I love advice. I love advice of all shapes and sizes and forms, but I especially love life advice. I love hearing somebody say, Here is what I wish I knew when I was younger, or here is what I wish I knew in my twenties that I know now.

I love graduation speeches. I love TED Talks. I really love advice of all forms. I also love giving advice. I love sharing the advice I have learned that has worked for me, that I have applied to my life, that has really helped what I do and helped me in different situations and different scenarios that I have applied that has like really benefited me. I just love advice. I love sharing it, I love giving it, I love receiving it, I love all of the forms and

I think that life advice hits really differently. I think that when you're in a place to receive a certain piece of advice, it can really, really hit. And I thought it would be a fun idea to explore some of the life advice that I've come across online and then share my perspectives on it, or what I think of it, or what I want to add to it, or what I would change, or what I think is good, or what I think.

Isn't so good. Just give you all of my thoughts on each piece of advice. So I have compiled eight to ten pieces of life advice that I have found on the internet that I'm gonna share with you and then share what I think of each of those. I did this for the first time last month. It's called Life Advice from the Internet. So this will be Life Advice from the Internet Part 2. And I did this for the first time with career advice. I wanna do this as well with like dating and relationship advice.

And with mindset advice and all the different kind of pieces of advice I can find, because I think it's a fun way to bring in other people's perspectives and different people's opinions and what they have to share and then what I want to share based on those. I think it's kind of a fun way to like spark what I'm thinking in different ways and what I want to share with you in different ways. last week's episode sparked so many different things for me. I got like a bunch of other episode ideas from what I said in it.

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And I also got really great feedback on that episode specifically. So I wanted to do a part two of that. I also had a running list and still have a very big running list of lots of other pieces of advice that I want to explore and talk about further. that I think will like hit differently. And I think you, depending on what stage you're in or what phase you're in, or what you're dealing with right now, what you're going through, what you're working through, what you're trying to figure out.

I think depending on where you are right now, one of these pieces of advice will kind of hit really differently and deeply. And I think it will help you and affect you and hopefully make whatever you're dealing with, whatever you're going through, whatever you're trying to figure out a little bit easier or a little bit lighter, or feel a little bit less alone. And I think that is kind of the goal of life advice is w to

kind of take something in and like really let it sit and let it kind of like seep in and be like, shit, yeah, like that that is exactly what I needed right now. Or that is what I was looking for. Or I didn't expect it to come in that form. But yeah, that is exactly what I want and what I'm looking for and w what I needed to hear today. And my hope for this episode is that you can take at least one of these with you in the rest of your day and the rest of your week. And then you can come back to this episode and hopefully find a different piece of advice or hear something differently. Cause I really think

You can hear something so differently when you're going through something differently, or when you're in a different place in your life, or a different moment in time. So I think that you can hear one of these today that it has a very deep impact on you, or not at all, and come back to this episode another time and be like, that was amazing advice. That is exactly what I wanted to hear. So I'm gonna get into it and give you maybe eight to ten pieces of advice, and then give you my feedback on them, and then hopefully.

or not hopefully, I guess, because I'm the person in charge of this, but I will come back and do this again and again because I think there is no shortage of life advice online. I think the hardest part is trying to figure out what is the best or what can work and what is what you need to hear today. So hopefully I can kinda kinda help parse through that for you and alongside you, and that you can take something valuable away from this episode. So let's get into it. The first piece of advice is

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Put your phone down every once in a while and enjoy your life. That is such good advice. I think that I need that advice. I think that I'm on my phone constantly. I think that it's something that is a part of what I do, and it's a part of our day, and I think it's a part of everybody's day to a fault. I think that we wake up with our phone, I think we go to sleep with our phone, we go to the toilet with our phone, we go to poop with our phone, we go to the shower with our phone.

We bring our phone fucking everywhere. We bring it on dates, we bring it on out, we bring it here, we bring it there, bring it to the bar, we th it's all it's a crutch, it's a companion, it's kind of everything all in one. And I think that this is a really good piece of advice because we do need to remind ourselves, as unfortunate as that is, and as kinda like sad as it is at this point, like we do need to remind ourselves to put our phones down and enjoy life and to get back to the present and be where your feet are and

Put your phone away. Put your phone in your pocket. Enjoy the people you're with. Enjoy the time you have. Enjoy the the company you're in. Enjoy whatever you're watching. I think that there are so many things that like we don't like. We watch TV and we have our phone on us and we're scrolling in. We watch a movie and we scroll. We are walking on the street and we're on our phone. We're at work and we're on our phone. We're just always on our phone. And I think that like the best kind of reprieve of this or the best kind of solution to this.

