a side angle picture of me, um, of my posture. And that would be a good way for me to stay.

Accountable with my posture. Otherwise, I don't think I'm like I'm not seeing a picture of myself every day slunched over hunched lunch the word slunched over But if I did I think I would keep myself more accountable. So that's what I'm do So before work and after work, I'm gonna take a picture of myself And my posture and just as a reminder to myself. I think that's probably the best way for me to do that The next one that I am going to Keep where's no, I didn't even write it down. Hold on

Oh, okay. I'm also keeping journaling as I said to you. That's the one I've always I've kept up and that that wasn't like a new one. So I don't I don't know if I count that as my new ones for this year. I did that last year as well. But I like writing at night. I think it's the best way for me to like be in touch. It's the best way for me to be in touch with my thoughts and clearly understand the way I'm thinking and and like stay very level headed in all the things that I'm trying to do and I want to do so I don't

Josh Felgoise (07:22.926)

like lose myself or lose my head. It's the best thing for me. that I've that I'm keeping as well. Switching is learning to type. Well, I guess I'm also keeping that. I don't know if this game shows working out because I'm keeping these both. The only one I'm ditching is. Oh, no, I'm actually not ditch. I don't know. Am I? No, I'm not ditching any. This game show is stupid. I'm not going to ditch any. I just want to reread.

Josh Felgoise (07:54.126)

What a stupid idea. just, want to reframe how I'm keeping these resolutions or how I'm setting these goals for myself. Maybe this is more about goal setting than resolutions resetting. So, well, this is, this is gearing up to one of my messiest episodes so far. you know, you can't win them every week. So anyway, so every single one I'm keeping, but switching how I'm staying accountable for it. The next one is, is typing. I have been really bad about my goal to learn how to type this year.

And if you're new here, I've talked about this before and it's so embarrassing, but I do not know how to type. And what I mean by that is I type with two fingers. I use my thumbs for the space bar. Thank you very much. And sometimes I use like a pinky for a return or something, but I can't type properly. And I never paid attention when I was learning how to type in elementary school. never learned, I never paid attention to it. And I just like got by by being like a little fucker and just typing with my two fingers.

And I regret it to this day. And I would love to learn how to type because well, nobody notices X I can type really fast, but internally, I think I look like an absolute buffoon typing with two fingers, but I haven't done anything about it. So maybe I'll maybe I think the way I'm going to keep myself accountable for that one is to schedule in five minutes a day in my calendar. Maybe it's like a time that I usually take for like a walk during the day or it's during lunch at work or something that I can.

maintain and fit in during my work schedule, where it's just five minutes or I take like a typing class online or I do like a typing exercise. Maybe that won't be the quickest way to complete that goal. I'm sure there could be like a two week intensive course I could do, but this is something that I could actually feasibly see myself doing every day. So that's gonna be how I'm gonna do that. I think I said I was gonna do that before and I just never did, but I didn't schedule it. So I didn't actually like make a plan or implement it.

So what going to do is like tomorrow for the first time, there'll be like a five minute block in my calendar. That'll just say like typing lesson, which sounds dumb, but it's, it's my, my goal. okay. And then the last one I want to work on is reading. I wanted, I set a goal for myself to read a book every month this year, and I haven't read one book and it's March.

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And I also bought these two books on audiobook that I just haven't listened to. And if you don't think that counts as reading, like, ah, then you can fuck the fuck off because I, I, know, it's hard to find time to read during the day. And if you're still taking in the words and you're paying attention and you're not like scrolling on Instagram or texting while listening to the book. Yeah. So what if it's not reading words? So what, so what I'm defending it to till the day I die. think audio books count as reading or count as finishing a book. Maybe it's not reading cause it's literally not exactly reading.

But it's my it's my it's my way of reading. It's like podcast form. I like to read two books at a time. Read meaning one listen, one read and the reading one I usually do at night. But I'm 30 percent of the way through this book on my Kindle because I just fall asleep to it every night, which is a great thing for me because I do want to get more sleep. And that was another one of my resolutions. And I said I would read at night in bed instead of scrolling on my phone and.

