Pickup Lines, Ex Photos, and Work Happy Hours: Dear Guyset

Josh Felgoise (00:00.206)

Welcome to Guy's Set, the guy's guide to what you should be talking about. I'm Josh, I'm 23 years old, and I'm here to find all the tips, advice, and recommendations for guys in their 20s. Let's get into it.

Josh Felgoise (00:18.019)

Hi guys, welcome back to guys set the guys guide to what should be talked about. Today's episode is the first of its kind, a new section, a new segment. I am calling guy set toolkit where you will ask me questions. It's like an ask me anything. I'm just giving it a fun title. You guys will ask me questions and I will answer them. And these are the types of questions that would not lead to a full episode, although they probably could. And if a question or so leads to me thinking that I can talk a lot more on it.

These are types of questions that I can answer in like one to five minutes. Don't need a full episode, but definitely need to be addressed because there are questions that you guys have for me that you guys actually sent in, whether it's through my Instagram story at the guy set T H E G U I S E T I'll do another one in like a month or so and you can send in questions there or you can send them to my DM or my email. Josh J O S H at guyset, G U I S E T.com. Josh at guyset.com for all the, these types of questions.

And people actually sent in questions. How exciting is that? I did tell some friends to do it. So it looked like there was more questions than there was, but, these aren't questions that I made myself. So I'm going back into my DMS and I'm just going to start by looking back at the questions. and I, everything's anonymous, of course. so feel free to ask any question anytime and I will make episodes like this and start answering them. So,

The first question that I am going to address is let's start with, this is a really, really, really good one. This is a good one. Okay. So somebody asked, should you leave up pictures from an X or with an X on your Instagram? Such a good question. This is a really, really good one because this is something that like a lot of people go through and they need to know. So here is my take. And this is why it's called the guy set toolkit because like these are like tools from your kit that you can pick up.

when you deal with something like this, if you deal with something with this, when you encounter something like this, and if you don't, then you don't have to deal with them. But I was thinking of calling it like a playbook or whatever. But then it's like, you have to do it this way. These are just options. These are things you can do, but these are things I recommend you do. So let's start with the Instagram question. And yeah, the question was, should you leave up photos with an X? So I think no, I think definitely not. You want other people to know that you're available.

Josh Felgoise (02:41.007)

So this was a guy and his ex-girlfriend, obviously not to give out names or identities. That's all. It's all anonymous. Ask me anything anonymously. And you know, I told him that he should archive the pictures and if you don't know what archive is, it's a feature on Instagram where you can, instead of deleting them so they're not gone forever, you archive them. Okay, hold on. Let me, let me go back.

So I first asked him a couple questions. was like, well, I first said, sorry, you broke up and like that sucks. and like asked if he was okay and if I could do anything or if you need anything. But then I asked the, this is like, we're talking about the question now. We had talked about the breakup before. So then I asked him like, is there a chance you're to get back together or are you thinking of getting back together or like having a conversation? And he said like, not in the near future, maybe like way down the line, but not in the near future. So if that's the case,

I say you delete slash archive the photos. If it is the case that you think you are going to get back together at some point soon, then I think you leave them up because you want, you don't want people to think that like you're just on the market. But if you're, if you're breaking up, like you want people to know you're on the market, like you don't want people to think your relationship. Cause then if another girl is looking at your Instagram or stalking you and she sees you're with this girl, she's not going to pursue you. So archive is this feature on Instagram going back to that, that

allows you to save the photo, but like in an archive that if you get back together, you can put it back up on your Instagram. It's not gone forever and it doesn't change. doesn't like the likes and the comments and everything stay. It just shows up where it was. So that's my tip for that. I think you delete if you really think it's never never to get back together or you can archive or like if you do think you're gonna get together and like you're like fuck that bitch right now, then delete then.

cut it out and then you can always just like post the pictures that are opposed to new pictures. Like it's not that deep. It's Instagram after all your social persona is not as important as your real life relationships and persona. So like yeah, that that's the advice. That's the advice. Okay. The next question is my best pickup line and you know, thank you for asking. That's so nice of you since I have so many good pickup lines. You've listened to my last episode how to talk to girls at the bar.