Is to set aside time throughout the day where you're like, I'm gonna get off my phone. And as crazy as that sounds, and as much of an addiction as that sounds, I think that's something that's like pretty common and universal right now is that everybody needs to like take time away from their phone. As sad as that sounds, like realistically, I think that we are all glued to that shit. Me very, very much included. My screen time is through the roof. I was gonna show you what it was, but I don't wanna look, to be honest with you. I just think that.

Setting aside times, I think that waking up and not checking our phone is like the best thing we can do. I think putting our phone down in a way before we go to bed and not scrolling on it at while we're in bed when we wake up, first thing, last thing. Like I there's this thing that happens when you go on your phone right away before you even open your eyes. Like a I I I a lot of the time wake up with my phone. Like I open my eyes at the same time as I scroll, and I'm like, hey, like here's all these notifications, here's this, here's that, here's la la la.

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And it's it sets your brain from proactive to reactive. Like instead of being able to think about where you are right now, what you want to do today, what you have to do today, what you want to accomplish, what you need to get done, you're immediately thinking about how to respond to all of this shit. You're immediately thinking about what this person needs from you, what you have to do to for this person, what you need to respond to this person, what this person said to you, how that person said to you made you feel, what that did, what that did, like.

You're immediately thinking about all these other things before you've even woken up out of bed. And I think that is a really good place to start is not going on your phone when you're in bed in the morning. And then as a kind of counterpart to that, not going on your phone at night. And I am speaking directly to myself when I say this, by the way. Like, do not think I am excluded from this because I am probably one of the worst proponents, worst advocates. I don't know, not an advocate, but I'm a I'm a very big participant. I'm the one of the worst participants in this.

I think that's a good place to start and then kind of see how that affects you. I think that throughout the day as well, like whenever you're with friends, try to put your phone away. Like you're with your friends for such a short amount of time when you are, like put your phone away. When you're on a date, or when you're with your girlfriend, or when you're seeing something, put your phone away. Like those are moments that the phone does not need to be out. I also think that when we are in public, like

And we're somewhere that we don't know someone or we're a little uncomfortable. We go to our phone as a crutch, we start scrolling, we scroll through literally nothing to like make ourselves feel a little bit better. I think that's a good place to also practice putting your phone away when you're walking into a room, when you're walking into work, put your phone in your pocket. Like these are all places that it's really important to be present because it kind of it's the same thing as that morning thing. Like you're setting yourself from proactive, like able to respond, say hi to somebody, shake someone's hand, say I'm Josh, nice to meet you.

be present, be like active and reactive and like be able to like respond to this and answer to this without being like, sorry, and like distracted and like in three worlds at once. So I think that it's like a there's so many elements to this. And I think this is a very big piece of advice, as good as a piece of advice I think it's I think it's like a huge piece of advice because it's every single element of our day. So I think kind of pinpoint the place or pinpoint the moment that you think would help you most. For me, I think it's morning and night.

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Because that's how I start and end my day. And then I think the rest of it is things I could work on too. Like I actively work on putting my phone away when I walk into a room instead of having it in my pocket. I think this is a great piece of advice too. Like put it in your pocket, like get it out of sight, out of mind, so that you can't even go on it or check it or see something when a notification pops up. Because you when you see a notification, you're gonna check it. So put it in your pocket so you literally can't do that when you're walking into a room, when you're walking into a party or a pregame or a

bar or your office, two completely separate things, but applies to both. to a meeting, to a like just in kind of any room, practice putting your phone in your pocket. And I think that will help you be more present. And I think you will see its effects immediately. I don't think it's not you have to wait to be like, did that work? I think you'll be like, yeah, that fucking worked. Like very quickly and see how it has a positive effect on you. so

Kind of find the area that you think would help you most and then go from there. But I think ultimately this is a great piece of advice. We all need to be more present. We all need to be a little bit more off our phone. Put your phone down every once in a while and enjoy your life. Enjoy your life is a great piece of advice too. We should all enjoy our lives more. The next piece of advice is what's paramount today is a footnote tomorrow. That is and that is like wisdom shouted from a roof. I don't even know. Like that is like

What's paramount today is a footnote tomorrow. The thing that you are feeling so deeply and so intensely and so painfully today will most likely not matter tomorrow. That is my man's plenation of what that is. And I think that is true in almost every scenario. I think there are a lot of scenarios, or in a lot of scenarios, I think a lot of scenarios where this isn't true. and the things that are hurting or bogging you down or making you feel bad or

upset or whatever, will continue into tomorrow and maybe even the next day. But with time and with being able to figure out how to handle them better, figuring out how to live in that, you will get better. What's so intense today will feel less intense tomorrow is another good way to say this. The thing that is like really intense today will start to feel less intense and less intense and less intense as the days goes on goes on as the days go on.