We have not done that. We have not done that like once I was only scrolling my phone till like 2 30 a.m. Last night and I'm so exhausted today and I'm like, why am I so tired? No shit You're so tired because you're scrolling on tik-tok till literally 3 a.m. And you're like, I didn't get enough sleep last night. You had duh like no shit Sherlock Obviously, you didn't sleep enough because you were scrolling on your phone and I'm sure a lot of you guys have the same problems like scrolling Social media incessantly whether it's tik-tok Instagram reels YouTube shorts. They all they all reel you in and pull you in

and keep you there till 3.30 in the morning. And there's a real sense of camaraderie online around like two to four AM. People are like, I have some, you know what? I have some research that I've personally conducted myself to prove that a lot of us are online and on social media at the hours we're not supposed to be on social media and supposed to be going to bed from like two to four AM. And that research was conducted personally by myself last night when I posted a TikTok that went like,

massively viral for no reason. It got like 2 million views, but the like, you can see insights on Tik Tok and most of the views, like I think it's like 50 % of the views, the majority came in from maybe it was 1 30 AM to like 4 AM. And that's so wild because we're all online at that time, which was so bad. But another one of my resolutions that maybe I'll add into this conversation is to read in bed, but that puts me to bed at night. So I don't actually like ever finish that book for like months.

Josh Felgoise (12:31.394)

And the other one, I feel like I don't usually have time during the day to find time to read. So I'll audio book and this whole reading situation leads into the next segment of the podcast, which I'm so excited about. I don't know if you guys read, which I get again, I'm defending listening to books because I really do think that counts. I don't know if you guys read or listen to books or like have a similar goal or idea that you want to read more. Even if you don't, I think you'll like this next idea because I want to start a book club.

And I did this in the beginning of, of when I started my blog a while back before the podcast and I want to bring it back. And I w wanted to do it in January when I, when I set this resolution for myself and just never got around to it because I think it's really hard to start a book club online, but I think it's even more so if you don't, if we don't talk about it or read it, it's more so like an accountability thing. So every month from here on out, I'm going to, whether it's in like a separate episode, I drop on a Thursday or another on a Tuesday. I don't really know, but I'm going to release like a

book of the month, like guys at book club. haven't really thought of a name yet. If you think of anything creative, let me know. but I want to stay accountable with reading and I want to bring you guys along the journey of reading with me. So I picked the first book that I think a lot of us will benefit from. And it came from one of my coworkers recommended it. And the reason I'm picking it is because something I talked about a while ago was not

being really good at budgeting or with money, which I think a lot of us in our early twenties are all struggling with because like when you come into money and you have money from work, probably a lot of it goes toward rent and probably a lot of it goes toward food. And then some of it goes toward going out and costs and like other costs of like electricity and wifi and like you budget for all these things. Personally, I'm not so great with money and I really want to get better with it. Another one of my big goals for the year.

So the book I picked is called The Psychology of Money and I started listening to it on audiobook yesterday and I'm like 10 minutes in. If you want to, I'm inviting you to read it alongside me. I will send 10 copies to... I don't know if I can even do that. That just came out. I don't even know how to do that. Let me see how much it is on Amazon before I commit to that.

Josh Felgoise (14:57.614)

psychology of money okay i will yes it's cheap i will send maybe maybe i'll do five yeah it tends like a lot maybe five people i'm gonna do five people so the first five people to comment like something no no we're doing it like this we're doing this we're doing this we're doing this the first five people that send me an email

to my email, can use either email josh at guyset.com or advice at guyset.com. The first people to send me an email about a topic they think should be talked about for guys in their 20s, so a topic that would be really good for this podcast, I will send those first five people a copy of the book and then we can talk about it. can get your feedback on the book if you read it. I hope you do.

And yeah, so we'll read it alongside each other and then like maybe have a conversation about it. I don't really know how I'll do that. Maybe I'll do like video chat with people individually or I'll just ask you guys to like send in your feedback or your take on the book and I'll just like read it out loud for an episode. So I don't know how it's gonna work like a one person book club with other people online. But I want to start it. I think it'd be fun.

to do and will also be a way to keep us accountable for reading. you have any books that you think I would like, please let me know. And my email is josh j o s h at guyset gu y s e t dot com. I didn't say why I picked it. No, I did. I did. said because I to learn how to budget and be better with my money. And I think when you get into the roots of how you think about money, it becomes so much. Well, obviously, that's stupid. Yeah. If you think if you get into the roots, I think about it, it's easier to think about it. Yeah. Okay. Duh.

