I'm starting a new job today so here are my tips for a new job, going into the office, networking, making connections, how to act in an office setting, and so much more.

Your First Week at a New Job: How to Set Yourself Up for Success

Originally shared on the Guyset podcast - a guy's guide to what should be talked about

You're the New Character in an Already Successful Show

Starting a new job feels nerve-wracking because you're essentially joining an established team with existing dynamics, relationships, and inside jokes. Think of yourself as a new character being introduced in season three of a successful TV show.

At first, the audience (your new coworkers) might think, "Who is this guy? Why is he here?" But if you play your cards right, by the end of the season, you'll be a series regular that everyone loves having around.

People need time to warm up to you, and that's completely normal. Your job is to prove that you belong there and add value to the team.

Managing Pre-Job Nerves

Let's be honest: starting a new job is scary. Even if you felt confident during the interview process, reality hits when you're about to walk through those doors for the first time. Here's how to handle those nerves:

The Night Before

• Write out your fears and doubts: Get all those anxious thoughts out of your head and onto paper. Seeing them written down makes them feel less overwhelming.

• Address each concern: Go through your list and challenge each fear. Most of them are either unrealistic or things you can improve with time and effort.

• Lay out your clothes: Don't add morning stress about what to wear. Pick your outfit the night before and have it ready.

The Morning Of

• Get some movement in: Go to the gym, take a walk, or do some light exercise. Physical activity clears your mind and boosts confidence.

• Hydrate: Drink plenty of water. It sounds simple, but being hydrated genuinely affects how you feel and think.

• Pick a hype song: Choose a song that makes you feel confident and play it right before you walk in. This isn't just feel-good advice - music can actually shift your mental state.

First Impressions That Matter

Lose the Headphones

Don't wear AirPods or headphones when entering the office, using elevators, or in common areas like kitchens. This makes you seem unavailable and closed off from conversation. You want to appear open and approachable, especially in your first few weeks.

Put Your Phone Away

Resist the urge to scroll your phone as a social crutch in awkward moments. We all do this - pretending to check something important when we're just feeling uncomfortable. But in the office, this makes you look disengaged and unapproachable.

Show Up and Leave at the Right Times

• Arrive around 8:50 AM: This shows you're punctual without being awkwardly early

• Leave after your boss: Let them set the precedent, at least initially. You can adjust this as you get more comfortable

The Coffee Chat Mentality

One of the best ways to build your network and understand your new workplace is through informal one-on-ones. Be proactive about asking colleagues:

• "Want to grab coffee for 30 minutes?"

• "Do you have time for a quick chat about what you do here?"

• "Can I take you to lunch and pick your brain about the company?"

Most people enjoy talking about their work and sharing advice. Don't wait for others to reach out - take the initiative.

Great Questions to Ask

• What projects are you currently working on?

• What's something you're excited to work on in the future?

• What do you like most about working here?

• What should I know as someone new to the company?

• What advice do you have for succeeding in this role?

Building Relationships Through Lunch

Lunch is one of the most underutilized networking opportunities. Ask teammates where they like to eat and suggest going together. This gives you uninterrupted time to get to know people beyond work topics.

Don't feel like you need to wait for invitations - being proactive about lunch plans shows you're eager to be part of the team.

Say Yes (With Boundaries)

In your first few weeks, say yes to:

• Projects, even if they're not directly related to your role

• Meetings, even if you're just observing

• Optional calls or presentations

• Team events and happy hours

This shows enthusiasm and gives you more context about how the company operates. Just be sure to maintain reasonable boundaries - you don't want to overcommit and burn out immediately.

Read the Room

You don't need to be a completely different person, but do gauge the office culture before:

• Making jokes (save the edgy humor for when people know you better)

• Speaking up in every meeting

• Being too casual in your communication style

Let people get to know you gradually rather than overwhelming them with your full personality on day one.

Follow Up After Conversations

After coffee chats or meaningful conversations, send a brief follow-up message:

"Thanks for taking the time to chat today. I really enjoyed hearing your perspective on [specific topic]. Looking forward to working with you more closely."

This three-sentence format works well:

1. Thank them for their time

2. Reference something specific you discussed

3. Express enthusiasm for future collaboration

Don't Be Afraid to Speak Up

Remember: you were hired for a reason. The company is literally paying you to be there because they believe you'll add value. Don't stay silent in meetings just because you're new.

If you have something to contribute, share it. Ask questions when you need clarity. Give your opinion when it's relevant. You're not there to be a yes-person - you're there to contribute your skills and perspective.

Company Social Events

If your company has happy hours or social events:

• Attend them - they're important for relationship building

• Don't drink too much, especially in your first few weeks

• Use these as opportunities to have more relaxed conversations with colleagues

The Long Game

Your first few weeks are about:

• Learning the company culture and how things get done

• Building relationships with colleagues at all levels

• Understanding your role and expectations

• Proving that you're competent, reliable, and a good team player

Don't put pressure on yourself to master everything immediately. Focus on being curious, helpful, and genuine. People appreciate someone who's eager to learn and contribute.

Remember Why You're There

When imposter syndrome hits (and it will), remind yourself that you got this job for a reason. The hiring team saw potential in you. They chose you over other qualified candidates. Trust their judgment and trust yourself.

Starting a new job is always nerve-wracking, but with the right approach, you can build strong relationships, establish yourself as a valuable team member, and set the foundation for long-term success.

Take it one day at a time, be yourself, and remember that everyone was new once. Before you know it, you'll be the one welcoming the next new hire to the team.

Josh shares more insights about career development, workplace relationships, and navigating your twenties on the Guyset podcast. New episodes drop every Tuesday with practical advice for guys building their careers.

Starting a new job soon? Save this guide and remember: you belong there. Take it one conversation, one day, and one week at a time.

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