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As you learn how to live with it, as you learn how to live in it, as you learn how to navigate it, as you learn how to handle it. I think this is very true. And I really think that will help somebody today. to tell yourself what's paramount today is a footnote tomorrow, or what is so heavy today will feel lighter tomorrow. The thing that is heaviest today will feel less heavy tomorrow. I love that.

I I wouldn't really change a thing about it. The next piece of advice is if you're feeling down, drink a glass of water, take a shower, go for a walk, and then see how you feel. I think that this is also a really great piece of advice. I think that this is something that you can do in almost every scenario when something feels so heavy and so like.

That like when it just feels like it's like the world is crumbling down around you, or you have no control, or you're not in the driver's seat of the car of your life, and you really feel like you're a passenger and you feel like so everything is so far out of your control. Take a drink of water, take a shower, go for a walk, and then see how you feel. I think that I've said this a lot of times on here, like getting outside, getting out of the thing that feels like it's ruining you.

And just like getting into where everybody else is, getting fresh air, going for a walk, getting out, like will make you feel better. I I really do believe that. It may not make the situation go away, but it will make it feel less intense and less heavy and less like it's the only thing that's going on in the world and it's like the biggest thing ever, and that you're gonna like blah, like getting outside will help you feel better. I very, very much believe in that.

I also believe in taking a sip of water. I I haven't done the shower thing, but maybe I'll add that in. drinking water and going outside, like that's not, it's like it's like the solution to all of your problems is drinking water and going outside. No, that's not what I'm saying. But I do think they make them feel lighter and less intense. I think that when you do those two things, like your body, there's gotta be some sort of science there that like when you have water, like your body cools down. I think that's probably it. Maybe not. Scientists, you feel free to weigh in.

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and when you go outside and you get fresh air and you like take a deep breath, you just feel better. Take a deep breath and drink water. Like you will just feel a little better. it will not make everything go away, it will not solve all of your problems, it will not solve the world's problems, but it will make your problems feel a little less heavy and a little bit lighter. The next piece of advice is: if you're going to wear cologne, go a little more expensive and don't wear too much. Yeah, I completely agree. I think that.

Cologne lasts for so long. So if you're gonna buy cologne, buy a cologne that's a little more expensive because it's going to last you for a pretty long time. Like the one I had in college lasted me for like all of college. And the one I've had in like out of the city that I've I I've had for like almost a year now, and there's still a lot left in the bottle. Because realistically, you're using like a spritz on your wrist, maybe a spritz on your

You rub that on your neck, you do like a spritz on here, you run through it a little bit, you jump through it, like you do whatever to get like a little bit on you, and don't wear too much of it because you want it to be like a subtle scent and not like an overpowering, like, my god, it's nice to meet you. You know, like you don't want that. you want them to be like, you smell nice, you know? Like if you're going on a date and she's like, wow, like he smelled great. Like that's such a win. so you definitely want that, but you don't want her to be like, I z.

I can't breathe. Like you don't want that. So don't so don't put on too much cologne. wear a subtle amount. I do a spritz on the wrist that I rub together. I know that's like not the proper thing. You're supposed to like pat it or something. I don't know. I do a spritz on the wrist, I rub it together, and then I rub a little on my neck from the wrist. And then I like spray in the air and I like run and jump like I like high jump through it. or I'll just like spray like one on my body and I'll go. And that's it. And that's probably even more than you're supposed to do. So the fact that you use like one or two spritz of it.

That's gonna last you like years. So knowing that this is gonna last you years, invest in a good scent that you're gonna, you know, like and want to put on you, and you're gonna want people to smell on you, smell you. I think that the best way to find a cologne is to go to a store and like test a bunch, because they smell differently on each person. So like you could actually enjoy the scent when you like smell in the air, but if you put it on your wrist, it's gonna smell differently than it might on somebody else. that is just like a fact.

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It's not I didn't make that up, but like that is the truth. So like go try them or like order one of those like tester kits and like try one every time you go out. But realistically, I wear them I wear like cologne when I go on like a date or I'm going out or I'm going to something nicer or fancier. And like even to work, you could wear cologne. Like if want to smell good. but like I I really just wear it to go out, and I think that's a normal way to wear it. So invest in one that's nicer and

That you're gonna want to wear because it lasts for a long time and don't wear too much of it. The next piece of advice is: it's not hard, it's just new. I really like this one. It's not hard, it's just new. I think that this goes alongside what I was saying about what's paramount today is a footnote tomorrow. It's not hard, it's just new.