Josh Felgoise (04:59.855)

I gave actually like really bare minimum, bare minimum advice. One of my friends told me that the advice I gave was just go talk to them, which is really, really asinine advice. I'm so sorry, but that's what I was going through at that time. And that's the advice I had to give because like at end of the day, I am not that good at this either, but I am a 20 year old guy going through this with you alongside you. And I'll tell you what I'm going through. Um, and

I was at that same bar again this past weekend and I didn't talk to anybody and you know what I decided? It's the bar. It was the bar. Okay. Because I went to another bar the next night and I did talk to a couple of girls, but I think it's because I changed my confidence a bit and I changed my outlook on the conversation. But also like some places are just more conducive for like flirting and conversations and some just like aren't like this was a like kind of like sportsy like there's like shuffleboard and arch archery.

Darts and like pool and like maybe that works for you. That's not for me I need like a more like dancey vibe to flirt or like go talk to a girl. So I decided that that was the bar so I want to shift this question a bit and say like if you're struggling to talk to girls at a bar and I'm adding this in because I know that the let that last episode like wasn't my best and after listening to it I listened I listened back like before I put it out like if you're wondering like

Damn, does he just like speak and then just put that shit out? I do listen to it. I did realize that there wasn't a lot of great advice in there, but that's what I had at the moment. And I've, I've progressed in the past couple of weeks. I've, I've learned more. I've changed. I've had conversations with people and I do have a best pick up line, I will say like, think about where you are when talking to that girl. Like if it's a bar like that, that like is

more like what you're with your friends. Like maybe that's not the right place to go try and like have a conversation. Like maybe your vibe is that dance to your bar and that works better for you. So think about the place as well when, when talking to girls at a bar, a bar is, too, too broad of a, like region bar. Okay. So best pickup line, the line that, a girlfriend, girl friend, not girlfriend girl that is a friend.

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gave to me over the past weekend. So we were talking about it. listened to the podcast and she was like, that was not, not, not your best. And I was like, okay, that's fair. Like I need constructive criticism. That's great. but she, and I was like, okay, so then what, what, what game do you have? Like what, what do you appreciate when guys woke up to you? Like what works? And she's like, what works is when a guy asks a question or like starts like a little like debate. So here's what she said. She said, when a guy walks up and says, Hey,

I'll be the guy not I'll be the guy asking the girl. Hey, can you settle a debate between me my friend? What movie is better Shawshank Redemption or Good Will Hunting? That works. Okay, and then I tested it to prove it I tested it on three different girls the next night. I did I was actually talking to them I wasn't just like doing this for the podcast. I'd Yes, and no I wanted to see if the line would work it did it actually was so successful because

Every time and here's why here's the little psychology why is because it starts a conversation because then if she was with her friend or you're what you walk up with a friend they have two friends and you ask the other friend and like it's a conversation you're like you don't think that good will he's better than just like make shit up you don't think good will how he's better than Charles Shack redemption and she's like no I was like why I haven't seen either those movies in so long like I don't even like know I genuinely I don't think I could tell you the plot of good will hunting if you had a gun to my head right now but I

I've never even seen Shawshank Redemption now that I'm thinking about it. I know the ending with the rain scene, spoiler alert. I never seen it, but I got that conversation rolling and I was like, you don't like Shawshank? that got the conversation going. Then I was like, hey, I'm Josh. Nice to meet you. What's your name? What are you drinking? Like blah, blah, blah. Then we started talking. So that is a way in. So think of a good question. It doesn't have to be settle a debate or maybe it's like, my friend and I were talking about what is the best bar in New York or like.