Let me read you the synopsis of the book. It's by this guy, Morgan Housel, M-A-R-G-A-N-H-O-U-S-E-L. And the synopsis is, here we go, here we go. Doing well with money isn't necessarily about what you know, it's about how you behave. And behavior is hard to teach, even to really smart people. Money, investing, personal finance, and business decisions is typically taught as a math field. No, as a math, reading is hard. Okay, hold on.

Josh Felgoise (17:12.467)

Money investing, personal finance and business decisions is typically taught as a math based field where data and formulas tell us exactly what to do. But in the real world, people don't make financial decisions on a spreadsheet. They make them at a dinner table or in the meeting room where his where personal history, your own unique view of the world, ego, pride, marketing and odd incentives are scrambled together in the psychology of money. Award winning author Morgan Hasel shares 19 short stories, exploring the strange ways people think about money and teaches you how to make better sense of one of

life's most important. I was so good until that point. It teaches you how to make better sense of one of life's most important topics. So I started reading the first short story and it's all these separate stories about people and how they think about money and their money stories. And I think it's really unique and a really cool story and really interestingly written so far. only like five or 10 minutes in, but I really like it so far. Like even the first page or so like really is very intriguing and I think you'll really like it.

So if you're a guy, you're a girl, whoever the fuck you are listening to this, if that was aggressive, I'm sorry. Whoever you are listening to this, if you are looking for a sign to start reading or want to pick up a new book and haven't decided what book to read next, use this as your like, let's do it. Let's why not? Let's all read this one together and we can all learn something from it. And then each month we'll do another book and it'll be this fun thing we can do. And maybe I'll have the author on that's like a huge aspiration of mine.

to after we read the book. We I mean, because I do mean we after we read the book, I'll have the author on to talk about it. I that'd be so fucking cool. So that's a big goal of mine with this book club. That would be such a cool like ending. So my goal is to have that guy on the podcast at some point and anybody else we have on as a author. So to bring this thing full circle, those are the couple of the resolutions or goals that I set for myself at the beginning of the year.

that I'm resetting or thinking of new and better ways to make them happen or actually make them happen in my life or in my daily life. And if you have similar goals, you can use these like methods or things that I talked about for my goals for your own as ways to like make them feasible in your everyday life. And the book club is a separate one I thought of and I would love if you're interested in it, if you want to do it and we can and we can make it happen. So

Josh Felgoise (19:32.462)

Follow the Instagram at the guys set T H E G U Y S E T for more details on the book club. And it's also I'll put it on a tick tock too. I made a, I made a page for my tick tock. It's guys set pod G U Y S E T pod pod. But yeah, like social media is a really great way to communicate about the book email as well. Josh at guys set.com J O S H at G U Y S E T.com. I'll also post on my website guys set.com.

I'll make a blog post about this book specifically and that'll be out this week as well. yeah, I'll put like links of how to buy the book. It's like the book is like $10 on Amazon for paperback. It's pretty cheap actually. So I think it's a great one to start with. And if you want to listen to it, audiobook it, you should because that's what I'm doing too. And if you want to read it, read it, do whatever is best for you. And at the end of the month, I will check back in and we'll talk about it and hopefully I'll have the author on that would be amazing.

Okay, so if you have goals for yourself, I hope you can figure out better ways to check in on them or reset them like I just did in this episode. And if you want to join the book club, there's easy ways to do it. Just pick up the book and email me or maybe I'll make a discord. I don't even know how to make a discord. Maybe I'll make a discord. Is that a better way to do this? What is discord? All right, this is enough. Thank you so much for listening to the guys set the guys guide to what should be talked about. If like this episode, I really hope you did please like subscribe, leave a review, give this episode five stars.

Give this podcast five stars at the top of the Spotify app or the podcast app wherever you're listening to this. Leave a review. Tell me, email me anything you want me to talk about that should be talked about for guys in their twenties to my email josh at guys at dot com j o s h at gu i s e t dot com. Pick up the book psychology of money to join the guys at book club and I will see you guys next Tuesday. See you guys.