It feels really hard. It feels like the most intense thing. It feels like it's weighing you down. It feels like it's impossible. It feels like you're never gonna be able to figure it out. It feels like you're never gonna able to handle it because you've never encountered it before, because it's the first time you're dealing with it. I think that this is like a good mantra for your 20s. I think this is like a good mantra for any time you're in something new or figuring something out or in a new place or in a new scenario, in a new job, in a new relationship.

You will figure it out. It will get easier with time, but it feels impossible. It feels like you're not gonna be able to get it through it or figure out how to handle it because you've never done it before. When you've never done something before, when you've never actually like had to encounter something or figure out how to navigate it or figure it out, it feels really hard. And that's in everything. So it's not hard. It's just new. I I wouldn't change a thing about this one. I think it's a great piece of advice. The next one is where sunscreen.

I think that we forget this one a lot, especially as guys. Like we j we're like, like fuck this no, like the sun is gonna get us the same way it's gonna get everybody. So, wear sunscreen, not just in the summer. I've learned that recently. The fact that I haven't learned that until I was like 25 is kind of crazy. you should wear sunscreen every day. Isn't that crazy? Like it's also a fact you should wear sunscreen every day. I think this is more of a fact than advice, but I think it is good advice because everyone forgets about it.

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the sun's really powerful and when you're walking around outside, it can still affect you at any time. But like but I I'm not great about this one, to be honest with you. I should be better about this one. Everybody should be. Skin cancer is no joke. I don't know how this episode became anything about skin cancer, but the advice is wear sunscreen. and I think that is a good piece of advice. We all forget it all the time. if you didn't know, you're supposed to wear a sunscreen in the winter time too. You're supposed to wear it all the time on your face. and you should like I don't like not like

So so you look like Larry the lobster from Spongebob and you have like a white streak on your nose, but like you are supposed to wear sunscreen all the time. I don't know why nobody tells us that, but here I am to tell you that. The next piece of advice is let me unlock my phone. Do the thing that takes it to what

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Do the work that it takes to be good at something. There are no shortcuts. I really like this one too. I think that this is kind of a lesson or a piece of advice in discipline. I think that, you know, the kind of theme of a lot of these pieces of advice is that like when you start something for the first time, it's very easy to give up on it.

It's much harder to continue it and it's much harder to follow through with it and like trudge through the mud of whatever that thing is, whether it's something you're working on or working towards or you want to solve, or it's a self-made situation that you're trying to figure out or build or create, or it's something in your life that is bogging you down or pushing you down or making it harder to do what you do.

Whatever it is, it could be really like both sides of that. It could be something that this advice I think specifically could apply to w something that like you want to see for your life, you wanna create, you wanna make, you wanna start, you wanna do. And it can also apply to the thing that is like making it harder to do what you want to do, the thing that is on your mind, the thing that is making your life more complicated, more whatever.

Do the work that it takes to be good at something, there are no shortcuts. That applies to both of these things. Do the work in both of these avenues because there are no shortcuts. There is no way around this. You can't go above it, you can't go over it, you can't go on the side of it, you have to go through it. And I'm being purposely vague with this one because I want it, similarly to a lot of the other pieces of advice, to be able to apply to anything and everything. I think this is one of the one of these pieces of advice that you could hear and be like,

Wow, yeah. I I there there are no shortcuts. There is no way to make any of this easier. You do have to put in the work. Whether it's with your own mentality and in your own life and in your own relationships or with the people you have in your life, or whether it's with yourself and with what you're doing and what you want to do, there are no shortcuts. There is no way to make any of this easier. You have to do the work every single day. You have to put in the work. You have to go through it. You have to struggle through it. You have to

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trudge through the mud of it in order to get to the other side of it. You just do. And I think this is something that a lot of people don't like because it's like one of these like these big like truth bombs that is just fact that there is no way around anything. You have to do the work to make it happen. You have to do the work to get through it, to get to the other side of it, to make anything better, make anything easier, make anything lighter.

Do the work that it takes to be good at something, there are no shortcuts. The next piece of advice is it's okay to spend more time figuring yourself out. I think that in our 20s, we feel like we're in a rush to figure ourselves out. We feel like there is something at the end that we are running toward that if we don't get there, we've lost the race.

Or if we don't accomplish it, if we don't find it, we don't figure it out, we've lost. There's no winning and losing. Like this is a never-ending run. This is a never-ending walk. This is a never-ending race. There will be times at which you are stagnant. There will be times at which you are sprinting. There will be times at which you are walking. There will be times at which you are flying forward. There are different paces for different kind of times in your life.