What food is better? Like what's your favorite pizza spot? Like my friend that I can't decide between whatever Joe's and Shamo's. It doesn't matter. Like think of something that will start a conversation. That was good advice. Thank you to that girl slash girl that is a friend. Okay. The next question is, somebody asked about work happy hours and that triggered something in me when I looked back at this and I am going to make a full episode on that because there are so many different things that go into a work happy hour.

Josh Felgoise (09:40.69)

That you don't think about but I need to break that down in a full separate episode But the question was how many drinks do you have at a work happy hour? I love that question It's really smart and it's like a good thing to think about and it shows that you're thinking about it. So thanks for asking I would say two to three max and this work happy hour, by the way I'm like it's a blanket state and work happy hour. This is like if it's with

the entire company or it's like a holiday party or an upcoming Halloween party, something like that. If it's, if the CEO is there and your boss is there and people that like you could definitely say some bad shit in front of are going to be there, like stick to two to three drinks. You don't, I know it's free and like free alcohol is so fun. I'll be the first to say it, but, shout out my cousin's wedding that I actually blacked out at, but it's so important not to like,

be an absolute mess, especially if in your first or second year at a happy hour, like you don't need to do that. If you want to go get drunk later, go get fucked up with your friends at a bar later, have a couple of drinks there, but they're they're conversational drinks. They're not like drinking to get fucked up drinks. Drinks at a work happy hour, a big work happy hour are conversational drinks. So you're holding it, you're sipping it, you're not chugging and like, so stick to two to three is my rule of thumb.

I would say two because three then I start to get a little like, yeah, it depends how much I eat that day, but like, shit can get, she can get kind of wrecked if I have more than three. But if you're just with your buddies and like, or just like with your team and like the vibe is to go drink a lot and get fucked up by all means that this rule is there. What I'm saying right now is just for like a big happy hour. Okay. Great question. The next question. baby. We have our first question section.

Okay. And this new section is called, how often do you wash such a good question? The person asked, how often do you wash your sheets? And we need to talk about that. And I could probably go into a full episode on this, but like, let's just air it out quickly. How often do you wash your sheets? Great question. Not often enough. Not often enough. I would like to say that I, I wash them every two weeks, but that would be a lie. And I'm not here to lie to you.

Josh Felgoise (12:02.418)

So it can be more than that it shouldn't be but it can be I'd love to lie and say that it is it's it's a two-week rotation I I'm so good about it am lucky in New York that I have a washer and dryer in my apartment and I definitely could do wash more especially because it's there that doesn't mean I'm going to I'm still lazy fuck so a rule of thumb is that like if I have gone out over the weekend and like was like super sweaty or something and then slept in that bed like

That's getting changed. If not the next day, the day after like, let's be realistic the day after that's getting changed. so on like Monday or Sunday, like I will make a concerned effort, concerned effort to wash those sheets. if I've had somebody, if I've had a girl over in those sheets, they're getting washed. Okay. Like let's not be disgusting. Okay. if, if I have like rode the subway and like,

Sat on the subway and just like had a dirty night I'll think about it. I probably won't but I'll think about it if I've gone to the gym now I always shower after the gym. I would say a good rule of thumb is every Couple weeks couple meaning two two and a half. That is the time in which you should be washing your sheets I also have a duvet cover and I couldn't tell you the last time I watched that duvet fuck

Has it been a no, it can't have been a year. I don't know. I don't know. I'm going to move on from that. I hope it's not a year. I don't even know how do I wash it. Do they cover my supposed to do wash your comforter? I don't know. Don't judge me. Okay. So that's the first how to wash. How often I say how? Yeah, I said how often do you wash? How often do you wash your sheets? Now? How often do you wash your pants? It's a great one. How often I wash your pants? So not a lot. Not a lot.

