When to Text a Girl After Getting Her Number
Stop overthinking it. There’s a simple answer, and it’s way less complicated than you think.
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Guyset
Sep 16, 2025
Good Will Hunting
Every guy knows that awkward moment after you get her number.
You walk away, open your phone, and freeze.
Do you text her tonight? Tomorrow? Wait a few days?
You don’t want to seem too eager, but you also don’t want her to forget you exist. This is the kind of moment we all overthink — which is why I wanted to answer it on Guyset.
“This is a question every single guy has had at some point in their life.”
The short answer: text her the next morning
If you met her at a bar, assume she knows you’ve been drinking. You’re not at your most charming at midnight. Wait until the next morning when you’re clear-headed and intentional.
“You should probably text her the next morning because if you’re at a bar, the assumption is that you’ve had drinks and you’re not going to send the best message at night.”
Your first message doesn’t need to be clever. It just needs to sound confident and direct.
Try something simple:
“It was so nice to meet you last night. Would love to get drinks this Thursday.”
That’s it. No overthinking. No pretending not to care. Just start the conversation.
When you can text her that night
There’s one exception: energy.
If the vibe is strong and the conversation flowed, you can text her that night. You’re not being too eager — you’re matching momentum.
“If you want to tell her to meet you at the next bar or keep the night going, then you can text her that night.”
Just make sure the text has context:
“Hey, it’s Josh from [bar name]. You should come meet us at [next bar].”
That way, she knows who you are and what the text is about.
What not to do
Don’t wait two days to “play it cool.” That doesn’t make you mysterious. It makes you forgettable.
“You shouldn’t hold off so long that it’s 6 p.m. the next day and you’re making her wait for nothing. There’s no need to play a game like that.”
And don’t send something random at 2 a.m. that you’ll regret reading back. Texting is about clarity, not strategy. You’re not proving confidence by waiting — you’re showing uncertainty.
Confidence comes from intention
The right timing doesn’t matter as much as the reason behind it.
If you text with intention, you’ll stand out. Most guys are either too aggressive or too vague.
“The next morning when you wake up sometime before the afternoon rolls around is a really good time to send that ‘so nice to meet you’ text.”
That kind of text shows you’re thoughtful and present — and she’ll pick up on that immediately.
FAQ
Q: What if she doesn’t text back?
Then she’s not interested. Don’t take it personally. Send one text and move on.
Q: What if she texts me first?
Match her energy. Keep it light and natural.
Q: What if I forget the next day?
Just own it. “Sorry, yesterday got crazy — still want to grab that drink?” Being real always beats being perfect.
And last but not least
Texting isn’t about games. It’s about showing you mean it.
Reach out when you actually want to, not when you think you’re supposed to.
“The next morning is my recommendation.”
You’re not trying to win a texting strategy. You’re trying to make a connection.
Read more in How to Know If She’s Actually Into You, What to Text After a First Date, and How to Stop Overthinking When Someone Ghosts You.