And there is no one size fits all to this. There's no one pace. There's no one right way to move or way to go or way to kind of traverse any of it. It's okay to spend more time figuring yourself out. There's no timeline on figuring yourself out. There's no timeline on figuring it out. I will go as far to say there is no figuring it out. There's nothing to figure out. There is just what makes you happiest.

And what brings you the most positivity and the most joy and the most value and the most excitement and the thing that propels you forward. Like there's nothing to figure out, there's nothing to solve. The only thing to solve is how to make your life better, how to make the people around you's life better, how to make sure your relationships are great and you feel good in what you're doing and you feel like you're adding value and you feel like you're excited and you feel like you're moving forward and you feel

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Like there is something that you are waking up for. And that is all we're figuring out and working toward. And at some point, the thing that you have figured out and have worked so hard toward will no longer feel as good as it did at one time. And then you'll have to do it again. And that should be something that excites you, I feel like. I like the prospect of always having to work towards something, or working for someone, or trying to

gain respect of someone or be valuable at something or figure out a skill, get really good at something, hone in on something, be the best at something, figure something out, work through something. I think that is exciting. I think that makes life exciting. That makes your days exciting. Figuring things out makes you feel good. Getting good at something makes you feel good. So I think the only thing to figure out is how to keep doing that.

Throughout your days and your weeks and your life. The only thing to figure out is how to keep doing that again and again. because it will get tiring or boring or stagnant at some point or another. And then you have to shake it up Chicago again. And then you have to redo it again. And I think that should be something that is more exciting than daunting, or I hope it is at least. And it really is okay to spend more time figuring yourself out because

That is what we have time for. It's figuring ourselves out, figuring out what we want to do and who we want to be and what we want to become. I think that is something everybody should be striving for and working toward. It's okay to spend more time figuring yourself out.

The next piece of advice is try not to waste life worrying about the future. We're here now. That's about the only thing we know.

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Some of these are really good. I yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I don't I don't know what I could add to that that could make that any better. Try not to waste life worrying about the future. We're here right now. That's about the only thing we know. I think this one is really hard, honestly. I think that it's really hard to not worry about the future. I think it's really hard to stay present. I think this is a really nice.

Unintentional bookend to the first piece of advice I shared today. Put your phone down every once in a while and enjoy your life. That's kind of the one side of it, and the other side of it is try not to waste life worrying about the future. We're here right now, that's about the only thing we know. Boom! Like bookend that smash everything between it. It's learning how to be present in the current moment.

And it's learning how to not be focusing so far ahead and on the future and what's next and what's to come and what we're doing next. Knowing that today is the most important day we have. Knowing that today is the only time that matters. Knowing that what we do today will have the greatest impact on tomorrow.

Knowing that tomorrow is not guaranteed, knowing that tomorrow does not exist, knowing that today is the only day that counts. Knowing that today is the biggest and most important thing that matters. Try not to waste life worrying about the future. We're here right now. That's about the only thing we know. I think it's so important to use what we know, what we have right now, where we are right now.

Be present in where you are, create from where you are, do from where you are, start from where you are, not from tomorrow, not from the next day, not from next week or next month or next year. None of that's guaranteed. None of that's guaranteed. So why are we always so far ahead? Why are we always thinking so far ahead? Why are we always so worried about what's ahead? What's next? What's to come, what will happen when this happens, the scenarios we create in our head about what will happen when this happens.

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Why are we so caught up in that when the only thing that matters is today? I think that is where I want to leave you with this episode. I think that is an amazing, transformational, transcendent piece of advice. Try not to waste life worrying about the future. We're here right now. That's about the only thing we know. It is really hard to not think about the future. I know that firsthand. I can speak on that from my own experience. It's really hard not.

To think about the future and worry about what's next. I think that's why I like that this piece of advice is try not to waste life. Try not to do that. Knowing that you inevitably will do that, knowing that it is very human to do that, knowing that it is something that we are like programmed to do, be anxious about, be worried about, be thinking about the future and what's ahead and what's next and how we're gonna handle that and what we're gonna do when this happens and that happens and da-da-da-da-da.

I like that this piece of advice is formatted with try not to. And I think that this is important because we get hard on ourselves when we're in that kind of cycle or feedback loop of worrying so much about what's next and what's ahead. Come back to trying not to. Don't be mad at yourself for doing it. You can start again. You can try again. You can try not to again. Try not to waste life worrying about the future. We're here right now. That's about the only thing we know.

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