I will say I wash my pants if I get something on them if I get like if I spill my whole lot and I spill a lot if If you know me, you know, I spill so if I spill some of my pants, I will wash them I'll like use that use that tied to go stick And I will scrub that bad boy in there and then I'll throw them in the wash But if there's nothing on them and it's a pair of jeans. I'll wear I'm a good five five to ten no Maybe five to five to eight times like

Josh Felgoise (14:29.232)

I usually wear like a couple pairs. I'll rotate them throughout the work week throughout the couple work weeks and then I'll wash them all together. So like four to five wears for like jeans or like work pants. I think that's fine. Let me know if you disagree with me, but I think that's fine. If you're listening to this and you're like, Jesus, that guy is disgusting. I'd love to know because I don't mean to be disgusting. Just know every other guy is too. I think, I think, I think. Yeah, I think.

I think we're all gross. Okay. The next, often do you wash is your work shirts. Now I work at a startup, so I wear a lot of like t-shirts and like sweatshirts and what it's, it's very chill what you wear where I work. so if I'm wearing a t-shirt, I'm washing that every single time. I'm not going to wear a t-shirt, but if I'm wearing a button down, which I know a lot of people listening to this are working out like corporate jobs and are wearing button downs. I think it's every

couple times, so like one or two. But like in the summer it gets sweaty and if a shirt gets sweaty, it's done. Wash, throw it away. It's not another wear. So rule of thumb, if you sweat, wash. Period, end of sentence. No and ifs or buts. And if you don't wash after you sweat, you're disgusting. Okay.

The next, how often do you wash? wait, I think that's it. I think that's all of them. If you have more, often do you wash is I'd love to do another one. Sheets, pants, work shirts. Ooh, pillowcases is a separate one, but I think I wash them with my sheets. I know some people will watch the pillowcases separately and be like, that's clean enough. Like the sheets can last longer, but pillowcases like I have realized that if I leave pillowcases on for too long, like sometimes I can get like acne from.

Cause like if you're sleeping with greasy hair or something and you're getting your face all over it. So maybe wash your pillowcases a little bit more often than your sheets. Or just wash your sheets more often and don't be fucking disgusting. But that's all of us. Okay. So that's the end of the how often do you wash section. I was very excited about that. If you can't tell. Love a good question section. Okay. Somebody asked what should I be for Halloween? I'm going to think about that. I don't know.

Josh Felgoise (16:56.6)

okay. So I think an easy go-to is your favorite TV or movie character. That's current. So I'm not saying you got to dress like Sansa Stark, but I like, I don't know, Spider-Man, Iron Man, and an Avenger is always a good one. Let me Google, hold on. What should I, what should.

Josh Felgoise (17:24.71)

guy 20s. It's a hard question. It's coming up soon. Okay, this is Playboy Hugh Hefner, if you want. It's a good one. Dracula? No, no, no, no. Okay, okay, okay. Here we go. And maybe I'll read an article about this, put it on my website. this is a good one. If you watch The Bear, be the chef. Be the bear. That's a good one. Get a fucking apron, get a white t-shirt, maybe pump some iron.

And there you go. Bear. That's a good, that's a really good one. people, a of people are saying Ken. It's another good one. Um, Mario and Luigi, my friend and I did that one year. That was stupid, but like easy. You can, it's cheap. Um, Ted Lasso. That was a fun one. I did that for Halloween one year with a couple of my friends. I was Jamie Tart, you know, of course. Um, another friend was Roy Kent. Uh, and we had one of it, one of our girlfriends, um, did, uh, his beard with like,

makeup, some sort of makeup. That was funny. So Jamie Tartt, Roy Kent, the coach and Ted Lasso and someone was Keely. That was a great costume. So Ted Lasso is a good one. Kind of irrelevant, I guess now. A pilot, Willy Wonka. Forrest Gump looks funny. Let me keep looking. A shark? Stupid. Shrek. Shrek's always funny. Be Shrek.

You could always just do some stupid funny pun. So was a whiteboard one year, that got the crowd going. And I wore a white t-shirt and had a bunch of whiteboard markers on me or Sharpies and people wrote shit on me. You could also say that's a yearbook, that's funny. And people can write like hags or some little yearbook message. Something punny always works, it's good for a party.

Last year my friends and I were Breaking Bad and we wore like the full hazmat suits. Don't do that. Don't wear something that you can't go out in. That's my biggest tip. And I'll put a couple more costumes together, maybe do like a little guide as an astronaut. But first and foremost and lastly as well, all of the things above, don't wear something you can't go out in because you will sweat and you will look like a buffoon, a sweating buffoon. So be comfortable when you're going to go out.

Josh Felgoise (19:49.984)

And if that means a lesser costume, sacrifice it. It's okay. People don't give that much of a fuck what you're wearing on Halloween, especially now that we're like literally 23 years old. And if you have a girlfriend, do, I don't, but you could do like a cute couples costume. I'll put together some couples costumes. Look out for that on my Instagram and on the website, guyset.com. okay. Friend costumes are always fun. Find a couple of friends. Hopefully you have a couple of those and you can.

put that together. Okay, what do we have next? I got a DM.

Somebody asked me what are the best condoms. That's a good one. And I think we should do a whole episode on like, or I will do a whole episode on like sex talk and condoms and stuff. But for me, it's the Trojan blue ones. They do, they get the job done. I haven't really tried a lot of other ones. I just found those when I first bought condoms and they worked really well and they didn't break. those are the two criteria for a condom. One,

They don't break to did they follow the first rule? What else is there? You know, like that's the point. And I guess STDs, but that's the yeah, both. Uh, did it break and did it protect you stay protected? So I use the blue Trojans and I think they work well. Um, how do you budget going out versus saving money? I don't know. And I'm very bad at it.

but I'm gonna try and put together an answer for that. So there's an app called Mint, I think. I don't use it, but I a couple friends that do. Mint.

Josh Felgoise (21:48.272)

Yeah, Mint Intuit that can, I'm gonna start using it because I really should. it's like, I looked at my last credit card statement and I was like, fuck. Because I just, it's hard when you don't think about what you're spending compared to what you're bringing in. But Mint Intuit is a budget planner app, not sponsored. You know, I'd love if they could be. if Mint, if you're listening or,

If some guy who's listening works at Mint or some girl who's listening works at Mint, you know, hit me up. I'm available. I've given my email a couple times in this episode already. But it's a budgeting app and you can track all your expenses and all your finances and that's a really good way to budget. But I think another good way is to just like balance going out and to dinner and cooking. So if you're going out to dinner once or twice a week and cooking the rest, I think that's great.

picking places that are within a reasonable budget. Going out on dates is really hard because you want a budget but you also want to go meet people. So I think picking places to go get drinks that are like not too expensive for drinks. I picked one date spot and I got there and I didn't, I hadn't looked at the menu and they were $18 cocktails and I was like, holy fucking shit. And the date didn't go well. It was one of the dates I talked about and it didn't go that well. And I ended up spending like $75 and I was.

really upset because first of all, the date didn't go well. And second of all, like that's a lot of money for a date. and she got a second drink and without like consulting and, and I guess I had to as well. And you know, it's a lot of money for a, for a bad date. So definitely look at the menu for a date before you go out or like look at like the drinks, and like make sure that they're like within your budget. but balancing cooking and going out, balancing, finding, affordable like date spots.

and yeah, just like keeping track. I think that's the biggest thing, like keeping track of what you're spending. So, obviously the biggest expense for everybody who's in an apartment or out of college is rent. So keeping track of rent food, going out and like budgeting. like putting, I may have to, I may do a whole episode on this cause that's a really good topic. and I've already gone off a little bit about it. So I'm going to do whole episode on this that'll come later, but I think, like,

Josh Felgoise (24:15.068)

Setting aside money for each thing so money for going out money for food money for dates money for rent Of course and budgeting it that way. That's how I look at it, but I'll do a whole episode on that. That's a really good one. Okay the next question is rank Donna Kelsey scale of 1 to 10 and Donna Kelsey is everybody's mother and I it would be It would be a disservice to her tent

Tana Kelsey, 10. Next question, are you getting the new iPhone 15? Yes, I will be getting the new iPhone. The current iPhone I'm holding, if you're watching on YouTube or see a clip, I am holding an iPhone 11 and it's time. It's been a minute. This one's slowing down as they all do when they get old and it's time, so yes. The next question is, what is your skincare routine? Great one, thank you for asking.

This is also something that guys don't talk about enough and I think I'll do a whole episode on it I'm gonna try and get like a dermatologist on to talk about Skincare and guys skin care but to be fully transparent with you I didn't wash my face until like a year ago and that's gross and like I'm sure there's a lot of guys right now who are listening to this like I still don't wash my face. I don't know the hell you're talking about like I Just like put water on my face and like I was like, okay, let's call tonight You know what mean? Like I I didn't

think that I had to like put face wash on or moisturize or all this stuff that like typically girls do, but also guys need to be doing because we also have skin and we also have a face. so I, my routine and I'll make a video of it and I'll put it on Instagram, but my routine and tick tock my routine is I wash my face every night. I use cold water. I just read somewhere a while ago that cold water is better. So I use cold water and

I, water my face and then I put on the cleanser or face wash, whatever you want to call it. And then I water that off, dry my face, pat that dry. And this is kind of hard to explain, so I'm going to make it a video. It's much easier. And then I moisturize and then I go to bed and that's my skincare routine. So it's like just two things that I do. and if I have like a big pimple or acne, I'll use acne cream.

Josh Felgoise (26:40.092)

And I'll make like a list or a link of all these things as well that I use or things that like I recommend you use as well if you want to get started. But if you don't wash your face right now, that's OK. Like don't don't panic. Oh shit. I should have been doing that for so long. That's fine. Like you have to learn somehow. I think I was on my sister and she's like, you don't wash your face. I was like, like, yeah. OK. And was I supposed to? She's like, of course you were. OK, shit. Well, now I know. So have to learn somehow. So if this is how you learn, great. Like I did something good.

for the people. there are a couple more questions, but I'm going to save them for the next guys set toolkit episode. And yeah, send in any questions you want me to talk about like this and I'll do another one. This was really fun. I liked doing this a lot and I'll answer like five to 10 questions per episode. I'll try and do one of these per month. So yeah, please send it anything. As I said, to my email, josh at guys set.com to my Instagram or tick. Excuse me. I actually choked.

to my Instagram or TikTok DM or just message me. And yeah, like I'll include the answers and I hope you liked it. I really liked doing this. That's the episode. Thank you so much for listening and send in your questions. Hi guys, thank you so much for listening to the episode. If you could just give me a few more minutes of your time, I would really appreciate that. For those you that don't know, I'm Jewish and I have been deeply affected by what's happening in Israel.

The goal of this podcast, as you know, is the guy's guide to what should be talked about for your 20s. So I'm always going to be talking about lifestyle, fashion, wellness, health, dating, relationships, fashion and skincare and so much more. But I also really want you to be educated on all the things that should be talked about in general. And that includes what's going on right now in Israel. So just a quick TLDR, a terrorist group Hamas attacked many innocent Jewish people on Saturday morning.

mass murdering, kidnapping, so many innocent victims. There are over 900 innocent lives lost, over 2,000 people critically injured, and over 100 people that are currently kidnapped by Hamas. Now, I know politics are nuanced in that region, but what is not nuanced is how people are being treated in Israel right now. I have been absolutely paralyzed by my phone this past weekend, and last night I did not sleep at all. I had one of the worst nightmares I've ever had.

Josh Felgoise (29:03.936)

and it was about the rave which Hamas used to attack and kill over 260 people and kidnap tons of victims. Those people were our and were our age. They're in their 20s. They were there to have a great time. It was a concert. I can't stop thinking about those people that were there and...

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